Need Advice - DH Traveling for Work

Dragonfly1226 · February 2013

DH has been away for the last two days on a business trip. So I just put DS to bed after my second day of taking care of DS all by myself, and I am exhausted. Not just exhausted, but my back, legs, and belly all just hurt. I am 24 weeks and I feel like the past two days were barely manageable. DH has to travel one more time this spring. I will be 28 weeks, and he will likely be away for four days. The thought of it makes me want to cry. We don't have an family in the area. We have friends who would probably be willing to help, but I feel so guilty about asking them. I think I mostly need help at the end of the day - dinner, bath, and bed time. My question is - do you think that I am putting the babies in danger by trying to do it alone at 28 weeks? Or do you think I should start lining up help now for the time when dh will be away next month. If it was up to him he would stay home, but he really has no choice.

lovemygs · February 2013

I would have a friend come help out with at least the evening routine. If you're uncomfortable now, in 4 weeks it'll just be worse.

28 weeks was about the time I became miserable. By 32 weeks I was a disaster.

Reilly626 · February 2013

At 28 weeks I was tired and swollen and they wanted me to stop teaching. I was forced out at 30 weeks. Can you hire help for those days?

Dragonfly1226 · February 2013

Thanks everyone. Guess I already knew that I can't do I alone again, especially a month from now. I just feel like I am complaining or being a drama queen by verbalizing it. I hate to be that person. I am sure we can line up some help while dh is gone. I feel better about it knowing that you all would do the same thing. It seems less like I am being a princess and more reasonable.

raraavis28 · February 2013

Dragonfly1226:
Thanks everyone. Guess I already knew that I can't do I alone again, especially a month from now. I just feel like I am complaining or being a drama queen by verbalizing it. I hate to be that person. I am sure we can line up some help while dh is gone. I feel better about it knowing that you all would do the same thing. It seems less like I am being a princess and more reasonable.

Don't ever let anyone....including yourself....make you think you are being a "drama queen"! I totally understand the feeling bc I'm like that too and always trying to "tough it out" but carrying multiples is HARD, especially, I imagine, when you have other LOs to take care of! Listen to your body and make sure to ask for help if you need it!

zombiemommy · February 2013

If you can line up help, I say do it. Do you need it? Who knows. But you don't want to be in the L&D wishing that you had just asked your friends to come over for a couple of hours. Better safe than sorry. Do you have family that could fly in to be with you & help?

QBall27 · February 2013

I can definitely relate. DH is going to be gone (across country) when I am 33 weeks. I commute nearly an hour each way to work and will have our 3-year-old to care for. I think we will likely be eating pre-made and/or (as healthy as possible) fast food in the evenings. And, though I usually have a long list of things to get done around the house when he is gone, that will not be the case this time! I agree that it helps to know others feel the same and I'm not just being wimpy!

Good luck

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