Need Some Advice.

pinkfrostinggg · February 2013

Just found out a few days ago that I was pregnant, estimated my due date and it comes up as Oct 24 2013, what I am wondering, is should I even go back to my OB? My last pregnancy was a m/c and it left me literally fearing the hospital that my OB works in. We do not have set OB's at my hospital. And they are not on call. So when I went in because I was spotting, to the ER, they did not take me to the OB floor, all the doctor said to me was "I do not see a heartbeat, are you sure you were pregnant and not imagining it?" I told him I had an ultrasound to prove it. So then he said to me "Well guess it died, let it pass and you will make another." Well days went on, and I started to pass 3 weeks later, and I was literally passing masses, so I went in because I passed out, and had the SAME doctor, he ended up almost killing me. Should I even bother? The hospital is 15 mins away...he other nearest two are each 35 minutes from my house...would you make the trip or just deal? I am so torn at this because I am so scared I might lose this baby too...

Jasmineeelizabeth · February 2013

Have you thought about getting a midwife?

That sounds so awful, I would not be going back to such an insensitive Dr. I'm sorry you went through that.

Try to stay positive, just because something terrible happend in your last pregnancy doesn't mean that it will happen again. ((hugs))

JocelynB0911 · February 2013

I am so sorry you had to go through that. I personally drive 1.5 hours to see my doc and go to the ER. The ER that is 20 min away from me nearly killed me and I have tried to stay away ever since. Granted I think it is one doctor that I fear the most because he is an insensitive prick but the other 2 ER docs are just gems. I started spotting last week and went in on my doctors say so (he didnt want me to drive all the way up there since we pretty much knew why I was spotting but wanted to make sure it wasnt anything else) and I had an amazing experience. Still, I wouldnt ever doctor in general there. Still bitter about the whole near death experience.

ANYWAYS, it seems like you have some anxiety about going to this place and I really think that either a midwife or just going to a different hospital would be your best bet. I know the extra 15 minutes may suck but it may be worth it. I do think you should seek OB care to make sure everything is on track though. My t&p's are with you.

katiebenes · February 2013

35 min is COMPLETELY acceptable to drive. that doctor has BAD bedside manner. I would not go back to him.

You should be able to make it to the hospital no problem... there are women in the more rural areas that the closest hospital is an hour away

pinkfrostinggg · February 2013

Jasmineeelizabeth:
Have you thought about getting a midwife?
That sounds so awful, I would not be going back to such an insensitive Dr. I'm sorry you went through that.
Try to stay positive, just because something terrible happend in your last pregnancy doesn't mean that it will happen again. ((hugs))

I thought about a midwife and looked into them, and where I live, there are none in my area. I live in semi-smallish town. But if one ever comes to this area, you can bet I will take a midwife over anything. Thank you

pinkfrostinggg · February 2013

JocelynB0911:
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I personally drive 1.5 hours to see my doc and go to the ER. The ER that is 20 min away from me nearly killed me and I have tried to stay away ever since. Granted I think it is one doctor that I fear the most because he is an insensitive prick but the other 2 ER docs are just gems. I started spotting last week and went in on my doctors say so (he didnt want me to drive all the way up there since we pretty much knew why I was spotting but wanted to make sure it wasnt anything else) and I had an amazing experience. Still, I wouldnt ever doctor in general there. Still bitter about the whole near death experience.
ANYWAYS, it seems like you have some anxiety about going to this place and I really think that either a midwife or just going to a different hospital would be your best bet. I know the extra 15 minutes may suck but it may be worth it. I do think you should seek OB care to make sure everything is on track though. My t&p's are with you.

Thank you, you are right, idk, I guess I am just nervous. I know I have a son already and that should be blessing enough, just a lot of pressure has been put on me to deliver him a sibling, so it's like I do not want to make a bunch of mistakes...but I want to feel comfortable going to a hospital.

pinkfrostinggg · February 2013

katiebenes:
35 min is COMPLETELY acceptable to drive. that doctor has BAD bedside manner. I would not go back to him.
You should be able to make it to the hospital no problem... there are women in the more rural areas that the closest hospital is an hour away

Yeah, he does I cannot wait until he retires, but he prolly won't. I am from a rural area, so I know women can make it, I just like nearby that is all. But maybe it is time to see someone who might care a little more then the hospital I normally go to.

Wedding on the Beach 2008 · February 2013

Wow that is terrible. So sorry that you had tat experience. 35 min is totally fine. If you have another option I would totally do it.

PrimRoseMama · February 2013

I'm very sorry for your loss and the complete lack of sensitivity by that doctor.

I would consider switching OB practices. Look around your area or ask your insurance if you can have a list. Do you know any other moms or other women who have good reviews of their OB practice?

I would rather make the trip half and hour to an hour for a good, sensitive, compassionate ob/midwife than go to a Ahole near by.

Compassionate care is high on my list. Naturally, right up there with competency, but if my doctor is unpleasant and I fear going there then that is just jacked up.

I would make the switch.

Wishing you a healthy pregnancy PgAL and a happy, squishy fat baby in October!

JMU_Bride09 · February 2013

I drove 30 minutes to my OB last pregnancy, so I think that 35 would be fine, especially for peace of mind.

pinkfrostinggg · February 2013

Well everyone. I did some asking around to all my cousins and family members that use to go to my hospital, that do not anymore, and I found a great doctor who is willing to monitor me and make sure everything goes right. I meet with him later this week, and then again on March 15th =] Thank you so much for the advice. On the plus side to delivering farther away from home is, my husbands brother will not have to drive as far to see the baby.

Want a personalized experience?

Need Some Advice.

Re: Need Some Advice.

LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:

Choose Another Board

Search Boards