Am I a terrible mother?

martacaroline · February 2013

I took my son out to experience snow for the first time today. We were outside my home for 5 mins max to take pictures and the first few mins I sat him down in a snowsuit without mittens so he could touch snow for the first time. I put two pictures up on Facebook and two people wrote a comment asking where his mittens were and that his fingers must have been freezing. This really upset me, that anyone would think that I was neglecting my son in any way. What do you guys think? Was I wrong??

alizabethanne · February 2013

No. I am very sure you wouldn't leave mittens off for more then a few seconds. People and Facebook just suck. FB is a great place for comments like that and unsolicited advice. Don't be too upset over it. If you share pictures in the future just think of all the possible stupid comments people could come up with before posting. Sadly sharing your life with your friends online leaves everything up to their interpretation.

freezorburn · February 2013

alizabethanne:
Sadly sharing your life with your friends online leaves everything up to their interpretation.

This is why I don't post pictures of DS on Facebook. If I want to share photos of DS with family and friends, I use old-fashioned email or a password protected share site. Then I can control who sees it and let them know exactly what is going on in the picture.

selockar · February 2013

I did the same thing today. LO loved being out in the snow!

littleredfish · February 2013

I would have just commented back "you really think that highly of me that I would leave my child out with no mittens on for an extended period of time? It's a picture, they were off for 2 minutes, he had fun and lived to keep his fingers. Thanks for your concern but it's not necessary." and left it at that. It's a picture, they need to relax.

aldavis78 · February 2013

freezorburn:
alizabethanne:
Sadly sharing your life with your friends online leaves everything up to their interpretation.
This is why I don't post pictures of DS on Facebook. If I want to share photos of DS with family and friends, I use old-fashioned email or a password protected share site. Then I can control who sees it and let them know exactly what is going on in the picture.

This is what we do too.

Tweets06 · February 2013

I did the same thing today (minus the photos) with DD. She didn't care at all about the snow, but I'm sure it doesn't make us bad mothers.

T

kpearse99 · February 2013

I think you are a wonderful mother for allowing your LO to explore snow!!!

theboki · February 2013

People are a$$holes. How dare they judge you.

laurenhankey · February 2013

NO! Not at all!!! We did the very same thing on my daughter's first snow! We let her down and even let her get a handful and eat it! A little baby outside for a few minutes without mittens is NOT going to get hurt! It's awesome to let them have new experiences!

DawnLilly · February 2013

Umm, I live in a Canadian border state. I doubt if I had posted the same picture that anyone would have said anything about it. It's all about relativity. If a mom from southern California posted a picture of her baby on the beach with no sun hat on it might strike me as odd but I'd never say anything. People like to find reasons to judge. You're fine. I bring snow in and put it on DS's high chair tray so that he can play with it. It's not like his fingers are going to get frost bit. It's a new texture and temperature. It's interesting.

APendola · February 2013

When I take her on an outing by car, I never put mittens on her because they would just fall off and she's only outside for half a minute anyway. It's not going to kill her. When we go for walks, she is bundled up in a snow suit with built in mittens.

I would just write on your facebook, "I was letting her touch the snow for a new experience", or you can write nothing at all. People are idiots if they think you'd have her out for a long time like that.

Jinnifah · February 2013

I'm sorry these people made you feel so terrible. I really like the above response, put 'em in their place

martacaroline · February 2013

After one OTHER person wrote something about his mittens, I couldn't help it but write the following status update last night:
"For those who inquired, Matt's fingers are still perfect and free of frostbite after today's two minutes in the snow."

I got many Likes and a few people apologized privately. I just had to say it.

Jinnifah · February 2013

martacaroline:
After one OTHER person wrote something about his mittens, I couldn't help it but write the following status update last night: "For those who inquired, Matt's fingers are still perfect and free of frostbite after today's two minutes in the snow." I got many Likes and a few people apologized privately. I just had to say it.

Good for you. Maybe they'll think next time they decide to judge a mom for something ridiculous

jess9802 · February 2013

There are Sanctimommies everywhere. Try to have a good sense of humor about it, and don't let them rattle you.

blushingbride_08 · February 2013

Don't feel bad. I took my LO out without a coat in the snow! I put him on a bunch of layers of clothing and a hat and gloves and carried him in an ergo with a blanket. I took him out of the ergo for a few pics in the snow. He doesn't have a coat because I never bought one because he is always in the car or stroller bundled up. When I heard about the snow storm I tried to get him a snow suit but all the stores had sold out and only had spring clothes. So don't feel bad. I'm sure you are a good mom (just like me.)

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