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Does anyone feel like they have lost friends since having thier baby?

KerryHSKerryHS
in Parenting after 35
No one is being overtly unfriendly, but the phone isn't ringing and we aren't being invited to as many places as before I had our 3rd baby.  Everyone is happy to accept my invitations, but it seems that if I am not hosting I am not really seeing much of some of my friends.  We all have children that are around the same as my first two children, but I am the only one with a little one.  Is anyone else experiencing this?
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Re: Does anyone feel like they have lost friends since having thier baby?

  • KateLouiseKateLouise member

    A little, but a lot of my friends have babies/toddlers who nap...and it turns into a huge hassle to try and co-ordinate everyone's nap time if you want to go out.

    Plus I tend to do stuff last minute waiting around a sleeping baby eg. I'll have the nappy bag packed and as soon as LO wakes from her nap take the girls out to the zoo. I always just assume it's too short notice to ring a friend with kids and say, "I'll be at the zoo in 20 minutes, if you want to come" 

    So if a friend invites me to her house, then that's pretty easy because I can say, "sure I'll come around 10am/when Lo wakes" 

    Maybe your friends assume you're too busy, or too tied to a sleeping baby to get out of the house much? or maybe (depending on the age of your older kids) are doing something with their kids that's not so baby friendly? 

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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    I think that's just normal.  People kind of assume you'll be staying home more with a newborn in the house, which is mostly true.  

    My advice is to continue taking the lead and instigate the fun stuff.  They'll come around eventually.  Just keep putting yourself out there.

     

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