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BabyCarryingVessel · February 2013

Geesh. A woman at church last week told me that I have it easier with twins "in a lot of ways". Oh really? What ways would that be? She gave the ol' "they keep each other entertained" comment. I have heard this many times before from people who don't have twins. Come on people.

s0ulchicken · February 2013

BabyCarryingVessel:
Geesh. A woman at church last week told me that I have it easier with twins "in a lot of ways". Oh really? What ways would that be? She gave the ol' "they keep each other entertained" comment. I have heard this many times before from people who don't have twins. Come on people.

That exact comment makes me want to ask them to babysit over night! Tell me how much easier it is then!

keg · February 2013

Yeah, it only gets to be like this when they are 3.5-4ish and you still have to deal with twice the drama and twice the tantrums and twice the everything else. :-)

jlefief · February 2013

Ugh, I want to throw up when people say that. Like oh yeah - they are over playing with each other happily all day and I can just paint my nails and watch Oprah.

They keep each other entertained by seeing who can keep my attention the most!!! Screaming, mischief or just plain cuteness!

MuseumMaven · February 2013

Yes, mine often entertain each other by snatching toys away from each other, stepping on each other's heads, and using their combined efforts to pull down the baby gate. So much easier.

When I hear that one I usually just laugh and say in my most cheerful voice, "You have no idea."

jlefief · February 2013

MuseumMaven:
Yes, mine often entertain each other by snatching toys away from each other, stepping on each other's heads, and using their combined efforts to pull down the baby gate. So much easier.
When I hear that one I usually just laugh and say in my most cheerful voice, "You have no idea."

I like that response....I am using it next time!

emilyec1 · February 2013

That's annoying. My twins, at almost 7 months, "entertain" each other by pulling ears, fish-hooking mouths, and scratching at eyes. I am a constant referee. I try to facilitate them bonding, but it's much easier when they're just sucking on a toy by themselves.

katiebenes · February 2013

My Mom is using all the standards to try to help me not panic. It doesn't really work

raraavis28 · February 2013

Ugh. Yesterday DH had some ppl over for a meeting for this volunteer group he's in....after a day when the LOs gave me a total of 20 minutes all day where one of them wasn't screaming or demanding attention. This one chick, who has no kids let alone twins, commented on how "twins are easier because you are already doing all the baby stuff anyway so you just do it twice." I was proud of myself for not throat punching her.

s0ulchicken · February 2013

marchesa28:
Ugh. Yesterday DH had some ppl over for a meeting for this volunteer group he's in....after a day when the LOs gave me a total of 20 minutes all day where one of them wasn't screaming or demanding attention. This one chick, who has no kids let alone twins, commented on how "twins are easier because you are already doing all the baby stuff anyway so you just do it twice." I was proud of myself for not throat punching her.

I'd have bailed you out!!

rinascita · February 2013

s0ulchicken:
marchesa28:
Ugh. Yesterday DH had some ppl over for a meeting for this volunteer group he's in....after a day when the LOs gave me a total of 20 minutes all day where one of them wasn't screaming or demanding attention. This one chick, who has no kids let alone twins, commented on how "twins are easier because you are already doing all the baby stuff anyway so you just do it twice." I was proud of myself for not throat punching her.
I'd have bailed you out!!

Me to!!!

Yeah, ya know... just do it twice, how simple do we have it as MoMs... ? People are so ridiculous!

ShopperKristi · February 2013

You guys I totally agree with that lady. Mine are already changing each other's diapers and feeding each other. The rest of you really need to get your ish together

raraavis28 · February 2013

rinascita:
s0ulchicken:
marchesa28:
Ugh. Yesterday DH had some ppl over for a meeting for this volunteer group he's in....after a day when the LOs gave me a total of 20 minutes all day where one of them wasn't screaming or demanding attention. This one chick, who has no kids let alone twins, commented on how "twins are easier because you are already doing all the baby stuff anyway so you just do it twice." I was proud of myself for not throat punching her.

I'd have bailed you out!!
Me to!!!

You gals are awesome!

kellibelle0417 · February 2013

You guys are really making me excited

BeautyfromAshes · February 2013

I absolutely HATED that comment when my twins were little. I seriously would start arguing with the person. It annoyed me to my core.

As an encouragement, however, it DOES get easier once they are old enough to hold conversations and play together nicely. I think for us it was around 3 years old. Of course, there is always some amount of drama and fighting, but the company they give each other and the built in best friend aspect is amazing, and made all those baby/toddler years totally worth it!

But until then, those comments are stupid and downplay how hard it is to care for two tiny people at once who think the entire world revolves around them only. Chin up! You will be rewarded for your efforts one day.

macchiatto · February 2013

keg:
Yeah, it only gets to be like this when they are 3.5-4ish and you still have to deal with twice the drama and twice the tantrums and twice the everything else. :-)

Exactly!! There are days when they play together well for *maybe* up to half an hour at a time but most of the time when they are "entertaining" each other I have to referee every 1.3 minutes.

I realize some twins play together well from a much earlier age, but it's certainly not a guarantee. The built-in best friend thing is also not guaranteed. It often works out that way, fortunately (and I certainly hope my boys will always be close) but I've known some adult twins who hate each other or are just not all that close. One of the workers at the gym childcare told me her least favorite thing about being a (ID) twin is that everyone assumes she and her sister are BFFs when really, they just don't get along that well.

jalaiaa · February 2013

Probably a dumb thing for her to say because she doesn't have twins, but IMO she's kind of right. Granted it takes a while to get to that point but my boys do entertain each other a lot. They live with their best friend and that is pretty cool. The other day Eli stayed home from preschool with pink eye but James went to school. It made me realize how much they do keep each other company. Usually I can do dishes while I watch out the window as they play in the back yard together. The day it was just Eli I had a hard time getting dishes done because of the constant need for me to look at something or pausing to appease his requests to play. I frequently find them in bed together "reading" each other books and talking to each other. So yes, it is harder in a lot of aspects, especially as infants. But once they get older it is awesome. I should add that of course they fight and bicker and I have to intervene periodically. But over all awesome and in a way, yes, easier.

ShopperKristi · February 2013

jalaiaa:
Probably a dumb thing for her to say because she doesn't have twins, but IMO she's kind of right. Granted it takes a while to get to that point but my boys do entertain each other a lot. They live with their best friend and that is pretty cool. The other day Eli stayed home from preschool with pink eye but James went to school. It made me realize how much they do keep each other company. Usually I can do dishes while I watch out the window as they play in the back yard together. The day it was just Eli I had a hard time getting dishes done because of the constant need for me to look at something or pausing to appease his requests to play. I frequently find them in bed together "reading" each other books and talking to each other. So yes, it is harder in a lot of aspects, especially as infants. But once they get older it is awesome. I should add that of course they fight and bicker and I have to intervene periodically. But over all awesome and in a way, yes, easier.

"Reading" to each other? Gahhhhh that's ADORABLE. Can't wait for those cute brotherly moments

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