It's been asked possibly 100 times but I see so many newer names on here that I'm curious- if you registered when? Did you register after selecting an agency, after a certain period of time, upon matching, maybe bringing baby home? Or did you opt to purchase the basics yourself and call it a day?
Ohh.. and since we're on it: Shower, Welcome Baby, Nada, or Special Snowflake
Re: If you registered... when?
I have a wishlist going on Amazon right now, but that's mostly to help me remember what I want to buy or register for when the time comes.
I think we'll probably plan on registering (and accepting offers of shower) after we are homestudy approved, but before we're matched. We plan on purchasing the important stuff ourselves (furniture, car seat, stroller, cloth diapers, some basic clothing items, etc.), but I've already had people ask me about whether or not we would like to have a shower, so I anticipate we will have at least one.
Of course we may change our minds about all of this, but as of now (while we're gathering HS paper work, etc.), this is our plan.
TTC since June 2009
01/10- Femara
03/10- Femara
07/2010- Clomid with injectables and IUI #1
08/2010- IUI #2
06/2011- IVF #1 BFP!
09/2011- Miscarriage at 10 1/2 weeks
11/2011- FET
01/2012- Start Home Study process
03/2012- Home Study approved and now waiting on our child to find us!
07/2012- matched with a BM who is due in October!
11/10/12- our son is born!
11/13/12- court grants us custody!
12/28/12- finalization! Always ours in our hearts, but.now also ours forever
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We have an emergency registry... One that we can hand off a credit card and a list of items to my parents that they can purchase should we need to travel for a baby.
Otherwise? We're not doing a real registry until 30 days after the birth- ie. finalization of TPR.
We purchased a lot before LO was born. Way more than we actually needed for that first month.
We registered after being matched. A few close friends/family bought us things before bringing LO home, but the majority of the items were purchased for our showers, which ended up happening about a month after LO was born.
She's Forever Ours! Finaliaztion-12.26.12
My friend registered us on on Buy Buy Baby one day when you were lounging on her couch...she has had two kids and put on her "must haves." Once we are matched or closer to when the baby is born I will go on and update it. I live 3 min from Buy Buy Baby(dangerous) so I can go in at anytime.
I am leaning more and more toward a Welcome Baby "Blank" Bash instead of a shower. I feel like why not have a fun ass bash while we are at it spending so much money lol. Especially if it is in the summer I def want to do it this way..have a huge backyard party and maybe hire a band to play..have a bonfire, BBQ, drinks! I would probably do this a few weeks after coming home. I feel like it would be a great excuse to have everyone over women and men and just have a fun party while people also meet our new little one.
I started an amazon wishlist very early, but didn't make it public until our profile went active.
We had a post-baby shower when DD was 7 weeks. Just like a regular shower, just with the baby there.
We registered last week. We haven't really told anyone about it yet, and will wait to do so until we're officially matched (which could come as soon as this week with 2 different situations).
Honestly, even though we've already gone through one failed match in December, I think we'll probably have a shower after we're matched at some point. I've got a family and some coworkers who REALLY want to throw us a shower. Given the upfront cost that everything has been for the adoption already, the idea of having to spend a ton more money just to outfit the nursery and such is kinda overwhelming. We know we'll be parents at some point, and it sounds like not too long from now, so we're just gonna go with it. People have been very understanding of the process so they know there's always potential for the BMs to change their minds.
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Evan James was born 1/24/13 and matched with us 2/20/13. The LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!
We bought the basics ourselves.
We started a registry after we went active with our agency, updated with more specifics after our match.
I was thrown a baby shower when DD was about 2 weeks old.
Shower in May!
Hoping to have it after home study but before match. We are registering now, and my mom and dad bought us a crib.
ETA: We are mid-home study and have already chosen our agencies.
15 treatment cycles: four early m/c
Moving forward with domestic infant adoption!
Home study approved 5/13, now just waiting...