Babies and funerals

TJ1979 · February 2013

Does anyone know funeral etiquette with babies? MH's uncle is on hospice and we really want to travel down there for the service. But E is not good at being quiet, she babbles constantly. Should we go for the visit but skip the service? Go to the service but hang out in a cry room or outside as necessary? Do they make black baby dresses? Anyone BTDT with a 6 month old?

itsmevkb · February 2013

My son was a bit older than that when my grandmother died and I dressed him in black cords, white shirt and I think an argyle sweater vest. I don't think you need something black, just something plain and not overly cheerful. I knew my son wouldn't be able to sit through the entire service without disrputing at least some people around us so he was at the visitation for a little while and then my in-laws took him home during the service. Had they not be able to do that, we would have sat in the crying room.

4legsRbest · February 2013

I went to my grandfathers and my 6 month old nephew was there. He was there for the visitation the night before but his dad kept him out in the hall during the service. They skipped the graveside part too.

I think the etiquette is that they are welcome, just like at church, but should be kept from disturbing the services. Also, just a muted colored outfit - black isn't necessary.

ELF4321 · February 2013

4legsRbest:

I went to my grandfathers and my 6 month old nephew was there. He was there for the visitation the night before but his dad kept him out in the hall during the service. They skipped the graveside part too.

I think the etiquette is that they are welcome, just like at church, but should be kept from disturbing the services. Also, just a muted colored outfit - black isn't necessary.

This. Navy blue, dark green, or gray would also be ok, I think.

IBackBevo · February 2013

I went to my great aunt's funeral with my son--by myself with just him--when he was 4.5 months old. He slept through the service. He fell asleep in his carseat on the way over there and then just slept the entire time. I, however, was a little nervous at the luncheon afterwards because there were so many people around but he didn't get sick.

He wore a black velvet overall set with a red shirt. It was nice, though. Like church attire.

ccam · February 2013

My grandfather passed away in December. The services were 5 hours away and there was no way we were leaving DS for 2 nights, so we brought him. He was fine during the viewing and he hung out with DH in the hall during the actual services. If it was for someone other than family, I would have thought twice about bringing DS. He wore khakis and a dark sweater. I don't think black is really necessary.

cbubbles2 · February 2013

We had to travel up north for my husband's grandfather's funeral. DS was 13 months at the time. I felt incredibly inapproriate bringing a baby but that is what we went for and we didn't have anyone else to watch him. I hung out with him in the lobby area and let him walk around outside. It was really uncomfortable but I didn't really have a choice. If we weren't out of town I never would have brought him.

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