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DH says NO gifts for DCPs

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My cheap DH says that we should not get anything for the DCPs.

This is after I was reading off our Christmas list to him. He says that we already pay so much money for DS to be enrolled and that that is not his problem that they dont get paid much. :(

I will still get them some gift cards on the sly.

Anyone else's DH feel this way?

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Re: DH says NO gifts for DCPs

  • luvmagoldnluvmagoldn

    Remind your DH that what you pay doesn't go directly to the providers.  They have rent, overhead, meals, supplies, insurance and salaries to pay for.  DCP's are notoriously underpaid.

    Even if you can't agree on gifts I would write them a nice note and maybe bake something for them.  These are the people who care for your child - he should want them to feel appeciated!

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  • FinnishPrincessFinnishPrincess
    I would rather cut out gifts to distant friends/relatives etc. before cutting off the DCP's - you don't have to get them big gifts, but get them something to show appreciation - after all they DO take care of your most valuable and precious children. And like others said before, a heartfelt note to the DCP is always good!! I would seriously discuss this again with your DH and convince him to think otherwise...
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  • SoMdGirl83SoMdGirl83
    I am saving money and giving her an extra $100. She does a ton for the kids. Most of the stuff the baby can't do but still. My nephew who is 6 goes there and she does so much!
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  • PeskyPesky member
    DH mentioned something like that.  I asked if he wanted her crying in the corner and ignored in favor of ALL the other parents who were likely getting them more than we would be anyway.  He shut up.


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  • bridetobe0jbbridetobe0jb
    I'd go Pesky's direction too. 
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  • sara1104sara1104
    my DH said the same thing & then asked if I was trying to win some popularity contest with the teachers...I said yes.  We are getting gift cards (although a small amount)
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  • costfordscostfords

    I gave the teachers in dd's previous room all giftcards as thank you for taking such good care of her.  It wasn't Christmas or anything special like that, it was just that she graduated out of their room.  You know which baby in her new room gets lots of attention?  MINE!  :)

    I'm all for bribery.  Even a small amount goes along way.  We gave $10 gift cards to Chilis and said have dinner on us.  That has gone so far in her new room, we will be doing it this Christmas for dd's new teacher. 

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  • AlisaSAlisaS member
    In the spirit of the season I would say that DCP who give our children so much should be recognized. But if money is tight, be honest and write a lovely card and bake some cookies. And say you wish you could do more.
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  • tiff16tiff16 member
    Just something small to say thank you is enough.  Cookies or board books for the classroom.
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  • Bella427Bella427 member
    DH always (teasingly) accuses me of trying to win a popularity contest with her daycare too.  We gave them $25 giftcards for their birthdays, I brought cupcakes on DD's birthday, little things here and there.  I really don't do it to bribe; I really do appreciate them.  But you know what?  When DH got laid off last month, the staff offered to save her spot at school as long as they can and even said DH could drop her off when he had interviews!  (This is a non-profit, I doubt that would happen at a for profit school).  You never know when you might need a good deed, plus I agree that DD gets a lot of attention in part b/c we get along with staff so well. 
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  • anneinmechanneinmech

    We've never done anything but write them each a nice note in their holiday card and bake something for all to share. We just don't gift outside the family and we don't spend a lot for gifts, but it certainly isn't becasue we don't love and appreciate each other.  It never even crossed my mind that a professional would favor one child over another because parents don't give a gift. Maybe I am naive, but i honestly believe that just isn't something that would happen at my son's daycare.

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