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June 2013 Moms
Luthy
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Warning: self-centered whining
Luthy
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DH and I decided that we want to keep the fact that LO is a girl mostly to ourselves for the time being. We've tossed around the idea of revealing at the shower, or just telling once we're a little closer to the due date, or whatever. We decided we'd tell immediate family and a couple close friends. So far so good.
So two of my close friends are also close (C and K), and I haven't seen one of them (K) in a few weeks because she and I have both been sick on and off. I told C that it was a girl but we were keeping it a secret. She asked if K could know and I said sure, I just hadn't gotten around to telling her because I hadn't seen her. She asked if she could tell K and I said absolutely.
So fast forward to today when K posts something on my facebook wall about "Baby Girl Miller". I saw it right away and immediately deleted and messaged her to remind her that it's a secret. Turns out C never told her it was supposed to be kept quiet. She was apologetic, but then said this:
"Well, I told the knitting group, because I didn't know it was a secret, but it's not like they have anyone else to tell."
WTFFFFFFFFFFF. She was totally unapologetic about that part. Our knitting group is pretty tight-knit (see what I did there); we meet every week and pretty much all my friends in this area are members. So yeah, sure, they don't know my family or my friends from other areas to tell, but now the whole keeping it a secret thing is kind of a bust, since every week I'm going to be hanging out with a largish group of men and women who already know. That totally takes away from the fun.
I was kind of pissed she told in the first place because if I had wanted to tell it was MY news to tell, not hers, but when she was so completely unapologetic about ruining the secret I was really flaming mad. I don't even know how to tell her how mad I am. She's kind of sensitive so I know she'll feel really bad if I say anything and I know she didn't know it was supposed to be a secret but come on!
(And I'm kind of pissed at C for not telling her it was supposed to be a secret when I stressed that to her about a million times... but mostly I'm pissed at K.)
GRARARARARAR. I was having a bad day anyway and now I am just waiting to go home and flop on the bed and have a nice brooding session.
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Re: Warning: self-centered whining
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
We are doing the gender reveal. So far we've oopsed ourselves twice. One of my sister's and hubby's brother know. Thankfully they are both the best people to keep secrets. We also told my best friend as she's doing the shower/cake for the shower.
My mother really wants to know, but we had the same problem with her and announcing our pregnancy. Since I was having complications we wanted to be out of the first trimester before we told anyone, and we told her/my dad that it was a secret. My mom told my grandmother & her best friend. Didn't mention to them that it was a secret and her friend told her son who is a friend of mine(and can't keep his mouth shut). Suffice it to say I about lost it when I found out.
I think the general response I've had was people don't want to keep good news to themselves they want to share. My personal thoughts, it's my good news let me get the credit for it! I feel your pain
BFP #1 EDD 08/07/11 DS born 07/27/11 Welcome Mr. Smiley!
BFP #2 05/28/12 EDD 02/03/13 Natural M/C 07/14/12 10w6d
BFP #3 10/02/12 EDD 06/11/13 Please stick baby! Stick!
I don't know how old any of you are but I learned about 15 years ago that if you want something to be a "secret" then you don't freaking tell anyone. Not C, not K, not LMNOP. the best way to keep something a secret is to not blab it to a single soul unless you're ready for others to find out.