1 gift or 2 at parties?

missfire · February 2013

When you are invited to kid's parties, do you give a gift from each of your kids, or just one from your family? How about for valentines, if your kids are in school?

I've been giving just one family gift, but I'm wondering if I'm being cheap?

mmbench · February 2013

We always do 2 gifts.

rinascita · February 2013

I think it depends... family or friends as well as the event...

In general kids birthdays or things like Valentines Day, my logic is that other people will give each of my children something so my kids would each need to give that person something... so 2 gifts.

WeAreSmalls · February 2013

My twins aren't here yet...but I would base this on relationship to the birthday person, where the party is being held and how much you spend on a gift. If it is a family party at someone's house you may just get one gift from the family. However, if it is a friend party and it is taking place where they host has to pay per attendee, I would either get separate gifts or one pretty nice gift if it is from more than one child.

ShopperKristi · February 2013

I was JUST wondering the same thing last night! Our boys are tiny but we went to a birthday party of a friend's son Saturday and gave one gift as a family. I kind of decided that at this age it is fine but as they get invited individually to their friend's parties I would think it would be proper to bring two gifts. Curious to see other responses!

LottaLattes · February 2013

Valentines, twins or not, each one would give them. Birthday parties, if you don't attend as a family aka once you get to drop off party age one gift per kid. Both my bigs were invited to a twin party and I had them get one gift each but a larger amount they gave gift cards than we would normally spend for a kid party.

LucyRicardo3 · February 2013

I agree with PP about it depending on your relationship to the birthday child, his/her age, and kind of line with how casual the party is.

With my older singles, (before the twins were even a twinkle in my hubby's eye) I'd given parties for them where other sibling groups that attended gave a "family" gift to my kids and I reciprocated the same at those particular kids' parties.

For instance, a parent gave a gift bag with a few items that had a theme and maybe a small amount on a store gift card, but they didn't tag the items with individual names and everyone in that family signed one birthday card along with the gift.

For me, this might be the option I would go with from now on just to help my gift budget go further. But, I realize in different areas of the country this could be a faux pas.

karo112 · February 2013

I seem to be among the minority - but we do one...Now I'm starting to question that -but honestly money is really really tight for us right now....so one.

keg · February 2013

It depends. I guess I've generally done two gifts (often with a similar theme--two Lego kits, two games, etc), but sometimes have done just one larger gift in the $30-$40 range.

groovygrl · February 2013

I look at it more at how much I spent vs the 'number' of gifts. I tend to spend what I would spend normally x2. We haven't been to a ton of parties but I tend to do an assortment of things (eg a jewelry box with some jewelry & hair things in it) vs 1 gift and sign it from both of them. THough I did just go to a party for twins and just gave each twin 1 gift, I did not do 4. But, it was also a last minute invite from a friend who was paying the same for the party space regardless of how many came up to a certain number & she had a couple open spaces & told us to stop by.

Valentines- I have individual ones from each of them (it's easy since they're b/g, his are spiderman & hers are hello kitty) .

erinruns · February 2013

If it's a party where your family is invited, one gift from the family. If it's a party where the kids are invited, two gifts, one from each child. My thought is that if they are paying for two kids to be at the party (bounce house, gymnastics) then we give two gifts.

anakah · February 2013

So far we've done one gift from the both of them. They're only 21 months though so this may change as they get older. In my circle of friends, we do family gifts for each child. The people with 2 (or more) siblings give each of my kids one gift and in return we give each of their kids one gift on each of their birthdays. So each kid gets a gift on their birthday whether their birthdays happen to be on the same day or not.

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