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Hoping I'm welcome here.

anncam424anncam424 member
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Just posted on IF veteran w/out reading the disclaimer. I saw veteran and thought "yep. That's me now."   Not realizing that u have to "know people".   So, yet more cliques. I get it why it's there, but it feels rude to not get support for infertility on an infertility board.  

 So my post was mainly about how difficult this whole thing is getting. More and more 'bad days' and friends getting pregnant one after another.  This seems to be my only option for those who understand these strange, conflicting feelings.  

 I don't have a signature up yet, but we've had a 3 yr road so far filled w/ lap, IUI's and now IVF's.  

 Thanks for listening.  

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  • J&D2007J&D2007 member
    Of course you are welcome here. If I may make a suggestion though. I wouldn't start by calling us rude and a clique. Many of us post on both boards and find that a little offensive. If I see your other post correctly, not a single person responded to your post or said anything even remotely rude to you. Someone kindly posted the rules so your feelings wouldn't be hurt. I am truly sorry if they were. You are very welcome here, these ladies are wonderful. The ladies on IF vets are incredible, I hope you never have to be there. 
    Me: 37, DH: 38: ttc 7 years, dx: unknown
    10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
    11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg),
    12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C
    6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P
    IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN
    IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN.
    IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN.
    IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal. Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen.
    10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015.
    Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue! Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
    Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
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  • anncam424anncam424 member
    Thanks. I wasn't trying to call names. I'm just looking for a supportive place to go.  Yes, I agree, I hope this wait ends soon.  
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  • LittleLady77LittleLady77 member
    Hi welcome. I'm sorry you have to be here. Infertility is horrible. 

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  • KatieRose09KatieRose09
    Sorry you have to be here.  I'm new here too, but welcome!
    TTC our first, both age 29 BFP#1 Twins, Missed MC with complications (long story) BFP#2 CP DX: DH-no issues Me-PAI-1 1/2013 Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove polyp and adhesions March 2013 IUI #1 with Follitism + Trigger
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  • megs3084megs3084 member

    imageJ&D2007:
    Of course you are welcome here. If I may make a suggestion though. I wouldn't start by calling us rude and a clique. Many of us post on both boards and find that a little offensive. If I see your other post correctly, not a single person responded to your post or said anything even remotely rude to you. Someone kindly posted the rules so your feelings wouldn't be hurt. I am truly sorry if they were. You are very welcome here, these ladies are wonderful. The ladies on IF vets are incredible, I hope you never have to be there. 

     

    Im one of those both board people.  I agree with all of the above.  

    "Everything will be alright in the end. So if it's not alright, it is not yet the end."
    Me:29 DH:29  TTC since 1/11 Dx: unexplained IF/early DOR/immune issues 
    Feb'12- July'12-testing(all clear minus slight arcuate ute), 3 IUI with clomid all BFN
    8/30IVF#1 Antagonist protocol- ER 9/11-8R, 7M, 5F. 
    ET 9/14 2 embies transferred. 1 10cell Grade 4, 1 8cell Grade 4. No frosties. BFN
    IVF#2 Antagonist protocol plus baby aspirin- ER 12/5-16R, 12M, 8F!
    ET 12/10 5dt! 1 fully expanded blast & 1 early blast. No frosties. BFN
    3/13 hysteroscopy & polypectomy, Consulted w Dr. Kwak-Kim.  
    DX: High NK cells, cytokines, DHEAs& PAI1;  hypothyroid, +APA, restricted bloodflow
    7/13 IVF#3 Long lupron protocol with PIO, Crinone, Prometrium, and vivelle
    (plus synthroid, metformin, baby asa, metanx, PNV, Vit E, D, calcium, fish oil, CoQ10, IVIg infusions and lovenox per Dr. Kwak-kim)
    ER 7/19 14R, 11M, 9F(4 natural fert, 5 with ICSI)
    ET 5dt 7/24 2 fully expanded blasts.  SURPRISE 3 FROSTIES!!!
    Beta #1 8/2 335!!!! Beta #2 829!!!  1st u/s 8/14 showed TWINS!!!!!
    11/11: TEAM PURPLE!!!!!
    3/21/14-L&W born at 37w via csection
    Here Comes the Sun Blog
    PAIF/SAIF welcome!
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  • jezebel57jezebel57 member

    don't take the post too personally, i checked out that board first because i have been dealing with IF since 2009.  I didn't post but lurked for a bit then saw they were very specific with who it was for, so I came to this board and have been welcomed with opened arms.  I know there are several ladies who maintain posts on both boards and are extremely helpful and supportive.  i hope that i will never have to jump over to that board but know that the support they give each other is much needed.  

    on this board it is mostly those who are doing IVF's or injectable IUI's.  I like that it is a variety because I feel it's just as important to be able to give support to others with treatments you may have tried already as it is to receive advice from those that have been there before.  

    i welcome you and hope your stay here is short.   

    Me (37) DH (39); PCOS changed to Unexplained, changed to DOR in 2012 (finally a correct diagnosis!); 
    Started TTC 2009 with RE after 6 months.  
    Clomid + Trigger x2; 
    IUI + Femara x1,
    IUI + Follistim x2;
    IVF #1 (MDL) February 2013- BFN.
    IVF #2 (antagonist) May 2013, First BFP of my life. 
    Identical twin miracle BOYS (!!) headed our way- due date is technically 2/4/14 but c section is scheduled for 1/7! 


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  • hoharrahoharra member
    I understand how you feel. I am also new to this board and was made fun of the other day for repling/ believing in someone else's post. Glad I'm not the only one feeling that way.
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  • firesirenfiresiren member

    A lot of the IFV ladies post here too...  They are great ladies, that I have learned a ton from.  You posted in the wrong spot, they directed you here, and this is the correct spot.  They were not being rude, we direct people to the correct board all the time.  Being on the correct board is helpful for you.    No harm, no foul.

     Welcome and good luck!

     36 DH 33 TTC for over 3 years
    First mini-IVF Sept 2011... Only 1 egg! ... BFN
    Switching RE
    IVF#2 May 2012 9 eggs and only 2 sperm, WTH!
    BFN
    IVF #3 March 2013~Tesa with back-up Donor Sperm,Tesa, unsuccessful used DS~ Chemical :(   

    Switching RE's within practice

    2 frosties waiting for us, November 2013!!!!!   Transferred 2 "average" blasts 11/20/2013
    BFP!!!!!!!  Boy/Girl Twins!!!!!! Due 08/08/2014

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    *~God gives his hardest battles to his toughest solders. Unknown.
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  • Cypress82Cypress82 member
    Welcome!! I got my hand slapped too the first time I posted on this board. I learned quickly that you just need to be careful how you word things. Everybody's experience is a little different. Since then though, I've had nothing but support and lots of ears to vent to. Welcome, and sorry that you're here Sad

    **TTC #1 Sep 2009-Feb 2013**   Me: 33 DH: 32 (healthy, SA = normal)

    DX (May 2010) = Lap #1 showed Stage I-II endometriosis. HSG normal. Tx with 6 mo Lupron (which did nothing...) Lap #2 June 2011 to remove endo, uterine fibroid, and polyp

    IUI #1-#3 (July-Sep 2011): All Clomid 50 mg + unmonitored IUI = All BFN

    October 2011 - April 2012: Outta $$$ (no insurance coverage) = back to tryin' on our own

    May 2012 - August 2012: Mental break from trying

    October 2012: New OB. Bloodwork normal aside from slightly low progesterone

    November 2012: IUI #4: Letrozole 2.5 mg + Novarel trigger + monitored IUI + progesterone = BFN

    IVF #1: Long Lupron Protocol,Menopur,Follistim, ER = 2/12/13 27R/26M/23F

    2/17/13 Transferred 1 perfect Grade 1 blast. 17 frostbabies.

    HPT 7dp5dt: BFP!!! Beta #1 9dp5dt: 108 Beta #2 11dp5dt: 368

    U/S #1 3/21: Heartbeat and one perfect bean!!  DS born 11/6/13 via c-section


    TTC #2 March - August 2015 = all BFNs

    Prep for FET #1: Aug 2015: found "mass" in uterus on saline sonogram; scheduled a hysteroscopy to remove. 

    Sept 2015: Hysteroscopy: mass turned out to be scar tissue(?), all removed. Recheck saline sonogram 2 weeks later showed "stuff" still in uterus (more scar tissue? remnants from surgery? Will see if clears with a period). Recheck saline sonogram 1 week later: all clear! Start Lupron and Estrace. Follow up u/s 2 weeks later: uterine lining only 5mm, add in patches. Follow up u/s 1 week later: uterine lining = 4.3mm (argh!), stop estrace and patches and start estradiol injections twice/week. Follow up u/s 2 weeks later: uterine lining = 5mm :/ Instructed to keep on estradiol injections and recheck in 5 days = lining still at 5mm. Need to make a decision - go for it? Or toss in the towel w/ this cycle and start all over again next year with a new protocol. Decided to go for it as we had 17 frosties; what have we got to lose?? 

    12/2/15 = transferred 1 perfect Grade B blast

    12/9/15 = HPT - BFP!!!!

    Beta #1 12/11/15: 236    Beta #2  12/14/15: 503   Please stick little one!!!!

    U/S scheduled for week of 1/4/16

    Daisypath Anniversary tickers  
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  • spinchspinch
    Welcome aboard! May I suggest to have a bit more thickness to your skin. Most ladies mean well others make you want to forget you are a lady tell them where they can shove their comment (speaking from personal experience). For the most part you will find many, many, many friendly and helpful ladies here. I wish you the best results through this process.
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