Getting a little nervous about the last half of pregnancy

Sascha3 · February 2013

I am noticing some posts on here about how difficult it is the last half of the pregnancy for those with little ones. I have a one year old and am 15 weeks with twins. My husband usually leaves for work at 9am and gets home at 9pm at the earliest, many times 11pm. So essentially 5-6 days a week I am alone all day. She naps about 3 hours a day, during which I lay down as well.

Is this really something I should worry about? Has anyone done it alone and been ok with it? Or, if I get some help, how many hours a day is reasonable to expect to need someone?

This is of course assuming I don't go on bedrest, which I am very worried about, having a toddler. I had pre term labor with both of my pregnancies, 2 months modified bed rest with my first ( I was a teen with her), and 3 weeks modified bed rest with the second. Both pregnancies went to 40 weeks though. Do most MoMs need bedrest or are there some on here who needed none?

Reilly626 · February 2013

I wasn't put on bedrest but told to rest aka lay on the couch for 2 months. You may need help with a toddler.

angelfire02 · February 2013

I nannied 50+ hours a week for 5 kids ages 9,7,5,3 and baby. I worked up until 30 weeks. I was put on bed rest at 34 weeks for high blood pressure and delivered at 35.6 but I really think that me staying active helped me. I only gained 36 lbs total, and 12 lbs of that was at the very end when I was retaining an incredible amount of water. I don't mean to sound at all like I'm minimizing any concern you have, I'm just saying it probably won't be that bad.

I sat whenever I could and that baby learned to walk faster than the other kids had because I couldn't carry him everywhere. Rest when you can, sit when you can, and get help if you feel like it's too much for you.

zombiemommy · February 2013

My doc puts all twin moms on modified bed rest at 26 weeks, so basically I worked my job from my desk, and then spent the rest of the day in bed or on the couch. The third trimester was very hard physically. While I had few complications, I had a lot of trouble walking, taking stairs, standing up for any long period of time, etc. I stupidly kept picking up my friend's one year old until I was about 22 weeks pregnant, but I probably shouldn't have even done it for that long.

I don't have another kid, so I have no incite there. I just know I was pretty helpless in my third trimester.

Sascha3 · February 2013

My one year old doesn't walk yet, so I definitely do a lot of carrying and lifting. I'm sure she will walk within the next 2 months but I still need to lift her in her high chair, into the car, etc.

My last pregnancy I was really active. I stood 9 hours a day at my job, only sitting for 45 minutes at lunch. I was there until 34 weeks, when I had to do 3 weeks bedrest, then I went back from 37-39 weeks. So in my head, I feel like it will be the same and I will be fine, but from what I have read by most people, multiple pregnancies seem much different. I am currently a SAHM.

I have my adult daughter, who can help when she isn't working, and my husband has a huge family, but everyone works, so I am worried about being a burden to people who already have busy lives.

ShopperKristi · February 2013

I don't have any other LOs but I didn't go on bedrest at all. I worked up until the day I had the babies at 35 weeks (at a desk job though) and had no issues at all. I guess with your history of having to go on bedrest it might be ore likely but just wanted chime in and say it is possible to avoid it in some cases! Hoping for the best for you!

RGuy · February 2013

Hi - You and I are due around the same time. And I have a 1 1/2 year old and 3 1/2 year old. I have the same worries as you.

My doctor has already told me no carrying my girls around unless to put into the car, crib, highchair, etc. But I am no allowed to carrying her around for any reason.

But I do the same thing as you rest during nap time. I think that is the best we can do for now. I would just listen to your body.

I am right there with you.

my blog - www.fitformotherhood.com

Dragonfly1226 · February 2013

I have a two year old and am a SAHM. My plan is to take it one day at a time and to listen to my body and my doctors. Right now DS and I are usually out and about in the morning. We go to sing along or story time or to the museum, etc. So the morning is pretty active, but I try not to pick him up. Then at nap time I lay down the whole time. After DS wakes up from his nap we usually spend the afternoon at home reading books. I try to stick to the couch as much as possible. When DH gets home from work he is a huge help, and I am able to rest some more. It is working for now, but if I feel like it is too much we will reevaluate. Try not to worry too much now. Chances are you will want a little help later, but you have time to figure out what type of help is best for you. GL!

kohalamtn · February 2013

I am 33 weeks and still working full time as a teacher until spring break starts next week. I also have a 2 year old. I've had to really cut back in the last half of this pregnancy (I worked up until I gave birth to my son at 40 weeks with my last pregnancy). I have minimized all walking around, teach mostly from a sitting position and am totally wiped out at the end of the day. My husband is on toddler duty from the moment we get home to when my son goes to bed. I'd look into getting help, as I can't imagine chasing after a toddler all day at this point. But, everyone is different...

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