Preaching to the choir
BlindysWife
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... but I just need to get this out somewhere. So frustrated!
Background: Had c/s with L due to FTP (but also poor heart tones + meconium combo). Stuck at 7 for four hours when they called for the section. I believe I would've finished dilating had I been able to get up and move, but I was confined to laying on my left side because of the heart tones.
Anyway. I hate hate hate that I have to fight/defend myself over wanting a vbac. I mean, vbac should be the DEFAULT OBVIOUS first option.
So, I had a midwife group with L, and they are fantastic. I love them. But they aren't allowed to do vbacs. So I have to find a new provider. And I went for a consult today which went exactly how I expected it to go. He was nice, and said they will let me have a trial of labor, but he basically said that he doesn't know why I would want to go through all that when I can just easy-peasy schedule a RCS. Well that doesn't give me a lot of confidence that they will be supportive in the end.
UGH. Makes me want to scream. And cry. Blah. I just feel like it should be the other way around: that you should have to fight and beg for a RCS, not for the vbac.
:Off to go pout in the corner:
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.
Re: Preaching to the choir
I'd look around and see if you can find another provider or at least a doula. It sounds like you don't trust/have confidence in him and that can really effect your attitude. Knowing my provider was 100% in my corner and that she wouldn't intervene unless it was truly necessary, allowed be to relax and not be so defensive. I really believe that my positive and open mindset during induction helped me progress quickly.
I know exactly how you feel and it SUCKS to fight for what you know is the right choice for you. Hugs and Goodluck!
This. I am switching to a midwife group that not only supports VBACs, but has a great success rate and only a 12 cs rate. If you don't have trust in your dr now, you never will. Do you have an ICAN chapter that meets near you? I just went to a meeting that was all about VBACs and I feel so much better about my decision. And I think I met my potential doula, which I'm realizing will make a world of difference. GL!
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
Thanks ladies for commiserating with me.
I do have several other options for OBs, or even midwives if I wanted to deliver in a birth center. My frustration lies in the fact that I have to go on a scavenger hunt to find someone, when wanting a vbac just shouldn't be a big deal in the first place. It feels backwards and unfair.
My midwives recommendation was to deliver in a hospital that's about an hour and a half away. They have an amazing vbac rate, and all their providers are known for being super pro-vbac. My local ican chapter recommends this also. I need to do some research on it though, because I admit I am apprehensive about being that drive while in labor.
Thanks again!
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.