How Old? Clicky Poll

jLeigh0709 · February 2013

So I was lurking on the Nov. 13 BMB (Cause that's the thing to do now Wink ) and I came across this post...

VGregerson:
Yes I am a real pregnant woman over the age of 25 and I just got my BFP!! DD is Nov. 1st so I can't wait to see more ladies on here :

I wondered to myself, "Why did she feel the need to write that she was over the age of 25? Are we not a real mom if we are younger than 25?"

Which leads me to this... How old are all y'all? Maybe we talked about this before but... c'mon pregnancy brain, mommy brain? Yeah - I couldn't even find my license this morning.

So, I made a CP. Tell us how old you are anonymously or own up to it and share your age below! And then... if we want to make things really interesting... tell us what age you think is most, shall I say, "ideal" to become a "real pregnant woman/mommy."

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credcat7 · February 2013

I'm 38, will be 39 at the end of the year

QuintonsMummah · February 2013

I'm 26. Bday in Dec.

tdavis126 · February 2013

Just turned 27 a week ago.

jLeigh0709 · February 2013

I'm 23. Got pregnant when I was 22. I guess I wasn't old enough to be a "real" pregnant woman or mommy lol.

I really don't know if there is an ideal age to be a parent. I know that I wasn't ready or responsible enough when DH and I were married (I was 20). We decided to wait at least a year, and ended up waiting 2 years before TTC.

I'm excited and happy to be a young mom. I'm the first out of my group of friends so that makes it interesting as some of them don't really get it yet Stick out tongue But I love my son and I wouldn't change a thing about my life now.

Any younger and I might have felt as though I missed out on making memories with DH. We did a lot of road trips and are very outdoorsy people (skiing/snowboarding, skating, steep hikes, etc.) But everyone is different and I believe as long as you know you can meet the demands and responsibility of motherhood then there's not a "real" age young or old. (Well, high school is too young IMHO!)

FairyDuster003 · February 2013

Just turned 25 last month! I think this is frigginn ideal. SO actually won't be 24 until next month and we are the first in our group of close friends to have a baby. But we think this is a great age. We had been over the whole party scene for years and neither of us ever drink more than a beer or two... Our idea of going out consists of dinner at another couple's apartment.

Financial struggles aside, I don't think It could have happened at a better time. We have really adjusted well and it honestly surprised me!

QuintonsMummah · February 2013

jLeigh0709:
I'm 23. Got pregnant when I was 22. I guess I wasn't old enough to be a "real" pregnant woman or mommy lol.
I really don't know if there is an ideal age to be a parent. I know that I wasn't ready or responsible enough when DH and I were married (I was 20). We decided to wait at least a year, and ended up waiting 2 years before TTC.
I'm excited and happy to be a young mom. I'm the first out of my group of friends so that makes it interesting as some of them don't really get it yet But I love my son and I wouldn't change a thing about my life now.
Any younger and I might have felt as though I missed out on making memories with DH. We did a lot of road trips and are very outdoorsy people (skiing/snowboarding, skating, steep hikes, etc.) But everyone is different and I believe as long as you know you can meet the demands and responsibility of motherhood then there's not a "real" age young or old. (Well, high school is too young IMHO!)

I went over and "backed you up" on that thread. I had both kids by the time I was 25...does that make my older LO not valid or something? lol She definitely should have worded that statement differently.

sbever1 · February 2013

I had just turned 30 four days before DS was born. My hubby is 31. Even though it was hard to wait at times, like when a lot of my friends were having babies, I'm glad we waited until when we did. For us, at this point in our lives, it was the perfect time to have a baby.

143BabyCakes · February 2013

I'll be 30 in May. Gah!!!!

jLeigh0709 · February 2013

QuintonsMummah:
jLeigh0709:
I'm 23. Got pregnant when I was 22. I guess I wasn't old enough to be a "real" pregnant woman or mommy lol.
I really don't know if there is an ideal age to be a parent. I know that I wasn't ready or responsible enough when DH and I were married (I was 20). We decided to wait at least a year, and ended up waiting 2 years before TTC.
I'm excited and happy to be a young mom. I'm the first out of my group of friends so that makes it interesting as some of them don't really get it yet But I love my son and I wouldn't change a thing about my life now.
Any younger and I might have felt as though I missed out on making memories with DH. We did a lot of road trips and are very outdoorsy people (skiing/snowboarding, skating, steep hikes, etc.) But everyone is different and I believe as long as you know you can meet the demands and responsibility of motherhood then there's not a "real" age young or old. (Well, high school is too young IMHO!)

I went over and "backed you up" on that thread. I had both kids by the time I was 25...does that make my older LO not valid or something? lol She definitely should have worded that statement differently.

QuintonsMummah and katielynn - just read your posts on that thread and now I PPH you both!

Here's the link for any who are wondering or being dirty lurkers like me Embarrassed : https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72104612.aspx

rachael_c26 · February 2013

I was 21 when I got KU, I was 22 when I gave birth.

Ideal age: 13

Cool

danak4 · February 2013

I was 29 when M was born, but am 30 now. I knew I wanted to wait until we were both finished with school and financially ready to get married and then I wanted to spend a year just being married. I think it's worked perfectly for us. I spent the first half of my twenties doing wtf I wanted and the latter half working on my career and relationship with DH. And, life is good! That being said, I feel the pressure of wanting more kids, but hoping to be done having babies by 35.

Certainly age has no bearing on what kind of mother you are, however I know from my sister's experience (knfu at 20 and no longer with BD) there are certain factors that can make having a baby more challenging. But I have the cutest niece in the world and you do the best you can with what you got.

mhaley1107 · February 2013

I turned 29 a week before G was born. I think this is a good age for me personally based on DH and my relationship/ careers/ and home ownership. I can't imagine doing it sooner since we weren't secure in all aspects.

kieannb · February 2013

I just turned 26 a few days ago. I think early to mid 20s is a perfect time, IF you are ready. I know a lot of 20 year olds that are no where near ready for babies, but for me, I would have liked to have had A around 23. My mom had me when she was 21, and I love that I have a young mom.

billybumbler · February 2013

I'm 28 and also think the timing was ideal for me. I've been with DH for 8 years and married for 4, so we had plenty of time to enjoy just the 2 of us.

Jenner37 · February 2013

kiraliz2:
I'm 27. I have several friends who had babies young, and they are great moms. I, however, was a hot mess at 20 so it's probably best that I waited.

where is the like button for this?

i second the hot mess thing except mine lasted until about 25

lanea8712 · February 2013

24 when I got preg, 25 since Sept. lol

iggywan · February 2013

I just had to think really had about how old I am.... 26 I think

I had been all worried about when to have a kid.. but then I got that surprise BFP, and all I can say is that God had a better plan than I could have thought of.

All my friends, (I am the first to have a baby..) are planning out the peerfect time to have kids, taking into account their europe trips and phds... and I get all annoyed and defensive... but maybe I am a little jealous they have the chance to plan... but, then again, like I said, R is here at the perfect time, I love mommyhood, and.. I am still continuing with the plans in my own life, she just gets to be a wonderful part of it!

pillowpants10 · February 2013

I'm 19. I guess I'm a fake mom?

shaunnna · February 2013

pillowpants10:
I'm 19. I guess I'm a fake mom?

I guess we both are fake moms!

SNBelland · February 2013

I will be 24 in June and E was a surprise. He was perfect for us even though I need to finish my np. DH and I got married young 23,21, so I expected to be a "young" mom.

kbl13 · February 2013

I turned 30 last summer and DH is 36; we've been married almost 3 years. This timing worked well for us, but there is definitely pressure to have more babies before we get much older. My sister had her 1st at 24 and it was perfect timing for her.

I think it definitely depends on the person and their situation.... Although, it is so strange for me to see girls that I went to HS with who already have teenage children!

jg1011 · February 2013

Thanks for making the category 35-39---- If I had to choose the next category I'd cry! I can still be in the 30's for a little longer!

Im 39 but will be turning 40 in October.

Ideally I would have liked to be pregnant by time I was 32 and been done by the time I was 35. Fr a variety of reasons this didn't happen. However, those ages are MY opinion for ME. I don't think I can decide what is right for everyone else.

I will tell you sleep deprivation at 39---- not as easy as it would have been in early 30's, lol!

ET--- oh my...I just ready through all of your ages and now I feel REALLY old....OMG,

tbearsangel · February 2013

I'm going to be 29 in a couple weeks.

I would've liked to start with babies a few years ago, but DH took forever to propose, we've been together more about 12 years, only married for 2 then we paid for our own wedding so planning/saving for that took two years, then DH wasn't quite ready to TTC right after the wedding, so we waited a little over a year for that. sigh

m i l l y · February 2013

143BabyCakes:
I'll be 30 in May. Gah!!!!

I'll be 30 in May too...the 17th!

laxkal23 · February 2013

I just turned 28, 27 when CJ was born. As far as an ideal I think it depends, 27 was ideal for me. Life is stable, I have a good job and DH and I were both ready. Some people may find tose things sooner or later p, but those were the key ingredients to my decision.

katigox · February 2013

I wonder if she really meant anything by stating her age, or if it was more of a "intro with age" that got worded weird due to early pregnancy brain??

I got pregnant at 26, and turned 27 the day before my DS was born (cue AW moment ;D). But it took me *years* to convince DH to TTC. He wanted to wait till one of us was out of college, and financially more secure (but tell that to my ovaries. "Survival of the species is strong in this one" - shall be written on my tombstone.) So we did wait, when we were at our financial peak, and then I lost my job (I was a PCA for my Dad, who went into Assisted Living) two months before giving birth, and most importantly my health insurance! Been backtracking with MA ever since (got the delivery covered, THANK GOD, but make to much now that my DH got a big promotion to stay on MA - which is a good thing! - but DS is still on it, which definitely helps). That's okay though, it all works out for a reason, and I love being a SAHM.

As for a good age, it depends on maturity level IMO. There are some 19 year olds who are more mature than some 30 year olds, so really, to me, it's a case-by-case thing

DHelenL9 · February 2013

37, almost 38.

Had first DD 3 weeks before turning 35 and second DD at 37. Would love to have one more, but not sure what mother nature has in mind.

Crazy enough, it took us almost 4 years to have DD1 (infertility, meds, IUI's and ultimately IVF) and then one natural cycle to have DD2!!!!!

SurpriseAt39 · February 2013

So, as you may guess by my username, I am 39. I actually conceived at 38' but LO was born at 39yo.

My original plan was to be done having 3 kids by the time I was 25... And I think I would have done okay at that time. However, things didn't work out and my bf (at the time) and I split up.

Take 2... Finally married, baby at 28. Difference of opinion, I want 3, he wants 1...miscarriage, then eventually divorce.

Take 3... New relationship, SURPRISE baby born Nov '12. now I'm turning 40 in May.

I think if things had worked out, 27-30 would have been the most ideal for me. However, I wouldn't trade this turn of events for anything in the world.

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