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JodyA118JodyA118
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When did you give her the gift? After Consent is signed? After baby is born? before baby is born?

 What are some appropriate gift ideas?

 

Thanks!! 

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    Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    After birth, before consent. Ours was an emergency placement, so we got her flowers. Some people get charm bracelets, initial or birthstone necklaces, or a mom's gift basket of stuff to make them comfy at the hospital.
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    IRRIRR member
    Personally after having a failed match 10 minutes before leaving the hospital, I wouldn't give anything until consent is signed and waiting period is over.  Depending on the state, there might be limits to gifts as well.
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    MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member
    We bought her a goody bag for the hospital: magazines, hard candy, flavored water, comfy socks, nightgown. Then after consent was signed we gave her a spa gift crd. Our agency told us that was the way it had to be.
    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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    dholsappdholsapp member
    I had two keychains made, one for her and one for me. They said, "...and so together we are motherhood." And a charm on the keychain with DS's initials. The quote was pulled from the longer quote ," he is hers in a way he will never be mine and mine in a way he will never be hers, and so together we are motherhood." I explained the quote to BM in a letter I wrote her. All was given after TPR was signed. 

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    steph196steph196 member

    We gave the gift to BM after everything was signed. We were in the hospital room, my sister in law said a beautiful prayer for BM, we said a few words, and then we gave her the gift. I explained the meaning behind the gift and of course, cried my eyes out! We got her the Tiffany open heart lariat necklace. It was significant because in order for the necklace to stay together, the large heart has to go through the center of the small heart. It signifies BM and LO, and how BM will always be linked to LO. BM's mother added that the chain signifies us (the APs), tying all 3 parties together. 

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    crene84crene84 member
    We made her a gift basket for the hospital and she seemed really touched by it.  I included chocolates, a bunch of travel-sized toiletries, fluffy socks, etc.  I also included a hand-written note telling her how much it meant to us.  
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    orangecupcakeorangecupcake member

    We gave it to her after birth, before consent. BM and us sat for a few hours and talked to get to know each other and we both shared our fears (ours that she would change her mind, and hers that we wouldn't keep our agreement of pictures/letters/visits). We gave it to her then. 

    We gave her a photo album to keep the pictures in we would send and I ordered a necklace off etsy that was stamped metal that said "I carry you in my heart." 

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