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Baby blues/newborn + toddler is HARD

IncogNeatoIncogNeato member
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DH went back to work today and i am beat and feeling down. The day hasn't been as rough as I expected and DD1 has been great, but I feel so pulled in two directions all the time. DD2 has been awake a lot more today and fussy, and won't put up with the swing, bouncer, or sling. I don't know what to do except nurse but that makes it hard to be a good mom to my toddler.. My back hurts, I'm tired, and I think the baby blues are sneaking in because I just feel gloomy. We've watched 2 HOURS of TV today and my mom took DD to her Little Gym class this morning so I can't even act like I haven't had a break.

Sorry to whine. I think I just need a hug... and some wine. And to cry, but  I can't cry in front of DD1. Stupid hormones!

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  • wifeofadamwifeofadam member

    The transition from 1 to 2 is the hardest.  Just remember that toddlers are resilient and will bounce back from a few weeks of this in no time.  I always try to read books and play games with my kids when I'm nursing.

    Hang in there.  It will get better.  The first six weeks is tough, but you'll fall into a routine with them both and in the long run they will be better off with each other.  I promise!!

        
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  • walter7878walter7878

    I have no advice, but I want to tell you I am foreseeing this happening to me. I am kind of starting to freak out about how I'm going to care for two at once. DH thinks it won't be a big deal--easy for him to say! 

    Hang in there! I'm sure you're doing a great job. Here's a virtual hug and some virtual wine. And like anything else, I'm sure it will get easier, so just keep telling yourself that.

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  • mattanda2011mattanda2011 member
    I am in a similar boat. Today was DH first day back at work, althought I am just home with my first who is 2 weeks only. I spent most of the weekend crying in anticipation today. I figured I was going to be so alone and for so long today. I did cry when he first left this morning but other than that the day has gone by pretty quick.
    I can't imagine doing it with 2 at this point. T P your way.

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  • JuliaBugJuliaBug member
    When your DH gets home, take a long shower and have a good cry. I am having such a hard time with my 2 LOs also and am dreading when DH returns to work later this week. Hang in there! 
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  • WinterBensonWinterBenson member
    Hugs! :(
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  • kleigh926kleigh926 member
    Awe, I'm sorry you're feeling down. I just started feeling less gloomy about things today, after a week of being depressed and crying. Without my mom and DH being so supportive, I don't know how I would've made it through. Maybe this will make you feel better- I'm pretty sure I've watched like, 4 hours of TV everyday, and I don't have a toddler!
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  • mom2b22013mom2b22013 member
    Tomorrow my DH goes back to work as well and I'm so nervous. DS has been acting up a bit so it will be interesting tomorrow. Good luck to us all!!! It will get easier, right? 
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  • Tulips114Tulips114 member

    ((Hugs))

    I'm so nervous. 

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  • IncogNeatoIncogNeato member

    Thanks ladies. It really hasn't been nearly as bad as I expected, which is why the gloomies caught me off guard. DD1  is being such a good sport. It's hard to feel like I'm semi-neglecting her when she's being so patient about it. I'm sure I'll regret saying that when she starts acting up but right now I feel like she deserves to be annoyed with me but she just keeps saying, "Mommy, can you please paint/play/etc with me?" and I feel so bad putting her off.

    Ok, pity party over. She's happy taking a bath with DH supervising and I'm nursing. I still feel weepy but I don't want to scare DH so I'll keep it together. I did have some wine. What I REALLY need is some exercise but that will have to wait a little longer.  :-)

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  • kelly321kelly321 member

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    I'm pretty sure we broke DS1.  He just has zero control over his emotions right now and is acting out aggressively.  He bit DH yesterday.  He has NEVER bit before.  I need an exorcist.

    Sad  I think the zero emotional control is normal. So far DD1 is doing great, but I imagine it's only a matter of time before the novelty wears off and she wants things to go back to how they were.

    And Incogneato, I cry in front of DD1 sometimes. It doesn't seems to phase her.


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