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2MamazInSeattle · February 2013

Today the nurse from our midwives' office called and said our Mat21 test came back all clear, as did our NT scan from this morning! This was excellent news!

I asked her not to tell me the gender yet, but instead, had her call the local sneaker shop, The Sneakery, and tell them. I had pre-arranged for them to wrap up either a pair of pink or black baby-sized converse sneakers to indicate boy or girl. J was out, so I was able to do this all in secret! She has a zillion pair of converse

So I picked up the wrapped box at 11:30 and J got home at noon and she tore into the package like a 5-year-old on Christmas morning! And the sneakers were....black! We team blue! It's a boy!

We thought so ever since we had our IVF transfer - she said "I knew it!" when they were revealed. We're so excited - I have 3 sisters, and J has 1, and our dad's live far away. We're both excited to have a little male being close to us in our lives!! Anyhow, just a little Friday happy tidbit to share!

healz413 · February 2013

That's very cute. Congrats on all your good news.

jennicole85 · February 2013

That's amazing! We found out that we're having a boy yesterday! Welcome to team blue!

2Moms2Babies · February 2013

Yay! Boys for everybody!

polyhymnia23 · February 2013

Congrats!!!

Two*True · February 2013

Yay for a healthy baby boy!

mhkd042206 · February 2013

Congratulations! You will love having a little boy!

firstcomeslove2013 · February 2013

Wow! How exciting! Congratulations!

songbird31 · February 2013

Congratulations! That's so exciting!

2MamazInSeattle · February 2013

Thank you all for the kind words! I woke up this morning with the same feeling in my gut as I did the day after my bfp! I underestimated the impact learning the gender would have. With all these emotions, I'm glad I get to digest and process now, vs. at birth...I like being able to focus on this news all by itself. Party!!!

thanks again for your comments! I love this community!

LolaBelle515 · February 2013

Congratulations!! Enjoy this stage of the pregnancy getting to know your little boy:)

JoySeattle · February 2013

Great news about the results and very fun reveal of the sex!

(P.S. I owe you a email.)

havingaleo · February 2013

Congratulations! I am 12 weeks and 1 day pregnant, so our due dates are probably close? Are you August 29? I am due August 30, and we too just got our Maternity21 results back to find that we are having a boy.

In fact, I logged on to this forum today to get some support on this. Of course, we are just happy to have what appears to be a healthy baby growing, but we are also a little nervous about having boys. I am nervous because the vast majority of my experiences with taking care of children have been with little girls. We are what many might call, "lipstick lesbians," and we just don't really know much about baby boys. I hope this doesn't make me sound too gender normative--I mean, it's not like it's going to be all that different, but there will be some key developmental differences, and I am little worried about whether he will have deep longings for a father figure when he is older. I know that all of the research suggests that children of LGB parents are just as happy if not happier than children of het parents, so I am trying not to worry too much about it. We are going to try to really pull for support from male friends so that our little guy has as many rich experiences as possible and the opportunities to form attachments with men, women, and those who don't identify as either, but I am nervous. So I am wondering what others have to say about their experiences as women raising boys. I tried to do some research about boys, and all of the books I found where just horrible and super religious and sexist and yuck, so I would actually rather go for casual empiricism at this point and hear from other women what is is like for two women to raise a boy.

2MamazInSeattle · February 2013

havingaleo:
Congratulations! I am 12 weeks and 1 day pregnant, so our due dates are probably close? Are you August 29? I am due August 30, and we too just got our Maternity21 results back to find that we are having a boy.
In fact, I logged on to this forum today to get some support on this. Of course, we are just happy to have what appears to be a healthy baby growing, but we are also a little nervous about having boys. I am nervous because the vast majority of my experiences with taking care of children have been with little girls. We are what many might call, "lipstick lesbians," and we just don't really know much about baby boys. I hope this doesn't make me sound too gender normative--I mean, it's not like it's going to be all that different, but there will be some key developmental differences, and I am little worried about whether he will have deep longings for a father figure when he is older. I know that all of the research suggests that children of LGB parents are just as happy if not happier than children of het parents, so I am trying not to worry too much about it. We are going to try to really pull for support from male friends so that our little guy has as many rich experiences as possible and the opportunities to form attachments with men, women, and those who don't identify as either, but I am nervous. So I am wondering what others have to say about their experiences as women raising boys. I tried to do some research about boys, and all of the books I found where just horrible and super religious and sexist and yuck, so I would actually rather go for casual empiricism at this point and hear from other women what is is like for two women to raise a boy.

You know, it's funny this morning I had a very similar talk with my partner J. I said I was a little scared, that I feared he might resent not having a father/male, etc. I think it's normal. She reminded me of a few things - first, that kid who spoke at the legislature in Missouri I think, who had two moms and was amazing, articulate, happy and well-adjusted. Another thing, I think of ALL the men I know who were raised by single moms, and many are the favorite guys in my life. That said, I don't believe that there won't be a day when the kid might realize "hey wait a minute here...I got ripped off" and I think it will depend on the kid, his/her likes/dislikes, disposition, etc. This is not a one-size fits all. My manager (who is gay, and a dad) said "Heck, he could be the next RuPaul!" I lol'd - but you never know. Just the fact that you are thinking about this and considering the impact, doing some homework, and being thoughtful means that you will be in tune with your child and make adjustments to be sure he has what he needs. Feel free to PM me! I'm due 8/29. Also - you might re-post this as it's own separate post, you will I'm sure get more responses! I doubt you and I are on the only two here with these fears

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