We have a very open adoption, and I'm having a hard time with something that's been happening during visits. I'm not sure the best way to approach it. I will probably DD this at some point.
I love our son's bparents, and I love our open adoption. We have not really had to have difficult conversations so far though, so this is new and tender territory for me.
Our son's bdad has been kind of swooping in and, well, acting kind of parental for lack of a better word. The other day, my son was fussing a bit and rolling around in my lap (he does this a lot and it passes quickly, so much so that I don't even really notice it. Bdad picked him up out of my arms and started bouncing and flying him around to get him to stop fussing.
Then last night he came over and my son was asleep when he got here. He is a slow-to-wake guy and needs afew minutes to orent himself after he gets up from a nap, and I've told bdad this. When we went to get him out of his crib, bdad immediately started touching him (in my arms) and trying to kiss him.
He also picked him up while he was playing several times last night (he does not like to be held by others 95% of the time right now, and besides that I never pick him up without asking him or when he's engaged in something), and a few times he even tried to take him out of my arms.
It's definitely at the point where I need to say something. I'm not sure if it needs to be an email, or if I should say something in person next time he visits, or if I should just address it as it happens.