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AandStilltrying
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Low HCG Levels :(
AandStilltrying
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I am so devistated atm...My partner and I went in Feb. 6th for our first IUI. We had no expectations, but to our suprise, we got BFP! We were so excited. Went in for bloodwork on Tuesday 13dpo, and HCG was at 57 which they said was great. Progest. looked great too. I went back in on Thursday for 2nd beta HCG and it was only up to 67. Dr. called and said we either have an empty egg or tube baby! I am so upset/scared. He said I should expect a miscarriage and we can try again right away, but if I don't miscarry by next Thursday, he wants to see me again and check levels again and THEN administer the dreaded shot to abort the baby. I am so so so upset!
I could handle getting a BFN result, but getting a BFP and then hear somebody tell you that you are loosing this child, is so painful! My partner has PCOS so we knew it would be easier for me to concieve than her, but it is so hard watching her heart break all over. The first time was because it would be so much harder for her, and now to see the look on her face after all of this.
Feeling broken. 
10 medicated IUI's (3 with injectables).
IUI #1 (medicated) Jan. 2013-BFP!!!!- Beta's didn't double, MTX shot for possible ectopic.
8 IUI's between April 13-April 14 = BFN
IUI #10 and final before IVF, injectables May 2014- BFP!!!! TWINS!!!!
7 week ultrasound showed 2 wonderful heartbeats!
8 weeks to the ER with vaginal bleeding while on vacations! Diagnosed SubChorionic Hemorrhage. Babies are both great.
9 week ultrasound showed both babies are still great.
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Re: Low HCG Levels :(
Queer coupled and having a BABY with the love of my life! Love my life and wouldn't have it any other way!
First IUI 1/22/2013 BFN: 2/7/2013, Second IUI 2/21/2013 BFN: 3/9/2013, Third IUI 4/23/2013 BFN: 5/8/2013, Fourth IUI 5/24/2013 BFN: 6/7/2013, Fifth IUI 6/24/2013 BFN: 7/8/2013
C began IUI's
7/23/2013 C's first IUI BFN, 8/21/2013 C's second IUI BFN , Took a break in September and October, 11/05/2013 C's 3rd IUI (TWW...we meet again...) BFN, Took off the month to switch to an RE. 01/01/2014 C's 4th IUI...BFP!!!!!!!! Beta #1- 17, Beta #2- 34, Beta #3-140.... 6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014
03/21/2014 IUI #10...BFP!!! Beta #1- 48, Beta #2- 416, Beta #3- 1018. GROW BABY GROW!!!
1st Ultrasound 4/22/2014 Baby Squints is PERFECT! Measuring at 6w2d with a heartbeat of 129. EDD: 12/12/14.
Ultrasound at 18 weeks on 7/14/2014. Baby is healthy and growing just as she should!
Check out my blog at: http://journeytoparenthoodandmakingmilk.blogspot.com/
Oh no! I am so sorry about your news. I have a sense of how hugely disappointing this is-- we go to these great lengths to become pregnant, and to finally have it work out, and then not work out--can be so painful.
I can relate to feeling broken because I went through 6 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, and I have DOR, and I have always wanted to have children, and I felt, as you say, "broken." I felt like a failure after each procedure. One time, none of my eggs made it to day 5, so we didn't even have a transfer. For the third round of IVF, we used my wife's egg, and I am so delighted that it seems to be working so far, but all of those failed rounds make it hard for me to really enjoy the pregnancy because I feel like something disappointing will happen at any moment. I will have to be on the way to the hospital and in labor before I feel like, "This is going to happen."
You know what though, with my own eggs, my miscarriage rate was 50% or something crazy like that because I just turned 40 and because the DOR makes your reproductive system a little older than your chronological age, and when we were trying to get pregnant with my eggs, I was sort of planning for a miscarriage, and hoping it would happen really early in the cycle, because I thought of it as part of the process of ultimately becoming pregnant, and I thought, "Well, let's get the miscarriage part of the process over with ASAP." My dear friend just had an ectopic too, and she had a similar approach--"Well, got an ectopic pregnancy out of the way, now the next time will surely work out." I don't know if this is helpful at all, and I hope it is not unhelpful. But I do think that, for many of us, miscarriage is part of the process, and I bet that your next pregnancy will work out. I am so sorry that this one did not. I am so touched by how empathetic you are toward your partner, and I bet that this in itself makes the news so much easier for her to bear and that you are going through it together. I am rooting for you!
I'm so sorry
What an awful thing to go through. I will keep you both in my thoughts.
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle
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TTC with RE since March 2012
3 missed O's, 6 IUIs = 1 BFP then 8 w M/C, 5 BFNs
(2 unmedicated IUIs, 2 clomid IUI, 2 femara IUI)
Shared maternity/partner IVF, transfer #1 BFP!
EDD 11/28/13
I'm so sorry for your loss - sending thoughts & prayers to your family in the hopes that you are able to recover in time.
We lost our first pregnancy too (at 13weeks) and it was devasting - I have never known such pain and wish no one would ever suffer such a loss. It took time to heal our hearts, and we now have our little guy - in the end everything was perfect - it made no sense, makes no sense. But I hope you experience your perfect future soon. HuGs!!!