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April 2013 Moms
AmandaNic87
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Push Gift
AmandaNic87
member
So today at work someone asked me what I was asking for for a Push Gift?
I said, "A what???"
She was like, "YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT A PUSH GIFT IS?!?"
Anyways, she proceeded to tell me that it is a gift your SO gets you when you 'push' out the baby.
Her friends have asked for diamond earings, massages, etc.
I guess I live in a black hole because I have never heard of this! I just can't picture myself telling SO to get me something..
Don't get me wrong, we as women are essentially giving the 'gift of life'...and if he decides to get me something on his own that would be very sweet and everything, but all I really want is for him to just be supportive and present throughout the whole process. ...(Which includes going to the hypnobirthing classes I signed up for and taking them seriously)... I feel like we do everything pretty equally in our relationship and I just never expected a gift for it. Our baby girl will be plenty!
LOL Can you honestly picture someone, though, 'pushing' out the baby and then looking at her husband and being like "OK, I'll take those diamond earings now. Oh, the baby, no that's ok, let me see those earrings first." I know, I know, thats a little extreme. But it kinda makes me laugh.
Thoughts???
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Re: Push Gift
I think they're stupid. All I want from DH is smiles and seeing the love in his eyes for our little girls
I think "push presents" are ridiculous. You are both getting the gift of a new baby, and really, nothing can top that. I would feel like an a-hole expecting anything more.
I, of course, appreciate random flowers/gifts/compliments from my DH, but would never expect a present for pushing out a child that we both wanted so badly to concieve.
Aww yes, see that's very sweet!!
It was just the pretense that it was introduced to me under, as asking for something. If you have to ask it kind of takes away from some of the special-ness I think..
I had heard of this but never called "push present," more of a new mom present. I don't think it is mandatory or that it is something you should even tell your hubby to get. I think it should be a surprise if he decides to get something.
Lol I have friends (much better off financially than me) get expensive jewelry. I told my hubby that he can get me subway (which I gave up for the pregnancy) as my gift and I would be super stoked!!!
HAHAHHA PUSH PRESENTS...
I had not heard of them until I joined TB... and one day as I started laughing about them at work, a girl I worked with BLEW UP and told me how mad she was that her PARENTS did not get her a push present...???
Let me remind you, this is the girl I complain about often. She got knocked up in high school, did not know who the father of the baby was until paternity test on 2 guys showed which it was... Lives with her parents and pays no bills, buys herself fugly expensive clothes, but then complains that her son (who is now 1 and 1/2) doesn't have any winter clothes and asks co-workers for hand-me-downs from their kids. (I don't have a problem with kids wearing hand-me-downs, but to ask for them is tacky. ESPECIALLY when you brag about the new whatever you just bought yourself)
So since she didn't know who the BD was, she EXPECTED her PARENTS to buy her a push present??? HAHAHAHA!!!!
I thought they were stupid ever since I heard about them, and then she came along and put an even worse taste in my mouth.
Most of my friends that have gotten a "push present" (about half) it has been things like a necklace with LO's initial, a name brand diaper bag she really wanted, or something along those lines. It can be anything! In the end DH saw where I was coming from and agreed, the name gives it a bad rap.
MH has been saving money to buy me something which I think is really sweet but I would never expect or ask for anything from him like that. Except, like pp mentioned, a meal. Ha!
It is very common and it makes me want to gag. I hate the term, i hate the idea of it, I hate the expectation, I hate the bragging, I hate all of it.
If my husband wants to wake up and buy me a present, great. But I dont' expect one, and I'd CERTAINLY never call it anything as nauseating as a "push present." Ick.
This exactly!
I have never gotten one nor have I ever wanted one for all of the reasons that PPs have mentioned...the baby is a gift, I would rather use the money for our family,, we have joint bank accounts so its like buying a present for myself, etc.
And if anyone deserves a gift it was my DH for all that he did throughout my pregnancies and labors and deliveries. He never left my side for a moment...not to go to the bathroom, not to eat. I don't know what I would have done without him.
In the gift shop at the hospital there is a big plush ball shaped giraffe with big purple sparkley eyes. Every time I go there for tests my eyes can't remove themselves from the stuffed animal. I am intranced by the cute eyes!! I told my fiancee that is what I want for a push present. It is just too fluffy!! lol he keeps covering my eyes from it hahaha We joke that if he gets it for me I'll end up forgetting to take the baby home and only remember the giraffe bahahaha Oh What ever!!!