What do you judge yourself for?

KathrynMD · February 2013

OK Judgey-McJudgersons. .. name one thing you've done recently that you judge yourself for and/or that you think others would judge you for.

jlaOK · February 2013

The amount of fast food that we eat as a family. It is a really bad habit of ours to stop and grab something because it's fast and easy. I judge myself for this.

mexicolombiana · February 2013

I judge myself for letting my girls watch too much t.v. OR actually for letting my husband let my girls watch too much t.v.

526SadieSadie · February 2013

I judge myself for walking into work 10 minutes late but leaving on time.

mylittlesunshine · February 2013

The amount of tv DD1 watches. Also, that I give her frozen dinners. She loves the chicken nuggets meal.

lovebug33 · February 2013

That I judge how others dress their children at dc. I know I shouldn't but I can't help it. I also judge myself because we eat out way too much.

shannm · February 2013

What I judge myself on: pushing deadlines at work and home to the extreme edge.

What I fear others judge me on. I think some of the other PreK moms judge me bc my kid has taught their kids who woody and buzz are and has seen the lorax before reading the book. I feel like my kid is pushing crack.

jf198400 · February 2013

Kids watch too much tv

As a family we don't eat healthy enough

My kids wear coats in their carseats

I'm sure there are more

Strunella · February 2013

I am always checking out other women's engagement rings. And I'll think, "Wow...that's a pretty small diamond," or "Look at that rock!" It's not nice, but I can't help myself.

rubber_chicken · February 2013

My breastfed DD has food allergies that manifest as eczema and hives. Every time she has a breakout I have severe mommy guilt over what I ate that caused it. Especially because I haven't been good about reading labels. Dude, soy is in EVERYTHING. Well now the allergist is sending us to a nutritionist, and I feel like it's because I haven't been able to manage this on my own.

IdigDirt · February 2013

I get judged for not giving LO sweets and I judge myself for letting him eat pizza way too often, it's one of the only vegetarian options on so many kids menus and its easy for when the babysitter comes.
I let him watch too much TV. I don't take him outside enough. I left the room for 2 seconds yesterday and he did something to my dog and she snapped at him. I ate most of his valentines day candy from daycare on the way home.

AMbaby · February 2013

Not working out in the evenings after DD goes to sleep or in the morning before she wakes up. Just. So. Tired. Feeling pretty good about our eating though and we have really cut down on the eating out. Only do it about 1-2 a week (including Starbucks runs.) I even have a gym memebership that my bought me as a gift and each day is another wasted opp to use it... I need to either get my ASS to the gym or stop feeling feeling guilty about it. Period.

Helenahhandbasket · February 2013

The 20 extra (ok, 35 extra if you count the pre-baby chub) lbs that I am lugging around a year + after giving birth.

I can not get motivated to lose it and I know I really have to if I want to get pregnant again before the end of the year.

Helenahhandbasket · February 2013

Strunella:
I am always checking out other women's engagement rings. And I'll think, "Wow...that's a pretty small diamond," or "Look at that rock!" It's not nice, but I can't help myself.

+1

2chatter · February 2013

Not being focused on my children sometimes. I forced myself to put down my blackberry while DD was reading to me. My iPhone rang 2 seconds later. I wanted to scream.

I think others would judge me if they could hear me in the drop off line for school a lot of mornings. I drop at 7:40, then drop DS and then have 8 AM calls. "go go go go go" If I don't, DD will snap every snap on her jacket, put on both straps of her backpack, give me a kiss, push her sister and then wait just to annoy her...etc.

Nechie122 · February 2013

mylittlesunshine:
The amount of tv DD1 watches. Also, that I give her frozen dinners. She loves the chicken nuggets meal.

Took the words right out of my mouth.

Emmakins87 · February 2013

I have been judging my self for insisting that we buy a house larger and more expensive than we need.

I judge my reasoning, knowing once this school year is over I am going to take my maternity leave than will resign.

Here is a big one.... I judge my self for getting a nanny and being a stay at home mom. But I am really considering with H's support to getting another masters degree.

mben1119 · February 2013

I judge myself for contemplating switching Ds to ffing at 15 months. I won't do it, but I do think about it a lot. People would judge how often Dh and I curse in front of Ds. It is really hard to change our entire language.

thedash · February 2013

Just one thing? Oh boy. I am having a fairly extravagant birthday party for DS. He is turning 2. I am pretty sure you ladies would judge the crazy stuff I am doing.

laurakaz13 · February 2013

I give DD frozen meals a few times a week. I'm just so tired. I do add fresh veggies or fruit to every meal, but I still feel a tad guilty.

I also love the 15 minutes per night that she zones out to watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse.

laurakaz13 · February 2013

Helenahhandbasket:
Strunella:
I am always checking out other women's engagement rings. And I'll think, "Wow...that's a pretty small diamond," or "Look at that rock!" It's not nice, but I can't help myself.
+1

I do this too!! I have a great ring too. But I still get tad jealous if someone's is bigger! I suck! :-)

LoCarb · February 2013

I judge myself for loving the RH of anything franchise.

I judge myself for having an alcoholic beverage just abt every night and on the wknds sometimes its during the day...while the kids are home.

cmsdouglas · February 2013

My house is a disaster. I don't feel comfortable with people just dropping by - which is bad since DH is a pastor and we live in a parsonage. So not only am I a terrible housekeeper but it's not even technically my house!

A lot of afternoons when we get home I let DD play with her toys and get on facebook or the bump instead of playing with her.

FemShep · February 2013

When I'm tired, I lose my patience with DD1, and I judge the crap out of myself for that-especially on Sunday evening when it's been an exhausting weekend and I know I'm not being the mom I want to be.

I judge myself for letting DD1 (age 7) have lots of screen time.

I judge myself for being a Judgey McJudgerson.

Strunella · February 2013

SandAndsSea:

Strunella:
I am always checking out other women's engagement rings. And I'll think, "Wow...that's a pretty small diamond," or "Look at that rock!" It's not nice, but I can't help myself.

Just curious, what's "small" and what's a "rock" when you are judging? Is it always negative or is there rock envy involved?

Ha, ha...I think a "rock" is any ring bigger than mine! So yes, there is definitely rock envy. I also work in NYC, so I think my standards are a bit skewed. The not nice part is when I'm thinking, "Oooh, your diamond is TINY!" And then I look down at my ring and love it even more.

Nechie122 · February 2013

Strunella:
I am always checking out other women's engagement rings.nbsp; And I'll think, "Wow...that's a pretty small diamond,"nbsp; ornbsp; "Look at that rock!"nbsp; It's not nice, but I can't help myself.nbsp;

You know there's more to diamonds than just size, right? For example, my stone is a little over a carat, but it's completely colorless. It's not showy but it's high quality. Some smaller diamonds could be worth even more than bigger ones based on clarity, color, cut, etc.

financialdiva · February 2013

I judge myself for the amount of time a spend looking at my phone. Bump, FB, Pinterest, emails, it's really bad. I have been trying really hard to make sure I put my phone down immediately when DS1 talks to me or engage me, but I hate that he still sees me on it even if it is briefly.

shannm · February 2013

beaubecca:
Strunella:
SandAndsSea:

Strunella:
I am always checking out other women's engagement rings.  And I'll think, "Wow...that's a pretty small diamond,"  or  "Look at that rock!"  It's not nice, but I can't help myself. 

Just curious, what's "small" and what's a "rock" when you are judging?  Is it always negative or is there rock envy involved?

Ha, ha...I think a "rock" is any ring bigger than mine!  So yes, there is definitely rock envy.   I also work in NYC, so I think my standards are a bit skewed.   The not nice part is when I'm thinking, "Oooh, your diamond is TINY!"  And then I look down at my ring and love it even more.

This makes me sad. My vintage one if a kind ring has a teeny diamond. DH and I couldn't even afford a full wedding so we eloped in Vegas. Just because its small doesn't mean he loves me less or we are lame people.
5 years later we have a huge gorgeous home with a 15 year mortgage that is 2 years paid off and will be able to provide for the four kids we want to have comfortably. So I'll take my tiny diamond and look at it with love.

I love my tiny stone and all of the meaning, thought, and effort behind it too. I have many friends who don't even do diamonds, or rings for their engagement. Other than my SILs who lean left when they walk, no one in my circles give a sh?t.

KathrynMD · February 2013

This post is kinda funny and sad

I judge myself for not cooking better, more consistently. We had frozen chicken tenders and boxed mac & cheese the other night (oh - and no veggies - I threw some grapes and carrots on DD's plate!) DH looked at me and said "where's the mountain dew"? Which was funny, sad and embarrassing. ..

I judge myself for not handling my 2 employees better - they are both really good at their actual jobs, but they just clash in personalities and I just can't figure out how to get them to fix it. They get things done and its tolerable, but jesus its tense. And, its all tone and delivery and very nuanced things - so its very hard to deal with them about it.

I judge myelf that we don't have enough sex.

I don't really "judge" rings, but I do look at them - its interesting to see how many ways jewelers will work a diamond in somewhere. Some rings are rocks, but totally garish and tacky and are very small - but a picked w/ love and care and you can tell they were a major sacrifice for the couple - I'd judge someone way more for financing a ring they can't afford than for buying a small ring.

mae0111 · February 2013

I don't have a diamond, so I sometimes judge huge rings and think, "do you know what else you could have done with that $$?" It's really none of my business, so I judge myself for that.

I am judging myself a ton lately. This pregnancy has been really hard on me, and I am judging myself for not being a trooper and sucking it up. My whole body hurts. I wound up in L&D at 35 weeks due to being 4cm dilated and having strong contractions every 3-5 mins for 12 hours... then it stopped. Good that it stopped, but I felt like an AW for the false alarm.

I'm judging that I'm not in work after my L&D scare. I have only called in sick one time during this entire pregnancy, when I got food poisoning at our work cafeteria. And I worked that day, I just did it from home. Still, I feel like the "weak" pregnant lady because I'm in my home office and not putting in face time when I should.

I'm judging that I don't have the energy to play with my 3.5yo. All she wants at the end of the day is for me to get on the floor and play trains... and I can't do it. She cried so hard last night because I was having contrax and I needed to lay down, and she had been waiting all day for me to play with her. She doesn't understand why I can't/won't.

I'm judging because I've cooked dinner exactly 3 times in the past week, and one of those times I used the crockpot. We're spending a ton on takeout. DH is trying to lose weight, and I know my lack of cooking isn't helping.

I'm judging myself for wishing away the time in this pregnancy, knowing it's the last time I'll be pregnant. I've hated being pregnant 90% of the time this time around.

PunkyBooster · February 2013

I'm having a really hard time finding a job. I'm very, very hard on myself due to this. I judge myself for still putting DS in montessori 4 mornings a week because I do have to work, and I don't want us to lose his spot when I do get a job. We spent 7 months on the wait list and every other daycare I looked at was not up to par.

I think sometimes my mom friends judged me for BF DS for so long. I also think they sometimes are baffled that I still rock him before bed.

PunkyBooster · February 2013

laurakaz13:
Helenahhandbasket:
Strunella:
I am always checking out other women's engagement rings. And I'll think, "Wow...that's a pretty small diamond," or "Look at that rock!" It's not nice, but I can't help myself.
+1
I do this too!! I have a great ring too. But I still get tad jealous if someone's is bigger! I suck! :-)

Uhhh. Add me to this...

So petty and ridiculous! HA! I have a nice ring, it's a nice size and the clairty is to die for- but if I see people with a 2 carat I'm kind of like, "oooohhhhhhhh I waaaaaanntttt!" like a bratty 16 year old.

I also get a little jealous of SAHMs who get to do house renos! Just because I truly want/need them and we can't swing them without an income on my part.

MammaBear81 · February 2013

One thing I judge myself on right now is the amount of fast food we are eating. It has crept up to 1 time per week (I prefer it to be 1 time per month or less). The way the kids activities have fallen for the winter session it's just so much easier to pick up fast food on Saturday for lunch than pack something, or wait until we get home.

Something people judge me on, the size of my family... seriously people, it's none of your business how many kids I have, I don't judge you for "only" having one kid, don't judge me for having more.

itsmevkb · February 2013

I judge myself for being fat, but not as much as I used to.

I judge myself for yelling at my kids sometimes because I get so frazzled and then I look at their little faces and wonder if I'm permanently damaging them.

I judge myself for preaching about getting your work done at work and not goofing off but here I am responding to this post while a huge stack of work is on my desk.

Oh, and right now, I'm super judging myself for all the debt I have especially now that I might be forced to take some leave without pay due to the stupid federal government not getting their act together on a budget. Funny how I judge them for screwing up the federal budget when I don't have control over my own budget.

JulyMomma2U2 · February 2013

Getting pregnant so quickly after DS was born.. and potentially "forcing" him to grow up sooner than I would have if I didn't have a 2nd baby on the way/in the picture.. Also, not cooking nearly enough. We live on campbells soup, bagged salad, tyson ready made chicken or take out =(

Margaret Lemon · February 2013

mylittlesunshine:
The amount of tv DD1 watches. Also, that I give her frozen dinners. She loves the chicken nuggets meal.

How about I wish my LO was interested in tv? I should be happy she just wants to play and read books but this pregnancy/morning sickness is kicking my butt and I just want to lay around in a vegetative state.

Also, LO eats way too much Mac and cheese...

PayolaCrayola · February 2013

@beaubecca...We did the same. I wore a led zeppelin tee and I insisted on a vintage small ring because that is just my style....actually I wanted tattoos because I have a lot but he insisted on a ring first. lol I now have a bigger ring because he surprised me with it after DD was born but tbh it took me 6mo to wear it and I still hide my hand sometimes because i feel like its too flashy.

I judge myself for letting DH let DD watch tv most of the day. He teaches her a lot but I know hes overwhelmed at being a SAHD so he takes the easy way most days....Then I judge myself for getting home and watching a movie with her because ive been up since 2am and cant think straight.

Also for letting her eat mac&cheese way too much because i know she wont fight me. I havent done frozen meals but ive thought about it.

PunkyBooster · February 2013

MammaBear81:

Something people judge me on, the size of my family... seriously people, it's none of your business how many kids I have, I don't judge you for "only" having one kid, don't judge me for having more.

Whhhhaaat?

I'd love to have 4 or 5 kids.

AsOctoberFalls · February 2013

I'm surprised how many women judge other women's rings. I don't even wear mine and haven't in years...I'm just not a jewelry person. I don't think I've ever noticed another woman's rock unless it was especially garish.

MammaBear81 · February 2013

PunkyBooster:
MammaBear81:

Something people judge me on, the size of my family... seriously people, it's none of your business how many kids I have, I don't judge you for "only" having one kid, don't judge me for having more.
Whhhhaaat?
I'd love to have 4 or 5 kids.

I don't know if it's just the mentality up here (I live in a HCOL area) but most families around here consist of 1-2 kids, a family with three kids is considered super sized! When people realize I have 5 kids they look at me as if to say "why the heck would you do that?!" Then when they find out that I work full time I get the disgusted look like I must spend a total of about 3 minutes per week with each child because of course when you work, you have no time for one child, much less 5.

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