Anyone still feel overwhelmed?

trojas · February 2013

My LO is 7 months now and although I love him dearly and always wanted to be a mom, I sometimes feel I need a break from him. I never thought I would feel this way, but I do and I feel terrible for it. Being a mom is hard work.

My DH is awesome and very hands on. I know he'd watch the baby so I can have a break, but I don't want to tell him that I feel overwhelmed because I feel like he'll secretly judge me for wanting to be away from the baby.

Stupid, I know. I guess I just needed to vent.

mylittlesunshine · February 2013

Don't feel terrible. You are right...being a mom is difficult work. It is ok to need a break and have some time without baby. It doesn't make you a bad mom. If anything it will refresh you. Just remember a happy mom equals a happy baby.

thatoneredhead · February 2013

BethAndBen:
You shouldn't feel bad about this at all! If you haven't had a break without your baby in seven months then you are much stronger than I am!! I was dying to go back to work and have adult time before LO was a month old. Alone time and adult time are important. You are a mom now, but you are still your own person as well.

Amen

I left my baby with my husband to go see Magic Mike with my cousin when he was tiny. It was magical indeed. Spending all day, every day with ANYBODY would be exhausting, if not infuriating.

I call the 2 days I work my sanity shifts. Being away for a bit and de-stressing at work (haha... my life...) anyways, that makes me a happier mama.

If your husband judges you, he hasnt spent enough time with the baby. The more likely case is that he thinks you're SuperMom and will be happy to help.

Good luck- I feel ya.

JulieMarie21 · February 2013

I know what you mean. I started back at work when DD was 4.5 months. Though it was hard at first, I actually really enjoy my time at work and away from the baby, I feel awful admitting that though.

JennaNAaron · February 2013

Having time away/to yourself is important. My husband knows that I need a break sometimes and he is great about that. We are foster parents, but I can for sure say this is the hardest job I've ever had. I absolutely adore both of this kids, but it's exhausting and it's important you spend time on your own emotional/mental heath.

bigbootyjudi · February 2013

I think it's normal to want a break for the rest of their lives. When he's a toddler drawing on your walls with crayons and throwing fits in Target, you'll want a break. When he's seven and having a cow over doing his homework, you'll want a break. When he's fifteen, guess what? Breaks will be needed.

Parenting isn't easy, especially when you're the mom. Even if your H is hands on, we're always the "main parent," because we housed them for 9 months and they prefer us over anyone else. It's a tough role to handle.

Your H should understand you wanting a break and not judge you, especially if he's really hands on. I'm sure he wants a break from time to time too.

NerdyMama2 · February 2013

Don't feel bad! I love my two kids so much, but sometimes I need a break.

myluckypig · February 2013

Trust me, it is totally normal!

I get a "break" about once a week, but my real break will be in March when my hubby and I go on vacation without the kiddos. I do not feel bad about it. I deserve it!!

kdjudd · February 2013

Goodness, don't feel like a bad Mom. Being a Mom is exhausting. I had a mini breakdown this weekend. I just feel like I never get a break. I think your emotions are completely normal. Could you get a babysitter and spend a day pampering yourself? I think you deserve it!

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