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Preemies
PhillyGal34
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being unfair to myself and DS
PhillyGal34
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in Preemies
DS is 8 months old/adjusted 6 months. I keep seeing friends on FB posing about their babies crawling and doing stuff he hasn't done. I KNOW we use their adjusted age but DS has always been pretty much on target for his actual age and I keep catching myself wanting to push him to do things he isn't ready for and then beating myself up for it. He will do everything in his own time but how do you stop yourself from comparing with others who were FT? any tips?
ETA- I just looked at the BabyCenter Milestone chart and apparently crawling is more of a 9 or 10 month milestone? I feel like all of my friends have babies crawling REALLY early or is this wrong? Either way, I know I need to relax but the question still stands. How do I stop comparing??
Our little hippo was as impatient as mom!
Hoping for a full 40 weeks!!
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Re: being unfair to myself and DS
I am usually pretty good about it but for some reason crawling seems to be bugging me. I guess it is because it is something EVERYONE talks about. "Is he crawling?" "My kids....." etc. He is doing awesome and I am so thankful for that.
My friend just had a baby and I saw pictures of her holding her a few minutes later and then pictures of the baby in a cute outfit and I think it is all just snowballing into a pile of jealousness and a pity party. ugh
Keep in mind people highlight what their babies are doing--they don't usually talk about what their babies aren't doing yet. There may be things he masters earlier that their babies aren't.
Some babies never bother crawling. DD was 13 months actual, 9.5 months adjusted when she started crawling. At that point, she was already cruising around the room and we thought she'd never crawl at all. Even though she was cruising, she didn't take her first step until she was over a year. That's 4 months of "okay, she's cruising, is she ever going to take a step??"
DS, at FT didn't start crawling until a week and a half ago.
I know it sounds hard, but the way to stop comparing is just to not. Keep telling yourself your baby is fine, he is healthy, he is happy and he is growing normally.