Twins plus one more

laura&michael · February 2013

Our twins will be 3 years old in May. We are thinking about trying for baby #3. I would love to hear about your experience if you had twins and then a singleton. How difficult was it with another baby and toddler twins?

karo112 · February 2013

My twins will be 3 when we have baby #3 - so I'm interested in these answers too

JordynLeighx3 · February 2013

I'm curious as well. Also makes me wonder why their hasn't been any replies in two days. Maybe that is everyone's way of saying DON'T DO IT! LOL

jlefief · February 2013

I have the opposite - my older DD was 2 1/2 when the twins were born. It was hard, no lie. But I have to say that my older DD was at least at an age where she could follow directions. She was actually quite the "helper". I gave her tasks she could handle. Like I washed all the bottles and laid them on the counter and she would assemble them. She would pick out their clothes, "help me" pump. I could even set a baby in a boppy and she would feed it while I sat next to her with the other one.

So I really think that 3 is a great age. Yes they demand attention, but at least they will understand direction and you can get them involved and make it fun for them. 2 babies screaming at once while trying to handle the toddler was insane. At least you can have baby in an Ergo or carry it around everywhere, you know MoM's are already pros at doing things one handed. :-)

karo112 · February 2013

I am hoping that what I'll have going for me is that the singelton will SEEM like a breeze given how hard the twins were. They weren't even hard babies...but twins are just...hard!

gault530 · February 2013

I will have the opposite once these two are born (DD will be four), but I would imagine a singleton will seem like a breeze in comparison to twins. Also, three is a good age as they can understand and you can reason with them about the needs of a baby.

My mom has always said to me that you'll never regret having more kids, ever. It may be hard for some time, but it's not something that you wish you didn't do.

LucyRicardo3 · February 2013

RWMomma:
I have the opposite. My singletons are 3, almost 2, and the twins are 4 months. It is hard, I won't lie. BUT, it is worth it. I would do it all over again the same way too. If you want #3, I would say then do it. If you wait until the "right time" then you never will.

I couldn't agree more!!

BananaPancake · February 2013

Well....I have three DDs - 5, 3 and 1. We conceived the twins when DD3 was 10m. I would imagine having twins and then one would be pretty easy, considering what I know about kids entertaining each other. The twins are the hard part for us, just trying to care for two babies at once. The girls are pretty much on auto pilot, really, the only time things get chaotic is when the babies both want to eat at the same time. The nights are long, but that's having ten-week-old twins. Nights with one were never hard for me, because we just coslept and nursed. If you have your twins on some semblance of a schedule, you'll be good to go. Funny enough, when I see these posts I think, "Man, only three?" It's a matter of perspective. It sounds overwhelming now, but three would be the new normal, just like 5 became that for us. You can absolutely handle it, I promise!

alice2Bcheshire · February 2013

We have the opposite (DS was 26 months when the babies were born), and I keep telling DH that having toddler twins and a baby would be just as crazy in terms of general manageability, but so much easier when getting out and about. Instead of wearing a baby and putting an infant seat in the shopping cart while DS rides (or loading up the BJCS and pulling a cart behind me), we could use a double cart and I could wear the single baby. Our car (GMC Acadia) would fit two FF car seats and an infant seat much better than the one FF and two infant seats fit.

Also, after twins I imagine a singleton would seem like a breeze

megs2011 · February 2013

I imagine a singleton after twins would be a breeze. Maybe one day, down the road we might consider 1 more.. but not till the girls would be around 3 when the baby is born.

laura&michael · February 2013

Thanks for all the replies. I have not posted on here in a very long time, but I appreciate all the advice and opinions.

Gemelli · February 2013

Well, I have boy twins turning five next week, boy twins turning two tomorrow and a fetus boy who is 30 weeks inside, so it's a different situation. Today, for example, I felt like getting in the car and driving to the other side of the continent. But then they all insisted in getting in the tub with me tonight and it made it all better. It's really hard, but good. But really really hard.

sunnybrook. · February 2013

My son was born when the girls were 23 months. A singleton after twins is a piece of cake. I am so glad I had the experience. Feeding, bath, appointments, etc. was not at all stressful. I was able to hold and cuddle him whenever I felt like it. It was wonderful.

The girls welcomed him without any jealousy or behavior problems. They were already used to sharing my attention. They were also old enough to be able to play together when I nursed.

It is hard. I don't sit down most days and I constantly struggle with the fear that each child is not getting enough of me. I think most moms probably experience that though.

If I was 10 years younger, I would probably consider a 4th

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