Taking pregnancy for granted

srhouse26 · February 2013

So a coworker of mine is about 2 months behind me due in July. Ever since she announced she was pregnant it's been one complaint after another. I honestly couldn't even tell you the last work related thing I spoke to her about because every time she comes around it's something about her pregnancy and symptoms. I understand the whole misery loves company thing and I also understand that it's her first pregnancy and she's probably just trying to relate to someone. Unfortunately it's getting to the point where this is all she talks about to EVERYONE in the office and it's starting to eat me up.

All I can think of every time she opens her mouth is how many women out there would DIE to be pregnant and in her shoes. She complains about not fitting into maternity clothing yet but not fitting into her old clothes yet and all I can think of is how many women would DIE to be in that position. I've never been one to complain about my pregnancy unless I'm complaining to DH about how awfully I slept lol

I guess I'm just so grateful to be this far in my pregnancy with a healthy baby boy. I didn't struggle to get pregnant but infertility was a huge fear of mine since it's always been my dream to be a mother. It legit makes me sad that all she finds time to do is complain about this beautiful gift.

lhull · February 2013

Its good that u posted this. I sometimes catch myself being less than thrilled with this experience. Don't get me wrong, I planned this pregnancy and am looking forward to expanding our family. I often think about ladies who struggle to conceive and I am very grateful.

Thanks for posting.

jerseygirl81 · February 2013

I would be annoyed that she's a negative person in general, but I wouldn't judge people who complain about their pregnancies. My three closest friends in the world have all struggled with IF and all were lucky enough to have successful IVF cycles. We all discuss our pregnancies and there is a decent amount of complaining that goes on. It's not a pleasure cruise.

Am I 100% thankful and over-the-moon excited that we're adding to our family? Of course! Am I going to feel guilty about complaining because every time I sneeze I piss myself and I have awful heartburn and can't sleep more than 2 hours a night because my hips hurt? No.

botanicalbliss · February 2013

Pregnancy is no cake walk, but complaining about every little thing to everyone is over the top. It does make me sad since I have known so many women to go through IF.

GoMaltby18 · February 2013

I agree with PPs who say pregnancy is not easy. (at least not this one, my first two were) That said, I am selective about where I complain. I complain to MH and my mom and BFF (and here sometimes) but I rarely post anything about my pregnancy on FB because I have no idea who of my friends might be struggling to get pregnant and I don't want to be a jerk. I'm sorry your coworker is annoying.

srhouse26 · February 2013

The complaining in general I guess is what I find annoying. But she's fairly new here and I feel like doesn't know everyone well enough to complain to the extent that she does. Another coworker of mine has a medical history that may leave her unable to have children, she's not sure yet since she's still in the process of healing but whenever she's around and the complaining starts... i try to quickly change the subject. I feel like it's a touchy thing to publicly complain about. It's one thing if it's between a group of friends, I agree it's no cakewalk... but it's another to openly complain about something that someone near to you may be really hurt by. Just an observation I guess.

Lord knows I'm not perfect and I've done my share of complaining. But with all the women out there suffering, it's a touchy subject.

LaineyPaney · February 2013

Say: You will hopefully take home a baby at the end of this journey. Be grateful for that.

Let her think about that for a while. If it doesn't sit well with her or she asks what you mean, then tell her: all you do is complain to me about your pregnancy. If its really that miserable for you, I'm sorry. But there are others in this world that would give anything to be in your shoes. While you may be uncomfortable now, don't lose sight of this amazing blessing that YOU get.

Lolalipsy · February 2013

Apart from feeling the little one pregnancy pretty much sucks in general in my opinion. There's no point in complaining though because no matter how I felt I wouldn't swap this for the world. I feel blessed to even be pregnant. I don't really like moaning Minnie's anyway...life's too short!

rebaann · February 2013

It took me so long to get here that I try very very hard not to complain about anything outside the privacy of my own house.

kbelly777 · February 2013

I definitely needed this reminder. I try so hard not to complain, but I know I give in sometimes. When people ask me "How are you feeling?" I really want to be honest and say "My back hurts so bad right now that I almost want to cry". Sigh, I usually smile and just say "pretty good". I don't want to give the impression that I am not thankful or don't realize what a blessing this pregnancy is. But, geez, I'm kinda miserable sometimes and I just want to say that.

TheyCalledHerKate · February 2013

I think some people just complain about everything. If she broke her leg or something she'd likely be the type to complain daily about the challenges and pains associated with breaking her leg.

Some women have very difficult and complicted pregnancies and I'm sure many of them wish their biggest complaint was about their clothes not fitting. I think it's important to focus on how blessed we are to be carrying a child. Yes there are pains and discomforts, for some moreso than others, but it's important to stay positive.

MommaG123 · February 2013

Dude, some people just complain a lot and for some people pregnancy effing sucks.

I don't get the whole pregnant people should never complain because it's such a gift thing. Yes there are some women who would die to be pregnant right now just like there are some people in the world who would die to have a roof over their heads right now or food on their plate right now. I can still complain about having to mow my lawn or clean my house or having to make dinner when I have such horrible m/s and it doesn't make me any less grateful for the fact that I have a roof over my head and food on my table or a baby in my belly.

jayro10 · February 2013

MommaG123:
Dude, some people just complain a lot and for some people pregnancy effing sucks.I don't get the whole pregnant people should never complain because it's such a gift thing. nbsp;Yes there are some women who would die to be pregnant right now just like there are some people in the world who would die to have a roof over their heads right now or food on their plate right now. nbsp;I can still complain about having to mow my lawn or clean my house or having to make dinner when I have such horrible m/s and it doesn't make me any less grateful for the fact that I have a roof over my head and food on my table or a baby in my belly.

Exactly.
And I know someone who struggled with IF for years. When she finally had a successful IVF, she still talked about how miserable being pregnant can be... But never once did I think that she was ungrateful. It's just HARD.

MaggieMooMom · February 2013

jerseygirl81:
I would be annoyed that she's a negative person in general, but I wouldn't judge people who complain about their pregnancies. My three closest friends in the world have all struggled with IF and all were lucky enough to have successful IVF cycles. We all discuss our pregnancies and there is a decent amount of complaining that goes on. It's not a pleasure cruise.
Am I 100% thankful and over-the-moon excited that we're adding to our family? Of course! Am I going to feel guilty about complaining because every time I sneeze I piss myself and I have awful heartburn and can't sleep more than 2 hours a night because my hips hurt? No.

Pretty much my thoughts.

EDIT: And I don't post complaints on FB or openly complain. However if someone asks me how I'm feeling and that day I feel like complete crap for xyz reasons, I tell them the truth. Hey, they asked.

katester42 · February 2013

MommaG123:
Dude, some people just complain a lot and for some people pregnancy effing sucks.
I don't get the whole pregnant people should never complain because it's such a gift thing. Yes there are some women who would die to be pregnant right now just like there are some people in the world who would die to have a roof over their heads right now or food on their plate right now. I can still complain about having to mow my lawn or clean my house or having to make dinner when I have such horrible m/s and it doesn't make me any less grateful for the fact that I have a roof over my head and food on my table or a baby in my belly.

Agreed. I'm not ungrateful for being pregnant but I can honestly say I'm not enjoying pregnancy. I'm in the pregnancy effing sucks category but I looked at it as a means to an end. I keep telling myself everything I'm going through will be worth it when I'm holding our son.

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