Time outs

T&HLove · February 2013

Have we discussed time outs?

I saw a pic on FB of a LO (same age) having her first time-out, sitting on the bottom step of the stairs. How is that possible? Lol

So, have you tried time-outs yet? I'd love to be able to start so I have a way to deal with her doing something the third time I say no. But, short of locking her in an empty closet (kidddding,) I just don't see it working out.

right now, for tantrums, I just put her in a safe place and ignore her... I kind of consider it a timeout... But her safe place is where her toys are, so it wouldn't work for any form of punishment.

Ms5586 · February 2013

We will use them for hitting only right now. We have a specific spot upstairs (and need to decide on one downstairs). If he hits with intent, we hold his hand and say "Gentle touch" or something similar. If he hits again, we sit him in a spot and tell him "We don't hit". Walk away, or turn our back. If he gets up, we put him back in the spot. Ideally, I'd like him to sit for one minute, then go back to him and remind him "gentle touch" with hugs and kisses.

We've had 2 at home, and he was actually in timeout at daycare yesterday. It sounds like they do something similar.

Jcraul · February 2013

I heard that it should be a minute for each year of the childs age. I tried it the other week. I sat her on a small stool in the LR & told her to stay there she was on time out & set the clock. She almost lasted a minute.

DH thought it was stupid. He thought I should wait till she was older. For tantrums I just let her through it and ignore her they ususally don't last long.

Yasiris1105 · February 2013

We did our first one I think Saturday. Matt kept on wanting to touch the bluray and by the third no I knew he was gonna keep doing it. So I told H "sit him on the sofa for a time out" H left him there for 2 minutes. He stood there until they passed. Matt tried to get down but H said in a serious tone "Sit and stay there" and Matt sat again and kept on crying [no tears let me say] as if we had hit him. It actually worked. I think the only time he tried to touch the bluray was later that night just before we took him for his bath.

Eta: Tantrums we do ignore too unless he throw himself too hard on the floor then I go to tell him not do it and leave him there screaming.

SusieBW · February 2013

I haven't tried time outs yet, but Tatum does understand consequences. The only punishments she's had are no stories at bedtime for not cooperating with brushing her teeth, and no colors in her bath for throwing food at dinner. I haven't seen food fly and brushing her teeth has been easy-peasy ever since. The threat of no stories or no bath colors has been enough to get her to behave.

Ditto with standing up in the bath. She loves bath time, so she learned really quick that standing up = bath time is over. She only stands up to get out of the tub now. And drinking bath water out of the bucket I use to wash her hair - it's her favorite thing to play with in the tub, and the second she goes to drink out of it, I take it away. She doesn't drink bathwater much anymore.

AmandaPaige6410 · February 2013

There is no way that LO would do a time out. It would be a disaster.

bluejetta · February 2013

I haven't tried one yet but am thinking about it. The biggest thing N does is try to climb the stove or pull the handle when we're cooking. The oven lock is useless. So we say no in firm voice. If she does it three times she is escorted out of the kitchen and we lock the gate. Otherwise we let her her use her play kitchen etc while we get dinner ready. We'll have to come up with a "spot" though.

manda26 · February 2013

We haven't had to really implement one yet. But the spot will be by the front door where there are no toys.

My friends son will sit on the bottom step until he is told he can get up when in time out, hes 3 now but has done this a long time now. The DC provider started it for her so she started the same thing at home.

Yasiris1105 · February 2013

bluejetta:
I haven't tried one yet but am thinking about it.nbsp; The biggest thing N does is try to climb the stove or pull the handle when we're cooking.nbsp; The oven lock is useless.nbsp; So we say no in firm voice.nbsp; If she does it three times she is escorted out of the kitchen and we lock the gate.nbsp; Otherwise we let her her use her play kitchen etc while we get dinner ready.nbsp; We'll have to come up with a "spot" though.

Climbing the stove??? wow and I thought Matt was quite the adventurer hahahahahaha

shelley1002 · February 2013

Haven't tried yet. I was under the impression that they were still too young to understand. I was planning in starting them closer to age 2.

solsburyhill · February 2013

I tried in December because he kept hitting the Christmas tree and no matter what I said or did, he'd laugh and do it again. So I tried the timeout. I first tried the bottom step and he totally didn't get it. The I put a chair up to the wall and had him sit in it facing the wall. I made him sit 30 seconds and he sobbed the whole time, but as soon as I let him out he made a beeline to the tree again.

At this point, the only way I can successfully get him to stop bad behavior is with redirection. I stop him in the act, tell him what he's doing wrong, and then say "let's read this book" or play in the kitchen or let Bernie outside, whatever to get his mind off the naughty thing and onto something else.

GingerNess · February 2013

shelley1002:
Haven't tried yet.nbsp; I was under the impression that they were still too young to understand.nbsp; I was planning in starting them closer to age 2.

this. I'm not comfortable with it yet.
I'm actually studying this in class right now. I really like the approaches that Becky Bailey takes.

bluejetta · February 2013

Yasiris1105:
bluejetta:
I haven't tried one yet but am thinking about it.nbsp; The biggest thing N does is try to climb the stove or pull the handle when we're cooking.nbsp; The oven lock is useless.nbsp; So we say no in firm voice.nbsp; If she does it three times she is escorted out of the kitchen and we lock the gate.nbsp; Otherwise we let her her use her play kitchen etc while we get dinner ready.nbsp; We'll have to come up with a "spot" though.
Climbing the stove??? wow and I thought Matt was quite the adventurer hahahahahaha

Yeah, she hangs onto the long bar handle and tries to reach her leg up -- ridiculous. She just wants to "see" what is going on. A friend has this tower thing that reaches to counter height and I'm considering one.

T&HLove · February 2013

bluejetta:
Yasiris1105:
bluejetta:
I haven't tried one yet but am thinking about it.nbsp; The biggest thing N does is try to climb the stove or pull the handle when we're cooking.nbsp; The oven lock is useless.nbsp; So we say no in firm voice.nbsp; If she does it three times she is escorted out of the kitchen and we lock the gate.nbsp; Otherwise we let her her use her play kitchen etc while we get dinner ready.nbsp; We'll have to come up with a "spot" though.
Climbing the stove??? wow and I thought Matt was quite the adventurer hahahahahaha
Yeah, she hangs onto the long bar handle and tries to reach her leg up -- ridiculous. She just wants to "see" what is going on. A friend has this tower thing that reaches to counter height and I'm considering one.

Ive seen those towers.. They're pretty neat

eortman · February 2013

We do very short time outs when DD is being particularly naughty, usually for hitting DS. But they only last maybe 30 seconds and I think she understands it a little more because she sees DS get time-outs when he is naughty. We didn't start time outs for him until he was a bit older.

starshine985 · February 2013

We started doing time outs in December. When DS gets upset, he'll throw or hit something. If he hits a person, it's an automatic time out. If he throws or hits an inanimate object, he gets 2 chances and then it's time out. When we tell him "no," it tends to make him more upset. We've tried telling him to stop and just talk to us, but that doesn't always work. So, a 1-minute time out it is. If he tries to move, we sit him back down. He's now learned to sit until we tell him he can move. By the end of the 1-minute, he's no longer crying and is calmed down. We'll then explain to him what he did wrong and why we don't do it (that there are better methods for expressing our anger/frustratiom). He might not understand everything we say, but he definitely understands some of it.

tartertots9725 · February 2013

MRoss1982:
I haven't done an official time out yet, because like you said, she would never just sit in one place if I told her to.

If she is having a tantrum that isn't stopping, I put her in her crib to relax and cool down. She typically starts babbling and singing within a few minutes. Plus, I think half the time she is just over tired anyway.

This is what we do sometimes, too. He loves his crib so it's not really a punishment but it just gives him a few minutes to calm down. We never keep him in there for more than a couple minutes. I actually wait outside the door and as soon as he calms down I go in and get him. He's in a much better mood after that.

luvmyducks · February 2013

I haven't tried time outs yet. Thankfully, she isn't a big tantrum thrower yet, so the few times she does have one, I just ignore her. And her tantrums at this point are just crying and maybe sitting down where she is at--like if it is time to go somewhere and she doesn't want to. I cannot imagine her understanding the concept of a time out and staying in one spot.

hisaak · February 2013

Nope, haven't tried them yet. With DS I found they weren't really effective until closer to two, so I haven't really given it much thought with DD. Right now we just use "not for Halle" and redirection. Tantrums are ignored.

GVSU-04 · February 2013

Haven't tried them yet. We'll do redirection and remove him from the situation (he loves to bang on/grab the blinds, which is an issue, since he can break them). I don't think he'd stay in one spot if I tried.

Broadway11 · February 2013

We haven't done anything official with time out yet, though I think she would understand if we worked on it. I usually just warn her twice and then sit her down where she is. That seems to be enough.

S does put herself in time out though. She loves to go and sit on the bottom step. She thinks it's a great place to hang out.

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