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I Made it to Ten Weeks Pregnant...

I am a bundle of emotion. I saw their heartbeats last week at 9wks 2ds. I cried and I felt relieved but now as the days go on and I realize I won't see them again until I'm 13wks 3ds. I am starting to have that worry creep back into me. What if something goes wrong? What if my strong babies don't make it? I have gone through a miscarriage before and I'm so scared that something bad will happen again. I don't want to lose them. They are my miracle babies. Sometimes I wish that I could just have an ultrasound machine installed in my house so that every other week or so I could just peek at them to make sure they are ok. Are there any other mothers who felt this way? I'm just a worried mommy.
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Re: I Made it to Ten Weeks Pregnant...

  • I had 2 miscarriages, one prior to my DD and one prior to getting pg with twins. I know it is hard to get excited when you've had losses in the past, but seeing their heartbeats at 9w is a great sign! Try not to worry too much (easier said than done). I didn't really start accepting the fact that I was having twins until I got my amnio results at almost 20 weeks. My best advice is to take things one day at a time early on and focus on taking care of yourself the best you can - pleanty of rest, water and good food. Before you know it, you will be weeks and months into your pregnancy. Good luck!

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  • I think that anxiety is a hallmark of most pregnancies, especially after a loss and especially during a higher risk multiple pregnancy. Your emotions are totally normal but I'm sorry you're feeling them all the same. Try to take it easy on yourself. All you can do is take the best care of yourself as possible and keep a positive attitude. Also, have you been to the "pregnant after a loss" board? I hear that they are super supportive and help each other with the struggle to maintain sanity through a pregnancy following a loss. Obviously stay here too, because we are awesome, but they might be able to offer additional support and who doesn't love that? As PP said, just try to take it one day at a time and remind yourself daily that you ARE pregnant and you love your babies so much. Stay strong sister. You are so blessed and your little ones will be here before you know it.
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  • I get it.  I lost three before my twins.  Hang in there!!!

    So happy for you.

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  • I too get worried. My next us is on march 4th and I can't wait! I'll be 16 weeks then. I haven't had a loss and this is my first pregnancy, but I've been reading too many sad stories which bring on the fears. I even thought yesterday morning about how I don't feel pregnant, but an hour later major constipation hit and a day long of suffering commenced! (Sorry if tmi). I sure was reminded that I am very much pregnant and have a good belly going on. 

    You've done great making it 10weeks!  You are almost to the 2nd tri!! Yay!! Hang in there and keep thinking positively. As others have said, if we don't have any worrisome signs we have to trust that babies are ok. I too pray regularly for my babies. It's comforting. 

  • I had two losses before I got pregnant with DS. When I was pregnant with DS I felt the same way. I would literally cry before every u/s because I was sure something was wrong. FWIW, every milestone made me feel a little better - a good NT scan at 12 weeks, hearing the HB at 13 weeks, starting to feel movement, etc. the anxiety did get better for me. With this pregnancy it was the same thing all over again. I have been counting the days until V Day - tomorrow! I guess what I am trying TI say is that your feelings are completely normal. I was and am in the same place. Pregnancy after m/c is hard. But with every milestone you hit it will get a little better. (((((hugs)))))
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  • I was the same way with my twin pregnancy. Being pregnant after a miscarriage/loss is really, really tough on the emotions and the mind. One of the good things about being pregnant with twins after a miscarriage though is you get to be monitored so much more closely and so much more often than you would be if you were having one baby. It's not easy though, and honestly, the fear didn't go away for me until I saw my boys in the operating room.

    I would really suggest you hang out on the PgAL board on here. It helped me out a lot. Also, I wrote a blog about the other things that kept me sane during a post-miscarriage pregnancy if you're bored: https://doublerainbowtwins.blogspot.com/2012/11/pgal-pregnancy-after-miscarriage.html

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  • Oh gussy, yes. It was torture to wait those four weeks between each visit during the first part of my pregnancy with my boys. But you have to find ways to keep from stressing about it, or that's all you'll do. Try and find things to keep you occupied besides baby stuff. Maybe pick up a hobby that you'll be able to do the whole pregnancy, even on bedrest (because it does happen with multiples more so than with singletons). Or find a long book series you can get started reading. I'm not saying to just forget about it, because you can't. But get something that you can pick up and distract yourself with when you feel like you're getting overwhelmed. Hope this helps, and good luck!
  • I feel the same way.  I had my first u/s at 7w.  Then I had my last one with my RE at 9w and my first with my MFM at 9w1d.  Then my NT scan at 12w1d... then I don't have another u/s with them unitl 20 weeks (anatomy scan.)  I thought the 3 week wait between 9 and 12 weeks was tough.  There was no way I could wait 8 weeks so we did an elective at 16w3d. 

    Since between 7w and 9w we found out that we had lost one baby, I was a wreck between 9w and 12w... then again between 12w and 16w3d.  I am less of a wreck now, but I still worry. 

    H said he wishes we could have a u/s machine.  We just like to see our babies more often!

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  • Ill be 10 weeks tomorrow and I feel your worry. I first saw the babies at 6w4d then again at 8w, and again due to some bleeding at 9w. I go in for my 10w u/s on tuesday when Im 10w4d. I have a nt scan at 12w4d then i dont know about after that. I am super high risk and my doc wants to make sure everything is going as it should. Still my nerves get the best of me. I am counting down the days until I can feel them move reguarly.
  • I understand how you feel.My babies are almost 7 months old.But when we found out we were having twins, I almost did not let myself get excited or attached.I was scared something was going to go wrong.

    I don;t know when I started feeling OK-nervous but OK.But it came with time. 

  • I had my first u/s three weeks ago, and I have NO CLUE when my next one will be. :/
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  • I had all the same emotions... we found out at 6.5 weeks that they were twins after a miscarriage scare that landed me in the ER. ?We didn't have another ultrasound until almost 13 weeks... which was so incredibly hard for me to deal with. ?The week before our U/S we had a drs appointment and they could only pick up 1 heartbeat with the doppler... but my husband assured me he heard both. A week later we had our U/S and sure enough they were both there in all?their?glory moving around and playing for us to see. ? Try not to worry too much - the less stress you go through the less stress they feel. ?I know its easier said than done, but i'm sure in the end everything will be just fine. ?GL!
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