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What to do..work and sahm

bubble515bubble515 member
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I posted last week about daycare and my lo needing 1:1 care due to some issues. Due to only having 2 weeks to find a sitter i was forced to extend my leave for the rest of the school year. When telling my asst principal he was supportive. I gave them a letter frim pedi. I expressed my concern about having my job in sept and was told i have his support, have him in my corner, good worker etc. i met w my principal who was seemed to support it on the surface. When discussing next year she did not say yes or no but rather lets see how lo is doing come may and discuss it then. Her condition will be outgrown by a year old. She then said the door is always open for visits and i do my job well.

Im in panic and being stuck in the house with the cold weather is making it worse. My mind is racing about whether or not i have a job. My asst principal spoke to me about this may thing and said theres a loyality to me in his eyes since ive been there. Suggestions? Being cooped in is also making me depressedin a way bc i have no adult interactionwas looking forward to going back to work in a way,
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  • kateraidkateraid member
    I'm confused... What did you need suggestions on?
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  • bubble515bubble515 member
    How to not think about work and wondering if im getting let go... Esp since im cooped in the house without much adult interaction to keep my mind off of it
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  • mamaHippo23mamaHippo23 member

    Are you under the impression they don't want you to come back? It sounds like you are going by what you think they're saying instead of what they actually mean. If you are this worried about it, I would ask for another meeting and make a specific plan with your principal for when you're coming back. Ask them what the policies are for taking leave and if they honestly think they will have a position for you when you come back.

    If you have already agreed to go on leave, then I would just do it. Staying home with LO for a year will not be as bad as you think. Yes, not everyone is made to be a SAHM but if that is what's best for your family right now then I'm sure you can make it work. Get yourself involved in mom's groups and make it goal to get out of the house at least once a day. Volunteer a few hours a week or maybe you can do a little babysitting on the side. Just saying, there are ways to make staying home more enjoyable and when LO is older you can go back to work if you want.

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  • LittleFish1LittleFish1 member
    It sounds to me like they're trying not to overpromise. As with any school, they cannot predict enrollment for the next year and that is why they are unable to give you a definite answer.

    Regardless of the outcome, you'll be at home until then. Library story time, neighborhood or church play groups, invite friend over for lunch so your LO can stay inside where it is warm.
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  • bubble515bubble515 member
    My job there isnt impacted by enrollment bc its needed regardless
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  • Eastie156Eastie156 member
    imagemamaHippo23:

    Are you under the impression they don't want you to come back? It sounds like you are going by what you think they're saying instead of what they actually mean. If you are this worried about it, I would ask for another meeting and make a specific plan with your principal for when you're coming back. Ask them what the policies are for taking leave and if they honestly think they will have a position for you when you come back.

    If you have already agreed to go on leave, then I would just do it. Staying home with LO for a year will not be as bad as you think. Yes, not everyone is made to be a SAHM but if that is what's best for your family right now then I'm sure you can make it work. Get yourself involved in mom's groups and make it goal to get out of the house at least once a day. Volunteer a few hours a week or maybe you can do a little babysitting on the side. Just saying, there are ways to make staying home more enjoyable and when LO is older you can go back to work if you want.

    This. Also, maybe it's an anxiety issue? I know when LO was first born, he had a MPI and relux and it was so anxiety inducing-constantly going to the Dr., trying to deal with being a first time Mom, etc. I overthought and over reacted to everything. It was tough. I'd schedule the meeting with your principal and be honest and ask honest questions. Not knowing is only going to make you feel worse. Also, I think you should schedule a visit with your Dr. to make sure what you are feeling is normal and not something like PPD or PPA.


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  • bubble515bubble515 member

    i  think i am overanalyzing now and am anxious because i wasnt expecting that response from her so im worried.i n our meeting i was specific and the response was that it was premature to discuss until may/to see how baby is doing/contracts come out in june.   i can see her point because i was extending my leave the week before i was supposed to go back..so how can i possibly talk about sept . plus her mind is no where near contracts. .  the pedi is the one that suggested 1;1 care for now, so i dont think it was me totally overreacting. . i am looking into mommy and me things that will help keep my mind off of this

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