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tracy41
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I just need to vent. So BD was an old friend that I hooked up with while going through emotional issues during my divorce and who freaked when I got PG. He wanted me to get an abortion and pretty much stopped speaking to me when I wouldn't. And when we did speak he pretty much pretended I wasn't pregnant.
Well I had talked to him and told him that I was leaving what role he wanted to take in LO's life up to him but that I would be going after CS and would appreciate if he would show up in the hospital to sign the birth certificate even if he wanted nothing more. Over multiple conversations, all initiated by me, he agreed to sign the birth certificate although he wasn't thrilled about CS.
LO was born 8 days ago and I tried repeatedly to get a hold of BD who of course didnt show up. He later left me a message that he'd been sick. Ok.
So a friend went and filed my court paperwork for me today and went to serve BD. BD shows up and says to my friend, "I don't understand, can you explain what this is all about?" And then proceeds to act shocked that I'm asking for child support. I swear the man has completely blocked the fact we had a sexual relationship and conceived a child completely out of his brain.
I guess I should look at the bright side. At least if he wants nothing to do with me or my absolutely adorable LO I don't have to share him or worry about custody. But I want to smack the idiot up side the head a couple of times anyway.
And on top of this my XH's GF has decided to hate me because my XH has been visiting me and LO while bringing DS to see me. Anyone else living their own personal soap opera? I want to tell her, "look lady the man cheated on me multiple times and completely destroyed any hope I had of a perfect life for my son. Because of him I lost my house, my dogs, and I have to share my son with some random woman he met off the Internet. Do you seriously think I want him back? He's all yours honey."
Well I had talked to him and told him that I was leaving what role he wanted to take in LO's life up to him but that I would be going after CS and would appreciate if he would show up in the hospital to sign the birth certificate even if he wanted nothing more. Over multiple conversations, all initiated by me, he agreed to sign the birth certificate although he wasn't thrilled about CS.
LO was born 8 days ago and I tried repeatedly to get a hold of BD who of course didnt show up. He later left me a message that he'd been sick. Ok.
So a friend went and filed my court paperwork for me today and went to serve BD. BD shows up and says to my friend, "I don't understand, can you explain what this is all about?" And then proceeds to act shocked that I'm asking for child support. I swear the man has completely blocked the fact we had a sexual relationship and conceived a child completely out of his brain.
I guess I should look at the bright side. At least if he wants nothing to do with me or my absolutely adorable LO I don't have to share him or worry about custody. But I want to smack the idiot up side the head a couple of times anyway.
And on top of this my XH's GF has decided to hate me because my XH has been visiting me and LO while bringing DS to see me. Anyone else living their own personal soap opera? I want to tell her, "look lady the man cheated on me multiple times and completely destroyed any hope I had of a perfect life for my son. Because of him I lost my house, my dogs, and I have to share my son with some random woman he met off the Internet. Do you seriously think I want him back? He's all yours honey."
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Re: BD venting...
Ugh, guys are all the same. Seems like BD is an a**hole. I'm kind of in the same situation with you. My BD and I were dating until I was 3 months pregnant. We both agreed to keep the baby in the first place, but then he back off and tried to convince me to go for an abortion, I refused so we broke up. He was nonstop asking me to do that up to 4 months pregnant. And he told me to give the baby to him so he can take the baby to go for an adoption.
I was upset and depressed for awhile. I realized I might can do better without him in my life, although I'm still bummed about it, but I'm starting to get over it now.
Be strong, you son need you and I'm so glad your BD is not around you nor the baby. He doesn't deserve to be a dad. Be strong and don't have to care and XH's gf, she doesn't understand the situation and just let her to be jealous forever. lol
Keep you head up!!! *HUGS*
wow... what a total d*ck. I don't know what else to say about your BD other than good riddance...
the XH GF, however, what a ***. She probably knows nothing about the complexities of divorce, nor the bigger complexities that occur when the divorce involves children. She needs to grow up