miscarried at 12w wi baby only at 8w3d size..first time :(advice

savannahsmomma · February 2013

Hi ...im sorry if im hard to understand this..i just am new to this . I had my first miscarriage 2 weeks ago well this wednesday will be 2 weeks and I been pretty devastated. I was supposed to be 12 weeks but i started spotting and went to my ob for us and found no hb and my baby was only measuring 8w 3d...i had to have a d&c so for about 2 or 3 days i bled medium to lite then it went away except for really light mucus now and then....but yesterday morning i wiped and there was pinkish mucus and i dont know if thats normal especially since i havent bled or anything in a week and a half...im sorry if im saying tmi for you all but i never been through this i have a 6 yr old little girl and was my first pregnancy...any advice is welcome...ty

sara427 · February 2013

I am so sorry for your loss. I had my D&C on Friday and I did very little moving all weekend. Went back to work today and I'm back to bright red blood. I think its all normal. This is my 2nd. miscarriage. I have two children, 4.5 & 2.5. I miscarried between them and then just a couple weeks ago. I had a very similar experience as you. I had also discovered I had miscarried at 9 wks my first time but didn't know until there was no heart beat at 12 wks. This time I made it to 11 wks and found out at 14 wks.

savannahsmomma · February 2013

sara427:
I am so sorry for your loss. I had my D&C on Friday and I did very little moving all weekend. Went back to work today and I'm back to bright red blood. I think its all normal. This is my 2nd. miscarriage. I have two children, 4.5 & 2.5. I miscarried between them and then just a couple weeks ago. I had a very similar experience as you. I had also discovered I had miscarried at 9 wks my first time but didn't know until there was no heart beat at 12 wks. This time I made it to 11 wks and found out at 14 wks.

i totally understand...im heartbroken and still get sad seems like everyones having babys now and i watch them pass...i have a 6.5 yr old daughter and me and my husband wanted to have another so many say 90% of woman have at least 1 miscarriage but i think why me still...but i had my one and only pregnancy before this my 6 yr old was fine except for hg.. i just hope it works out ..i read alot of woman are most fertile with in the months after the loss so im hoping maybe in next couple months being able to try again and help fill that space inside of me then went empty..best of luck to you sara and i hope you heal well

savannahsmomma · February 2013

ANYMORE ADVICE OR SIMILAR ISSUES??? PLEASE

cpm1223 · February 2013

I'm really sorry for your loss.i have a similar story too with a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks. I had a d and e and I also noticed pinkish mucus a week or so after. Take care of yourself..hugs!

PsJust be careful with the caps, it seems like you're yelling at all of us. This board is a bit slower than most so be patient and people will respond to you.

savannahsmomma · February 2013

cpm1223:
I'm really sorry for your loss.i have a similar story too with a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks. I had a d and e and I also noticed pinkish mucus a week or so after. Take care of yourself..hugs! PsJust be careful with the caps, it seems like you're yelling at all of us. This board is a bit slower than most so be patient and people will respond to you.

savannahsmomma · February 2013

RN536:
I am so sorry for your loss. This is my second missed miscarriage in a row. One last March and one a week ago. Both I had no signs, we just discovered no heartbeat at routine ultrasounds. This one was hard because we had a heartbeat at 8 weeks but none at 10. Had a D and C with both. I actually don't remember how long I bled for last time. I think it was heavy at first and then lessened and continued spotting for a few weeks. Right now I am 5 days out from my D and C and I am lightly bleeding dark blood. It gets heavier and brighter if I do too much activity. I expect it will be another week at least before I can go without a pad. Again sorry for your loss. Hang in there and take care of yourself.

im so sorry to hear,rn...it was really surprising because i was having pain and went to er on a saturday they said they heard the heartbeat and everything was normal i started spotting on the 6th a monday and my ob saw me immediatly and he couldnt find a heartbeat he said er was wrong and didnt know wth they were talking about because i should be 12 weeks and baby was only measuring 8w 3d..i am so heartbroken and hurt to knowing that us i saw in er i was so excited to see and observe was my dead baby..im so depressed but they are doing genetic testing to make sure everything wasnt caused by a chromosomal issue between me and dh..and also i only bled for like 3 days and was really super light spotting only if i wipe..but yesterday got very little spotting but nothing at all today but very thin sticky and clear..so i dont know wth to think my first loss i feel emotionally drained..i just dont know but i wish you the best of luck

gscoville · February 2013

savannahsmomma:
ANYMORE ADVICE OR SIMILAR ISSUES??? PLEASE

In the Internet world this is yelling, please don't do this! We're very sorry for your loss and will offer whatever support we can, when we can, but don't want to feel like we're being yelled at to do it. Also, many of us work and may not be on the same schedule as you, please be patient in waiting for us to respond. We also have gone through losses, and may be in our own world of hurt and not in a good place to be on the message boards all the time. We give what we can when we can. Sorry for your loss and I hope you can find what you need to get peace and heal.

blue_elle · February 2013

gscoville:
savannahsmomma:
ANYMORE ADVICE OR SIMILAR ISSUES??? PLEASE
In the Internet world this is yelling, please don't do this! We're very sorry for your loss and will offer whatever support we can, when we can, but don't want to feel like we're being yelled at to do it. Also, many of us work and may not be on the same schedule as you, please be patient in waiting for us to respond. We also have gone through losses, and may be in our own world of hurt and not in a good place to be on the message boards all the time. We give what we can when we can. Sorry for your loss and I hope you can find what you need to get peace and heal.

All of this. Also know that many of the women here are also on the TTCAL board where you went and complained that we weren't responding to you with any advice. We all understand feeling desperate for answers, but please realize that we are all over the place, geographically and emotionally, and can't always answer immediately.

Sorry for your loss. I hope you find some peace in the coming days and weeks.

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