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jessica14marie
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Miscarriage Question
jessica14marie
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This may be a very silly question (please don't judge, haha), and I've tried looking it up but can't find anything. I found out I was pregnant last week and I am so excited because my husband and I have been wanting a baby for a while. I'm extremely nervous at the same time because I had no idea how common miscarriages were until I found this website. I was just wondering if the odds of miscarriage has anything to do with how long it took to get pregnant? I'm assuming it doesn't but thought I'd ask since I've been curious. For example, if it took someone a long time to get pregnant does that make their odds of miscarriage higher than someone that got pregnant within the first month?
Thanks for your opinions/answers in advance! & I hope this isn't a ridiculous question, haha.
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Re: Miscarriage Question
I guess it all depends on if there is a medical reason behind why it took so long for the woman to conceive. Some medical conditions increase the risk of miscarriage. For example, women with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) often have trouble TTC, and when or if they become pregnant, their risk of miscarriage is higher than women without this medical condition.
I always read that 1 in 3 woman's pregnancies end in miscarriage, which I agree is VERY high.
It's hard to say why you had trouble TTC. Each situation is individualized. It takes an average couple at least 6 months before they conceive a child. That's just the way it goes!
Good luck with your pregnancy!
As PP said, there is no "blanket" statement that can be made re: trying for a longer time = greater chance of miscarriage. There are lots of individual risk factors, like implanting later than 10 days, having sex a longer time prior to ovulation, maternal age, physical organ structure, clotting factors, etc. that all play into an individual's risk.
The good news is that your risk continues to drop every week, and drops drastically after you see a healthy heartbeat.
The bad news is that you won't stop worrying for the rest of your life. I almost had a heart attack this afternoon when my 1 year old fell down from a standing position onto her face and whacked her head so hard that it took the longest 15 seconds of my life before she could even take a breath to cry. When I stood there holding her and watching her face just frozen in sheer sadness but unable to even breath because she she was so shocked, I realized for the 8 millionth time that parenting goes hand in hand with worry, and no amount of knowing the odds will change that...
But good luck and try to live every day in the moment and happy for another day of being pregnant--that is what I try to do!
Thank you, that does make sense. I just wish I could STOP reading so much stuff on miscarriage and just relax a little bit. My first appointment is almost a month away and I cannot wait for that. I think once I see/hear the heartbeat I will be fine.
Not a stupid question.
Remember, so many women miscarry before they even know that they are pregnant as well.
My doctor told me to remember, if it is going to happen, it's going to happen, sadly. I think the best thing you can do is to not stress out about it. Take your vitamins.
My husband is a doctor--so he knew all too well all the things that could (but all not likely to) go wrong with a pregnancy. During my last pregnancy, I spotted on and off for the first 3 weeks after I found out I was pregnant (I now have a super healthy daughter who is turning 1 this month). During the days when I was spotting, my husband just kept repeating to me that we were going to have a baby to take home and love. If this pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, then it just wasn't time yet for our take home baby. Because "our" baby was going to come home with us. It was a very comforting way to think about things--don't know if that might help you to think about.
This is great!
I went through that the 3 weeks before my first appointment. I've actually heard that the 1 in 3 involves miscarriages that the woman didn't even know she was pregnant... My doctor said its 15% before heartbeat; 3% after heartbeat and 1% after 1st trimester is over... so that helped me a TON!