XP: Vent-Perspective & Semi Long

Re: XP: Vent-Perspective & Semi Long

• Wipz member

  February 2013

  That sucks .. maybe she needed benefits or something . 

  
  

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• addam&tara member

  February 2013

  Wipz:

  That sucks .. maybe she needed benefits or something . 

   

  She's working part-time, so there are no benefits. =(  

  

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• nunzchucks member

  February 2013

  I'd probably cut ties. I don't know what the "rules" are when it comes to inhome care, but I thought a two weeks' notice was pretty standard. Even though two weeks isn't enough time for you to find a comparable situation.
  
  Hopefully LO adjusts soon and you can find someone you like quickly. What a sucky situation

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• Mrs MoJoRisin member

  February 2013

  I can relate. I had someone coming in 3hrs a day, four days a week so I could get work done from my home office. She committed to us verbally that should be around for at least a year which was perfect bc of the new baby coming. Long story short after 8 weeks she informed us that she was taking a nanny position and had to give up all her other sitting jobs. She gave me two weeks, but I ended up calling and telling her not to come back bc I was so aggravated with the broken commitment.

  

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• aeh72 member

  February 2013

  I'm so sorry. I would be beyond frustrated (and angry) about her lack of notice.  Maybe I'm too forgiving, but an amazing babysitter is hard to find so I might not be inclined to cut her off totally - maybe she could still babysit for nights out, etc.? But, if I kept any type of relationship with her, I would express my disappointment in the way she handled leaving and make sure she knows what your expecations are of your relationship moving forward.  One more flake out and she'd be gone.

  Here's a slightly different perspective to consider too - you said she got a job at a daycare.  Do you know anything about the daycare she went to? If she's really great, would it be an option for you take your LO there, knowing they, too, saw her talent and skill? Maybe that's a good sign of their other staff members? Just a thought.

   

  

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• krispy83 member

  February 2013

  mrscjmb9410:

  I think for your daughter's sake, I would just see Jan one more time, obviously stay with your LO and even though she is so young, just explain that Jan is looking after other children now and it's time to say goodbye. Remind her that you and Daddy will always be there for her and that everyone who takes care of her loves her very much. Then I would have no problem cutting ties.

  Wow, I'm really sorry this happened.  Finding someone you like and trust to care for your child is difficult, even in the best-case scenario.. having to do it very quickly and under these circumstances makes it much worse.

  I agree with this advice.  It would be very difficult for me to see her again regularly without feeling hurt and angry about the position she put me in.  Good luck! 

     

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• addam&tara member

  February 2013

  aeh72:

  Here's a slightly different perspective to consider too - you said she got a job at a daycare.  Do you know anything about the daycare she went to? If she's really great, would it be an option for you take your LO there, knowing they, too, saw her talent and skill? Maybe that's a good sign of their other staff members? Just a thought.

   

   Unfortunately, the daycare she is working at is disgusting.  The kids who are there are always sick and not sent home.  

  They do not require certifications, degrees, etc to work there.  It's appalling to me, but I don't know much about daycare so I am forming an uneducated decision.  

   The first three days she worked there, one kid had hand/foot/mouth and they didn't send him home....Another had RSV, and another had a fever.  She had told me that the place is really dirty but she is hoping to make a difference.  

  I informed her that I spoke to my pediatrician and by working there she is also a carrier of all those things, so I can't have her back in my home.  To me, that is so foul.   

  

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• addam&tara member

  February 2013

  mrscjmb9410:

  I think for your daughter's sake, I would just see Jan one more time, obviously stay with your LO and even though she is so young, just explain that Jan is looking after other children now and it's time to say goodbye. Remind her that you and Daddy will always be there for her and that everyone who takes care of her loves her very much. Then I would have no problem cutting ties.

  I really like this idea.  I may just do this.  Thank you! 

  

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• aeh72 member

  February 2013

  addam&tara:

  aeh72:

  Here's a slightly different perspective to consider too - you said she got a job at a daycare.  Do you know anything about the daycare she went to? If she's really great, would it be an option for you take your LO there, knowing they, too, saw her talent and skill? Maybe that's a good sign of their other staff members? Just a thought.

   

   Unfortunately, the daycare she is working at is disgusting.  The kids who are there are always sick and not sent home.  

  They do not require certifications, degrees, etc to work there.  It's appalling to me, but I don't know much about daycare so I am forming an uneducated decision.  

   The first three days she worked there, one kid had hand/foot/mouth and they didn't send him home....Another had RSV, and another had a fever.  She had told me that the place is really dirty but she is hoping to make a difference.  

  I informed her that I spoke to my pediatrician and by working there she is also a carrier of all those things, so I can't have her back in my home.  To me, that is so foul.   

  That's too bad about the daycare. I think you are right about having to keep her out of your home if she's in that type of environment.  I give a pass to a certain extent on all the illnesses - my son's own daycare is super clean and various illnesses have affected almost every child this winter - but to not have a policy to send kids home who meet certain criteria (fever over 100, home for 24 hours after being put on antibiotics, etc) is shocking to me.  Plus, I would expect at least certain staff members (like the Director and head teachers) to have certifications or some type of early childhood education/development background.  Definitely sounds like a place I wouldn't want my child either.

  GL to you in your search for a new babysitter. I hope you find someone you and your LO love just as much and who is much more reliable.

  

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• MrsJetSet member

  February 2013

  Boo that's too bad. I would personally be too resentful to let her back in my house not to mention the illness she could bring with her. Dd's center is really clean, sends kids home all the time and the kids are all sick anyway. I can't imagine what it would be like if they just let the kids stay there.
  
  If you would consider a center at all I would talk to them despite long waitlists. I was quoted 18 mo waitlist for our center WTH?!? and dd still got in. I called every week to see her status and I think they got tired of me calling. Also, people on the waitlist are probably still expecting so spots may open without babies ready to take them.

  
  
  
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