Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: 39-40 weekers
39 weeks 6 days, and I'm fully prepared to be a March mom
haha
Lots of BH, and some other annoying pregnancy symptoms, but nothing at all that says, "Hey, you're gonna have a baby soon." Oy.
39 weeks and 1 day. Prodromal labor for about three weeks. Gross. SOo many contractions and cramps this weekend I really thought it was go time, then after four hours of 4-6 minutes contractions it all stopped. Ugh!
I won't be a March mamma because of placenta issues I don't get to go past 40 weeks. So it will be this week one way or another. Walking, squats, yoga ball, red rasberry tea, MORE WALKING, and so much sex - still nothing. Will get checked today at 39 week appt, cautiously optimistic that there will be some progress. Some softening maybe.
Good luck ladies, I proud of us all for making it and despite the wining and complaining - which we totally have a right to do!! - we are a tough crew!
Today is my Birthday and all I want is to have my baby girl in my arms.
No signs that labor is near. Braxton Hicks have stopped completely. I have eaten pineapple, spicy foods, raspberry leaf tea, sex, long walks and bumpy car rides.
40 weeks 1 day...2 cm and a lot of softening, but nothing eventful happening, not even gas. Appointment NEXT monday to talk about induction...
Good luck everyone
Due Thursday (is that 39w4d?)
Watermelon baby
I've had a lot of braxton hicks and shooting pain in my back. Ate pineapple and will NOT make that mistake again, as it caused me to have irregular painful contractions for a few hours but led to nothing. Lots of bouncing on the birthing ball, and I walk a ton too.
1cm dilated at my first check last Wednesday, but they didn't tell me anything else. No loss of mucus plug or any other signs.
I finally got a few good nights of sleep so I'm coping better with the fact that this baby may not come until March.
With my first, I was induced 2 weeks after my EDD. Never went into labor. My OB this time said she doesn't think I'll go that late again, which is encouraging. I am thankful, though, for an OB that lets me go 2 weeks late. Clearly my babies are in no rush to exit.
I'm really hoping these babies get here before March!
Due date today and no signs that baby is even close to being ready to come out! (No BH, mucus plug, bloody show, etc, etc, etc).
Fingers and toes and well, everything but legs crossed for everyone!
It had put the email in my junk, so I never saw it. I apologize for taking so long to respond!!!!
We are expecting snow so I am hoping LO comes and I get a few extra days off with DH during the snow days. We live only a mile from the hospital so I'm not to worried about making it if a storm does come.
I know The Lord won't give me anything I can't handle but I sure do feel like I'm at the breaking point with this pregnancy thing. It's really becoming physically and emotionally difficult
39 weeks 5 days...
I thought I was the only one left on here that hasn't went into labor. Glad I'm not the only one. I have had no signs of labor what so ever so I feel that I am going to go all the way to my induction date next week
growing a foosa
39 weeks as of today! feeling pangs of envy for my friends who delivered earlier than this.
the past few evenings have been extremely uncomfortable after dinner - all sorts of pelvic pain especially when getting up off the bed or couch. so ready to meet this big boy!
at my 38 week appt was not dilated at all, cervix still a bit thick/high. hoping for some progress at tomorrow's appt!