Prepare for war?

PortlandValentineBride · February 2013

Hi Mamas- a question for those of you in the trenches. Should I be preparing for war? I feel like I should. I am a SAHM to an energetic boy and expecting number 2 in June. MH will be working around 70 hours a week at points and I have no family around and no help.

So- we rent, and I am considering moving into a different, less expensive (and not as fancy) neighborhood so I can higher a nanny part time. Would you make a move like this to afford outsourcing/ get some extra support?

TIA.

MammaBear81 · February 2013

Personally, I wouldn't move to hire a part time nanny. The kids aren't little for that long, and ha hate to move! My experiences with 2 under 2 weren't "that bad" but everyone's children are different, and everyone handle's things differently. If you feel that your current LO is handful, maybe it's the right move for you. GL

Virgo17 · February 2013

I wouldn't necessarily move for that one reason. However, if you were leaning toward moving anyway, it might not be a bad idea. A lower COL area would have benefits even after the kids are older. It would allow more money for savings, family vacations, etc.

I think having two under two and a husband working 70 hours per week with no other help could definitely be exhausting. You might not need a part-time nanny, but if someone could come to the house in the middle of the day for a few hours twice a week that might be nice. It would give you a break to get out and run errands, grocery shop, or maybe even sneak in a pedicure.

Qmommy · February 2013

I think it's completely unnecessary but I don't know you or your children so you have to be the one to decide. I didn't think 2u2 was all that challenging - especially the little baby phase. You will be amazed at how easy a newborn really is comparatively. I am a sahm and still get at least an hour to myself since I worked hard to get them on the same napping schedule early on.

kagl08 · February 2013

Qmommy:
I think it's completely unnecessary but I don't know you or your children so you have to be the one to decide. I didn't think 2u2 was all that challenging - especially the little baby phase. You will be amazed at how easy a newborn really is comparatively. I am a sahm and still get at least an hour to myself since I worked hard to get them on the same napping schedule early on.

All of this! I personally wouldn't move. Yes 2u2 is hard, but its not impossible IMO. And I second the SAHM and still getting time to myself. I also worked hard to get them napping the same and I get at least an hr a day to myself because of it. That newborn phase only lasts so long and it gets easier every day (with some hard days mixed in).

PortlandValentineBride · February 2013

Thank you for your responses. It's hard to imagine what it will be like but I am sure we will find a good routine.

norbert5 · February 2013

You could hire a mothers helper. Much cheaper and just as helpful.
I had a friends daughter come to our for four hours a day twice a week. She would hang out with the girls while I got stuff done around the house. It cost us about 5 dollars an hour.

jf198400 · February 2013

I am a WM but was on ML for 14weeks with my 2. My DH was also gone long hours 6am8pm most days. My mil works but did help occasionally but I was able to manage just fine on my own. It's really not as hard as you expect it to be. You'll get into a routine and actually find some time to yourself.

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