Wavering on team green

katiebenes · February 2013

I went and saw the gender neutral stuff today... I was not at all impressed and starting to worry... and I REALLY wanna know, but I swore to myself I wanted to be team green and ignore these feelings even though its twins...

gault530 · February 2013

I ask my husband "Are you sure you don't want to know?" at every u/s, but I am glad we don't know. I think it will so great in the delivery room if we don't know. We found out with dd and it was great to know, we just want to have the other experience.

Stay strong!

Rachel Goldstein · February 2013

I couldn't have gone without knowing. Having them named, and being able to address them individually when I feel kicks has been amazing for bonding not only for me but for my DH. Ask yourself why you're TG and you'll have your answer!

Team Green ladies are strong! I don't have that patience!

Temp123197812503460 · February 2013

why do you want to be team green? i'd remind yourself of that (or change your mind if it doesnt really apply anymore)

for me, it was weird to think that the doctors, nurses, u/s techs etc would know the sex of my babies and i wouldnt. if it was a case of no one knowing i might have gone for that, but i couldnt get over the idea of everyone but me.

i didnt name them until after they were born though.

JocelynB0911 · February 2013

I have always said I dont want to find out with every pregnancy. And there I am, laying on a table at 18 weeks saying "oh just tell me!". I am a control freak and like things done a certain way. I needed to have the room done by a certain time and it had to be a certain color and I loved being able to talk to the baby when it kicked. Plus shopping was 10x better but I am a gender specific person and didnt want the hassle of running around after the baby was here buying stuff.

Since we have one of each I dabbled with the idea of not finding out, but who am I kidding?! I need to know these things. But to each his own. Just because you said you wanted to be team green doesnt mean you have to stay team green; you are allowed to change your mind. You still have about 7-8 weeks yet before the gender scan (earlier but they arent always 100%), weigh your options as it gets closer.

QBall27 · February 2013

With our first, we both thought we wanted to wait for the big surprise at their birth... but as the weeks went by, we decided that for us, the fun/benefits of knowing during the pregnancy outweighed the anticipation of waiting. For me, there is nothing more exciting than meeting these babies when they are born -- even if I already know their sex. And I will say I agree with a PP about feeling more connected with DD1 once we knew she was a girl & called her by name while still in utero.

Good luck deciding!

JNoelleE · February 2013

I was going to be team green, until I found out it was twins! No way!!

We had the same due date btw, but they changed mine to sept 12th.

Beejus · February 2013

My husband feels very strong about being team green. I like the idea too but the gender neutral stuff is kinda blah. The gender specific stuff is way cuter and more fun to shop for. I guess that's ok because you won't be team green forever. You will get a chance to buy gender specific after the babies come.

katiebenes · February 2013

I'm worried they'll be wrong. that's the only valid team green reason I have left.

My others were that I'll be super surprised - but I figure I would be now at the a/s too..

Then I thought it'll be fine, there's tons of gender neutral stuff - which I found out that there was very very few things at my local stores and online that was what I liked.

Also - my husband could care less. (no in a bad way) he has strong opinions on other things, but on this he says "it'd be fun to know now, but it'd also be fine to wait until birth." and no amount of prodding has told me if he'd rather have it one way or another now that its twins.

Mrs JillB · February 2013

I'm going to give you the benefit of my experience. We were team green wih ds and it was the best. With these twins, we're basically already seeing them once a week and its only going to be more from here. Since dh isn't able to be with me for most appointments, we decided to find out so it wouldn't happen accidentally while I was by myself. We did it, and let me tell you, it was not the same. People will tell you it's a surprise if you find out at 20 weeks or delivery, but they are wrong. I've done both.

KDR1979 · February 2013

We wanted to know asap. There was no way we could wait! The u/s tech guessed that Baby B was a boy at 13 weeks (she was right) and we had confirmation of both genders at 16 weeks (1 of the benefits of a twin pregnancy= lots of scans)!

My OB said that the genders are not listed anywhere in the chart unless you have an amniocentesis (because then they know if the chromosomes are 46XY or 46XX).

I don't think most people even put their babies in the gender neutral stuff after delivery either...maybe to wear while at home. But, most of us are annoyed if a stranger refers to our baby as the wrong gender.

I think it's a personal decision and you and your husband just have to figure out what you want to do!

Mrs JillB · February 2013

MrsLee04:
Mrs JillB:
People will tell you it's a surprise if you find out at 20 weeks or delivery, but they are wrong. I've done both.
I totally disagree, you can't make a blanket statement like this about everyone. This may be true for you, but not necessarily for everyone. While I've never been team green, I know with 100% certainty that finding out at birth would not have been the same positive experience that it was when we found out during pg. I had a c-section, and I did not enjoy the birth at all. I barely cared about them being born, I just wanted them to hurry up and close me up. For me, it would've been a real let down finding out in that kind of moment. Now when we found out during pg, it was amazing....and I wasn't cut wide open, strapped down to a table. DH and I went out to lunch after to celebrate and called our friends and family. For us, it absolutely was a fantastic surprise when we found out. There is no right or wrong, each couple has their own right or wrong.

Eh, I've done both. I can say with confidence that its not the same.

leapgirl8 · February 2013

I was not team green and the birth was not special at all The babies came and I was like "Whatever, boring, NEXT."

(Just go with your gut. It's an incredible day either way.)

radiant05 · February 2013

We were team green with #1 and it was great. Definitely tough staying strong, but we enjoyed the anticipation. We also enjoyed driving our families nuts by not finding out :-) Actually, I think there were a few really great thing about being team green that I didn't immediately think about. First, we got all gender neutral gear, stuff I could actually use at my baby showers (not just 0-3mo clothes in one color), and a lot of my 0-3 clothes are gender neutral. Which happens to work out great now that #1 was a boy and the twins on the way are girls! Secondly, we live far away from family and it was fun to have their excitement and guesses the whole way. Lastly, it was a really cool moment once I pushed the baby out and we were the ones to say "it's a boy!" There was no way an ultrasound tech could have been wrong!

This time around, with twins, I'm more anxious and I wanted to know. I'm glad I know now so that I can clean out the closets and start trading some of my blue stuff for pink.

First time around though, I'd say it was pretty fun being team green!

JocelynB0911 · February 2013

katiebenes:
I'm worried they'll be wrong. that's the only valid team green reason I have left.
My others were that I'll be super surprised - but I figure I would be now at the a/s too..
Then I thought it'll be fine, there's tons of gender neutral stuff - which I found out that there was very very few things at my local stores and online that was what I liked.
Also - my husband could care less. (no in a bad way) he has strong opinions on other things, but on this he says "it'd be fun to know now, but it'd also be fine to wait until birth." and no amount of prodding has told me if he'd rather have it one way or another now that its twins.

You are going to have a lot more u/s, so more of an opportunity to make sure the sexes are the same.

karo112 · February 2013

Rachel Goldstein:
I couldn't have gone without knowing. Having them named, and being able to address them individually when I feel kicks has been amazing for bonding not only for me but for my DH. Ask yourself why you're TG and you'll have your answer!
Team Green ladies are strong! I don't have that patience!

^^^

This exactly.

katiebenes · February 2013

JocelynB0911:
katiebenes:
I'm worried they'll be wrong. that's the only valid team green reason I have left.
My others were that I'll be super surprised - but I figure I would be now at the a/s too..
Then I thought it'll be fine, there's tons of gender neutral stuff - which I found out that there was very very few things at my local stores and online that was what I liked.
Also - my husband could care less. (no in a bad way) he has strong opinions on other things, but on this he says "it'd be fun to know now, but it'd also be fine to wait until birth." and no amount of prodding has told me if he'd rather have it one way or another now that its twins.
You are going to have a lot more u/s, so more of an opportunity to make sure the sexes are the same.

You know what, that's a great point. So I guess I will bring this all to DH and see if he'll help me decide.

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