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February 2013 Moms
adamsabigail14
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Careless mom vent
adamsabigail14
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A friend of mine had a CS two weeks ago today due to GD her due date was the 19th. Anyways a WEEK after her dd is born shes a doll btw she takes her to church and let's anybody and everybody hold her!! She said she was so glad to have a "break" my jaw dropped that she would be so stupid...baby is now in NICU on a ventilator with RSV. Oh and mom is also admitted now with MRSA on he CS incision. It makes me mad that she put her newborn out there like that with no care in the world glad she could have a "break" from her motherly responsibilities. Breaks my heart for her kids that have to suffer though. Is in not just common sense to be careful before you play pass the baby? 
That said how long do you intend to wait before taking LO out? I think I might end up being a hated over protective new mom because of this...oh well.
That said how long do you intend to wait before taking LO out? I think I might end up being a hated over protective new mom because of this...oh well. 
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Re: Careless mom vent
Aww, how sad. Are you sure that the problems with the babe are directly caused by being exposed to something at church?
I think taking LO out is one thing, but letting random people hold LO is another. It'll probably be a good while before I let anyone just randomly touch or hold my LO once he's here :P
First and foremost thoughts and prayers for her LO and the mom!
Our boys are a little over two weeks old and were born at 36 weeks. We have taken them to the grocery store twice now but keep them in their car seats completely covered (blanket draped over car seat) and no one is allowed to touch.
I have no issues with passing my boys to a family member but then again I have no issue telling a family member not to come over if sick, coughing etc or turn them away at the door.
I completely agree that we cannot stay holed up in our houses as I for one would go crazy but there is a level of common sense required when letting people touch and hold a new born.
I really hope she and LO recover quickly with no lasting effects! It just breaks my heart.
06/12 - BFP!!!!
Beta #1 15dpo - 256
Beta #2 18dpo - 1097
6wk U/S on 07/02 ~ TWINS!!!
EDD 02/21/13
09/10/12 Found out it's two Boys!!!! Sam and Jake
Jacob and Samuel born 1/29/13 at 36 weeks.
Yes! Good point TPs first and foremost I guess I let my emotions get the best of me and got angry first. And did you post a pic of your boys?? I was wondering where you've been I hadn't seen a post from you in a while! Hope everything went well.
Her baby will be in my thoughts. That said, I had a kindergartener and a preschooler in the house, so even if I keep the baby in germs will be coming into my house. I plan to have the girls wash their hands every time they come in for the first month or so, but that's about all I can do.
Everyone who wants to hold the baby will wash hands and I'll keep purell with me when we're out (aside from when I have a newborn or a potty training child taking me into nasty public bathrooms we don't use purell) so if anyone wants to hold him while out I have that.
But both of my kids were out and about within a week of birth. They were both summer babies, which makes it less risky, but I don't keep my newborn in a bubble. We are careful about exposure and who holds the baby but we don't isolate ourselves for weeks.
Sounds like that person made a choice I wouldn't exactly do. Hopefully, everything turns out alright.
We actually had to go to the social security office when LO was 6 days old. I must have sounded like the biggest biitch. At one point dh wanted to leave b/c I was stressing him out with my comments. There was a HUGE line to wait, ended up being about 45 minutes. Everyone in that room was a giant petri dish of nastiness in my mind, lol. They had no area to breast feed and I wasn't keen on having my baby eat in a nasty restroom, I had a nursing cover but I did not even want LO sharing the air with the people around me. I sound awful I know, but I literally wanted to keep him in the blanket/car seat "bubble" until we could get out of there.
We've gone out to the store a few times, but LO remains covered up. We even saw someone we knew and I said she could see him but " only for a sec" as I uncovered for about 3 seconds and then covered him back up. Anal, overptotective mother....right here.
Not a choice I'd make, certainly, but mom shaming is pretty bad. People need to have common sense to wash their hands before handling a newborn, but momma needs to also be reminding those who are more absent minded. I remember when I was still in the hospital with my first my father in law wouldn't hold her until he had thoroughly washed his hands and put a hospital gown over his clothes. (He worked as a foreman on a construction site so he just really didn't want to get her dirty or expose her to things of that nature) I kept pretty much to myself when I got home and it took until she was two weeks old that we actually left the house.
Being mom is exhausting, so she may not be getting much in the way of help at home. It may not have been a wise decision but it was still hers to make.
Hopefully your irritation stems from hormones on your part, OP, because it's super uncool to be judgy with someone whose baby is in the hospital. How would you feel if your baby was sick and you learned someone thought you were to blame for the problem? None of us can protect our babies 100%. We shouldn't be made to feel worse by those who haven't even been in our shoes.
It's seriously early in February - and in these babies' lives - for us to be hitting the mom-shaming.