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June 2012 Moms
topaz7777
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Ugh the dog is back. *vent*
topaz7777
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So well before I got pregnant, DH's dog bit me in the face. 14 hours at the hospital, a year of waiting for my scars to mature, and one plastic surgery later, I finally feel like people won't really notice anymore. Before DD was even conceived I had a conversation with DH about his dog not being at the house if we had a baby. We even arranged to have his parents keep the dog.
They continued to let the dog run around outside off leash and take it for off leash walks. One of those walks, the dog and another dog got in a fight. That owner called animal control and the dog was picked up. Two weeks later, the entire family is crying and trying to figure out how to get the dog home. It couldn't stay with DH's parents anymore because they rent and the Landlord said they can't keep a dangerous dog on the property.
So, I get pregnant, and the entire time I was freaking out about having the dog in the house. DH's parents arranged to take the dog and kept him until DD was 6 weeks old. DH's father started drinking (he is a recovering alcoholic) so we ended up with the dog again. He got sober again a few weeks later and the dog went back.
Now someone wrote a letter to the landlord about the dog running around off leash again and they have to get rid of him again. So tonight the dog is coming back to my house. I'm so mad. Seriously, they know the dog has bitten before and continue to be irresponsible. Now it's my problem and I have to figure out a way to keep him away from my soon to be crawling LO. Why am I the only one who remembers what this dog did to me?? Do they think I look normal so it's like it never happened?
Factor V Leiden Homozygous, Advanced Maternal Age
TTC #1, 5 yrs, PCOS, Femera + Ovidrel.
IUI#3 BFP, DD 5/31/2012
TTC #2, 2 yrs, PCOS, Femera+Ovidrel
IUI#2 BFP!
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Re: Ugh the dog is back. *vent*
what does your husband have to say about this? If it were me, I would just put my foot down and say the dog is NOT coming back. He's obviously a dangerous dog and cannot be around an infant or small child. If the dog is that important to your husband, maybe he'll have to find a friend to permanently adopt the dog or find some other arrangement.
I agree. I've never rehomed a dog and we have two other dogs that are mostly outside dogs, so I can't even keep this dangerous dog outside. I've tried to find a family member or friend who will take the dog but none of them can, or want to. The only ones that want the dog is DH's parents. So because I can't find a home for him, it feels a lot like if I put my foot down and say no, he can't live here, I'm basically sentancing him to be put down. It just really sucks. DH loves this stupid dog. Fortunately he also doesn't want our DD's face near the dog's unpredictable teeth.
Factor V Leiden Homozygous, Advanced Maternal Age
TTC #1, 5 yrs, PCOS, Femera + Ovidrel.
IUI#3 BFP, DD 5/31/2012
TTC #2, 2 yrs, PCOS, Femera+Ovidrel
IUI#2 BFP!
I know this will probably not be a popular opinion, but if I was in your shoes, I would have to euthanize the dog. Sending it to live with someone else is just making the dog's aggression someone else's problem, not really solving the problem. I have two dogs myself and love them to bits, but they would see an early end to their days if this happened. I'm sorry that you're faced with such a yucky decision, but honestly I think it's the most responsible thing to do at this point.
I'm with you on this, and I'm a huge dog lover.
I had a friend recently who rescued a pitmix from a shelter. The dog was normally sweet, but it would snap out of nowhere. It ended up taking my friend's thumb off, and the infection got really nasty. It could have killed him. There's no way in hell I would let the dog live with me or my child if it's an aggressive dog. There's no way I would pass the problem along either.
Factor V Leiden Homozygous, Advanced Maternal Age
TTC #1, 5 yrs, PCOS, Femera + Ovidrel.
IUI#3 BFP, DD 5/31/2012
TTC #2, 2 yrs, PCOS, Femera+Ovidrel
IUI#2 BFP!
I am biased about this - but keep that dog away from your baby. Our family friends have lived for twelve years now without their sweet little boy because their dog decided to crush his skull.
The dog bit (skin was not broken) once before but because the family took their responsibility towards animals very seriously they refused to rehome the dog. They did everything right, obedience lessons, aggression testing, keeping the dog away from the baby, etc. Whatever someone can say "you should have" they did.
One day the dog broke free and as the baby's mother carried him out the front door the dog lunged.
Animals deserve a lot more respect than they get most of the time, but your baby comes first.
TTC #1 since 5/10
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I am so sorry you have to be in this situation, and I know it must really be hard for you DH. But please fight and yell and scream to not have the dog back in your house. My family and DHs family are huge dog people and have trained dogs and I know that situation would kill me and break my heart, but that dog can not be trusted. Even the best trained and easy going pet can suddenly bite. I hope you can get through to them... I think you are in an unfair situation, you shouldn't have to talk anyone into your safety. Good Luck
Please don't feel like you have to give in already. It's a battle worth fighting and drawing the line definitely! When people say you have to pick your battles with inlaws, parents, husbands, this would definitely be the battle worth fighting.
Seeing that the dog has had a past with aggressive behavior coupled with the fact that his environment keeps changing you never know what will cause this dog to snap again.
I agree with all the comments on this one. We are huge dog lovers at our house with rescue dogs and I know it would be hard on my DH to have to make this sort of decision but there is really no option and he has to figure out a way to come to terms with that.
When I was six years old my Dad was on a volunteer ambulance squad, a call came in and we were out in town near the accident so he responded with me in the car. A baby girl bit in the face by the family dog, that image will forever be burned into my memory. Can you and the baby stay with friends for a few days while a decision is made?
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