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PAL CheckIn

Mrs NiceMrs Nice member
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Hello Ladies.

Welcome to Thursday PAL Checkin! This CheckIn is for everyone who is parenting after a loss. If you have an older child or a rainbow baby or both you are welcome to share here.

I hope everyone is having a good week. If anyone has any suggestions for questions, please don't be shy!

Where are you in your PAL journey?

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?

QOTW: Do you think that loosing your angel baby has affected how you now parent?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

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Re: PAL CheckIn

  • HeatherhahHeatherhah member
    Where are you in your PAL journey? this month will be 17 months since Sydney left us.

    What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? I think just thinking asbout her every day all day is hard with a new one too. I wish she was here I see abbies that were born a few weeks of her and I wonder how she would look if her hair would be long or if she would be bald like her sister and brother before her.

    QOTW: Do you think that loosing your angel baby has affected how you now parent? totally yes I am so paranoid about our rainbow I worry she is going to die too. I watch her sleep and I wake up all night long checking to see if she is breathing. It is tough!!

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week this saturday is Trinity's baptism and it makes me sad because we did have Sydney baptised but she was already dead it hurts to not have her here.
    DS- Brenden born 11/13/93 Missed miscarriage on March 6, 2007 @ 9 weeks D&C on March 8th 2007. Riley Annalise born 2/25/08 ( 3 weeks early weighing 8 lbs 12.8 oz.) Chemical pregnancy 3/2010. Sydney Adriana born sleeping on 9/30/11 weighing 10lbs 3 oz at 38wks 4 days. Trinity Alivia born via c section at 36 wks 4 days weighing 9 lbs. 5.7 oz. She is our amazing rainbow baby!!! Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie First Birthday tickers PGAL buddy drvst8
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  • XathXath member

    imageMrs Nice:
    Where are you in your PAL journey?

    Tomorrow will be 7 weeks since we lost Eleanor. 

    imageMrs Nice:What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?

     My son is sick right now.  We thought it was just a standard virus, but some weird discharge yesterday took us to the pediatrician's office and they sent us to the Emergency Room.  I could barely hold it together.  They can't find the source of the discharge and have no idea what it is, so they sent us home to wait it out and watch.  Very nervewracking, but at least his fever is down...

    imageMrs Nice:QOTW: Do you think that loosing your angel baby has affected how you now parent?

    I'm definitely more nervous and overprotective.  I don't think a virus would have bothered me as much a few weeks ago, but I was petrified taking him to the ER yesterday, especially since the doctors couldn't diagnose what was going on.  I worried about my kids before we lost Ellie, but I guess I had a mental assumption that kids are indestructible and that everything would work out as long as we weren't negligent.   Now I know 3 people who have lost 14-18 month olds in the last month, and it seems as though anything and everything is horrendously dangerous.  

    imageMrs Nice:Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

    I go back to work next week, and I'm mostly anxious about that.   

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  • LbloomLbloom member
    Where are you in your PAL journey? My rainbow just turned 12 weeks. (I'm sort of new here. Mostly I just don't get online too much, so I'm kind of returning.) What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? As J has been growing more and reaching milestones, I can't help but wonder what E would have done the same or differently. QOTW: Do you think that loosing your angel baby has affected how you now parent? Definitely. I gave up my career to be a SAHM, and I am definitely attachment parenting more than I ever thought I would. I am not letting critics or others get to me- I've learned to trust my instincts and go with what I feel is right for J. So what if J usually takes naps on me after she finishes nursing? I put her down sometimes but I just love to snuggle and love on her all the time! I wish I would've trusted my instincts more with E.... Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I'm a little freaked out that I'm moving further away from E. When I try to imagine what she would look like now, all I can see is J's face. I'm having a hard time seeing E past her newborn pictures because that's all we have of her. I guess I'm thinking on this a lot b/c J's 3 month photos are coming up next week.
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