Feeling down...One more month full of BFNs

chickyclg · February 2013

So I'm pretty positive AF will once again show her face after another week full of BFNs. She should be hear sometime in the next day or so, but for once I'm kind of anticipating it ( I'll be getting an U/S when she comes). I have felt like a pin cushion this month with all of the blood work, searching for answers for Why me. I know this is just the beginning, and most of you ladies have gone through this much longer, IT JUST SUCKS!!! I got told by a friend's girlfriend that I obviously wasn't meant to be a mom, and it shouldn't require all of the testing and procedures. I just wanted to scream, but instead I cried most of last night. I'm trying to be in a better mood but when I got the BFN this morning it brought those emotions back.

PurplePanda2 · February 2013

clguerra88:
So I'm pretty positive AF will once again show her face after another week full of BFNs. She should be hear sometime in the next day or so, but for once I'm kind of anticipating it ( I'll be getting an U/S when she comes). I have felt like a pin cushion this month with all of the blood work, searching for answers for Why me. I know this is just the beginning, and most of you ladies have gone through this much longer, IT JUST SUCKS!!! I got told by a friend's girlfriend that I obviously wasn't meant to be a mom, and it shouldn't require all of the testing and procedures. I just wanted to scream, but instead I cried most of last night. I'm trying to be in a better mood but when I got the BFN this morning it brought those emotions back.

Ok by this woman's logic then cancer patients aren't meant to live because living shouldn't require all the chemo and tests they have to go through. Unbelievable!

jfb29 · February 2013

Wow! While I'd like to say I'd think of all these witty things to say, I'd probably have reacted more like you did. I hope you at least have her a "death to you" look or another evil glare bc she deserved that at least! Some people really have no freaking clue!

curlylocks3 · February 2013

I'm sorry, what an incredibly insensitive thing for her to have said. Hugs to you.

Twinkie0612 · February 2013

IntuitiveBlue:
clguerra88:
I got told by a friend's girlfriend that I obviously wasn't meant to be a mom, and it shouldn't require all of the testing and procedures. I just wanted to scream, but instead I cried most of last night. I'm trying to be in a better mood but when I got the BFN this morning it brought those emotions back.
And you didn't hit her?! I would have gone nuclear. Having fertility issues HAS NOTHING to do with your quality as a potential mother. Just look at all the knocked up crack whores. You think God wanted them to have children because they'd make better mothers than you? OF COURSE NOT.
Hang in there. When your day comes (and it will) you will be appreciate motherhood so much more because of the struggle to get there. We all will.

This.

OP, you are much more patient than I am, I would have lost it on the b!tch.

scbedi · February 2013

IntuitiveBlue:
clguerra88:
I got told by a friend's girlfriend that I obviously wasn't meant to be a mom, and it shouldn't require all of the testing and procedures.  I just wanted to scream, but instead I cried most of last night.  I'm trying to be in a better mood but when I got the BFN this morning it brought those emotions back.  
And you didn't hit her?!  I would have gone nuclear.  Having fertility issues HAS NOTHING to do with your quality as a potential mother.  Just look at all the knocked up crack whores.  You think God wanted them to have children because they'd make better mothers than you?  OF COURSE NOT.
Hang in there.  When your day comes (and it will) you will be appreciate motherhood so much more because of the struggle to get there.  We all will. 

All of this!! I would have smacked her and I'm not a violent person!!

chickyclg · February 2013

Thanks guys, I was shocked, like that just kicked in the gut feeling. I thought about what could do, (if only I could get away with it).

MrsM507 · February 2013

Wolfette139:
clguerra88:
I got told by a friend's girlfriend that I obviously wasn't meant to be a mom, and it shouldn't require all of the testing and procedures.
Do you require assistance in hiding the body? I've got a shovel.

I'm in, too. I may barely be over 5 feet but my upper body strength is ridiculous!

Seriously though, I am so sorry. People can be so cruel... especially about things they don't understand or know anything about.

honeydooo · February 2013

clguerra88:
I got told by a friend's girlfriend that I obviously wasn't meant to be a mom, and it shouldn't require all of the testing and procedures. I just wanted to scream, but instead I cried most of last night.

What a ***! I don't know what I would've done, probably cursed her stupid self out. Wink I'm so sorry you had to hear that. When you become a mother (and you will), you will be a great mother because you will appreciate it so much more and already know the sacrifice it takes to be a good parent.

icogburn · February 2013

I'm so sorry. Hugs and find some new friends PRONTO! Real ones wouldn't say those type of things or tell you that someone said them!

ksgsmu · February 2013

I am so sorry!

Also that girl is beyond IGNORANT. You are a nicer person than I am.. I would have "talked" to her with a good smack!

KatieDoodle25 · February 2013

Some people have no filter and that is on them! Don't let one negative person bring you down, you will have one lucky kiddo when they arrive. You want to be a mom and you are putting a lot of effort into it, that says a lot about how much you're meant to be a mom. That goes for all the ladies in this forum.

Mochadoodle · February 2013

clguerra88:
I got told by a friend's girlfriend that I obviously wasn't meant to be a mom, and it shouldn't require all of the testing and procedures.

That's awful! I'm so sorry that you had to go thru that.

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