Date night ?

ChristyML · February 2013

How often do you go out without your LO? How long do you stay out?

I've heard that the recommended amount of date nights should be once a week...I think I could do once every two weeks, but right now, it's once a month. What about you ladies?

My mom usually babysits for us, but we also have DH's sister, who has told us she would love to babysit from time to time. Do you think having a babysitter babysit once every two weeks is too much? Then we could go out once a week.

What are your opinions/thoughts?

Eastie156 · February 2013

Ha. Recommended date nights once a week... Yeahh... We've been out twice since LO was born. There just isn't time or energy or the ability to go out every other week, let alone every week.

I think every week is a lot. Every other week, ok.

Kissty · February 2013

Wow...Really? I'd love to go out. Great Grandma offered to keep LO once a week (Sat. or Sun) while I was on materinty leave. That usually meant us cleaning house or running errands and it was only about 3 times during those 2 mos. She now keeps him while we work (4 days a week) she no longer wants to do a weekend day. But she has offered one night a month. We took her up on that bc I had a work function last Sat. night. It was the first one and it was nice. I too think once a week is a bit much. Every other week wouldn't be too much if you can make it work. You gotta keep up you're realtionship with the Hubs. What about date night at home after LO is asleep? You could do that at least once a week and not have to have a sitter, and then maybe actually go somewhere every couple of weeks/once a month?

JulesDiane · February 2013

I think it is very healthy for your relationship to get out on your own. My pediatrician recommends it. With DD1, we didn't have our first sitter until she was 6 months (except for 1 or 2 nights my parents babysat). Now that we have 2 kids and a sitter we trust, we try to get out every other week. We go out for dinner and a concert or dinner and movie usually. Every week would be nice, but I think ever other week is more realistic.

carrotsoup70 · February 2013

DH and I have been doing weekly date nights for years. We don't let baby stop us. We just bring him with! Our date nights only consist of going out to dinner but we both need some one on one time without the distraction of a TV. Every Saturday night after DH gets home from work we head out to dinner. We don't always go to 'nice' restaurants. Sometimes it's Fuzzy's Tacos or a burger joint but it gets us out of the house together and allows us to connect. It has helped our relationship a lot!

bookbagged · February 2013

We haven't been out by ourselves since before the baby was born, and she's five months this weekend. And I actually don't know when we got out before that. With our first child we got out much more often, at least once a month if not twice a month, but she wasn't clingy like the new baby.

What we do instead is put the kids to bed, sit in our bedroom, and play a game. Right now we like to play Scattergories and at the end of each round the winner gets a cookie or another treat. It's fun, we get a chance to talk and be together without the kids, and we don't have a spend money we need for other things on expensive nights out.

hilsy85 · February 2013

We go out about once a week but that's mainly because we have very eager grandparents who love babysitting. If we didn't have family close by I imagine we'd go out much less.

beckcour · February 2013

hilsy85:
We go out about once a week but that's mainly because we have very eager grandparents who love babysitting. If we didn't have family close by I imagine we'd go out much less.

This is us exactly. LO's grandmas fall all over themselves trying to babysit. We are very, very fortunate.

Edit: I didn't answer the second part of the question. We usually go out for dinner and a movie.

newenglander71 · February 2013

We have family eager to babysit, so we could do once a week, but with work and other things it would be a hassle. We have only gone out a few times but I think every other week is a good interval. We have only done dinner/drinks, but I am sure that will change.

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