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Let's talk about sex!

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I got this idea from a previous post a couple days go about romance and a few people replied.  How often is everyone getting it on?  I feel like we aren't enough but I know we are both tired!  I would say once a month is doing good although I would prefer it more.  Pre-baby we had sex regularly, about 3-4 times a week.  I know my H is tired though and right now he's sick :(  How often ladies?!
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  • ElleCee41809ElleCee41809

    We're about 1-2 times a week. We both have such full plates right now with work and being parents that by the time we get into bed we're both exhausted and just want to sleep. It's sad but sometimes we're in bed and asleep 30 minutes after DD goes to sleep...which is about 8:30!

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  • bellelambbellelamb member
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    We're about 12 times a week. We both have such full plates right now with work and being parents that by the time we get into bed we're both exhausted and just want to sleep. It's sad but sometimes we're in bed and asleep 30 minutes after DD goes to sleep...which is about 8:30!


    Holy cow!! We haven't done that since ttc :

    We are about every other week, but with three kids who are not great sleepers its hard to find time and or energy. I do miss alone time even if its not sex.
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  • picklesxpicklesx member
    Maybe once a month. I've never had much of a sex drive and after baby it has become pretty much non existent. DH is not happy with it and it has caused many, many fights. But it is uncomfortable on the border of painful and the thought of it really just grosses me out. Plus I am so tired all the time and resentful toward DH as it is. My Marriage postbaby has not been pleasant so it isnt much of a surprise that our sex life has gone down the toilet.
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  • ElleCee41809ElleCee41809

    imagepicklesx:
    Maybe once a month. I've never had much of a sex drive and after baby it has become pretty much non existent. DH is not happy with it and it has caused many, many fights. But it is uncomfortable on the border of painful and the thought of it really just grosses me out. Plus I am so tired all the time and resentful toward DH as it is. My Marriage postbaby has not been pleasant so it isnt much of a surprise that our sex life has gone down the toilet.

    I can totally relate to this. It's hard to get down and dirty when all you want to do is punch him in the face.

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  • willadieselstmwilladieselstm member

    DH and I have had issues with sex since about 2 years in to our relationship.  He just has never really had much of a drive.  So I was always the initiator.  That being said prebaby we had sex about every other week.  TTC it was almost every day. :)  Which was great.  After baby, I am just NOT happy with my body, so I no longer initiate it. I just feel so self conscious, which I know is silly, because my H loves me regardless.  So it is MAYBE once a month, or more in between.  I hate it, and I feel like if I could just lose some weight it would be much more.  But between full time job, taking care of baby, dog, and husband, I am exhausted by the time 8 pm rolls around.  I just go to bed. 

    That is the thing I miss most about our prebaby life. 

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  • huskymomma94huskymomma94 member
    imageElleCee41809:

    imagepicklesx:
    Maybe once a month. I've never had much of a sex drive and after baby it has become pretty much non existent. DH is not happy with it and it has caused many, many fights. But it is uncomfortable on the border of painful and the thought of it really just grosses me out. Plus I am so tired all the time and resentful toward DH as it is. My Marriage postbaby has not been pleasant so it isnt much of a surprise that our sex life has gone down the toilet.

    I can totally relate to this. It's hard to get down and dirty when all you want to do is punch him in the face.


    Yup. That's where I am too.


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    imageElleCee41809:

    imagepicklesx:
    Maybe once a month. I've never had much of a sex drive and after baby it has become pretty much non existent. DH is not happy with it and it has caused many, many fights. But it is uncomfortable on the border of painful and the thought of it really just grosses me out. Plus I am so tired all the time and resentful toward DH as it is. My Marriage postbaby has not been pleasant so it isnt much of a surprise that our sex life has gone down the toilet.

    I can totally relate to this. It's hard to get down and dirty when all you want to do is punch him in the face.

    Yup. That's where I am too.

     

    I am also in this boat. It's good to know that I am not alone.  

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  • joshandpandajoshandpanda member

    wow... lol... I feel like a sex fiend lol...

    I'd say we have sex (both for fun, and ttc purposes) at least 5 times a week... at least... Honestly, I think my sex drive is much better now than it has been in the past...  

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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    We're anywhere from 1-3 times a week. Depends on the week. If I'm super tired and DH isn't being helpful, it's once. If DD has been sleeping well, and DH does a few things around the house to help me out, if 3 or sometimes more.
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  • NatPhoto09NatPhoto09 member
    12 a week. Hubby has been extra needy in that dept since ds2 and wishes for more. But with 2 the energy is not there for me.
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  • selockarselockar member
    Usually, once or twice a week. We both seem pretty happy with that.
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  • kcircellkcircell
    To comment on the painful side of things, I have been having such extreme discomfort everytime we even try that I saw my regular OB and then a vag specialist and after all that they said it is lack of estrogen cuases by my breastfeeding. So depressing it just sucks for the both of us right now!
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  • tryston123tryston123 member
    we are pretty regular now (3-4 times a week) but it did take a while to get back to that... although my DH is kinda literally making the time for it lol... like getting up just a little bit earlier to get his haha
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  • bloverdebloverde member
    Only 4 times total since LO was born. And never successfully. It's way too painful to keep going past 5 minutes. It's fairly depressing.
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  • bellelambbellelamb member
    Try lots and lots of lube if it hurts, while bfing it's important. Atleast for me!
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  • bloverdebloverde member
    Yeah, we've tried. Like a half a bottle per session and reapplying in the middle several times. It still hurts. A lot.
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  • rubber_chickenrubber_chicken member

    we haven't successfully had sex yet.  we tried once, with TONS of lube, and it was so uncomfortable i nearly started to cry.  and since then, neither of us has initiated.

    we do want to have a second kid eventually, so at some point we'll talk about it. 

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