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Success after IF
IBackBevo
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May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
My new nanny has IF
IBackBevo
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So we hired a new nanny and today was her first day. I watched her on our security system from my phone and basically all she did all day long was sit there and hold and dote on my LO...which is pretty much exactly what I want.
After I got home, I started talking to her and she is going through IF right now. She has PCOS and has done 3 rounds of clomid and metformin with no success. I suggested Femara instead of Clomid and also told her she needs to go to an RE instead of just an OB. She was saying they were saving up for IUI or IVF.
The crazy thing is that DH and I have more people in our group of friends/acquintances and family members who have had IF problems than those who have not.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
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Re: My new nanny has IF
Unexplained Infertility
After two Clomid cycles, three injectable IUI cycles, two IVFs, two miscarriages, and one lap surgery, IVF #2 has brought us our little boy!
TTC #2
After months of being postponed or cancelled, FET #1.3 (Natural FET) brought us twin girls!
It sucks she is struggling too, but it's nice that she has you to talk to about things!
I am completely opposite of you guys in that I hardly knew anyone who struggled with getting pregnant other than one of DH's cousins who ended up adopting and I'm not close with her so we never really talked about that kind of stuff anyway. I do have an old childhood friend who did IVF, but she never really talks about it. In fact, out all of my friends bedsides the one I don't know a single person who tried for longer than 3 months before getting pregant so I felt totally isolated and alone during all of our struggles. That's why I turned to thebump to seek help/support!
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
I also knew no one who had any trouble getting KU until I found out my SIL did. Now I know one other person too. But all my friends were either KU the first try or while trying not to.
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
So glad you found a new nanny! That stinks that she is struggling with IF. There is no way I could have nannied a baby or toddler when dealing with IF. Just seeing babies made me so sad.
If all she wants to do is hold your LO, can you clone her and send her my way or the summer?
I have one good friend IRL who struggled with IF. She is finally pregnant from IVF #3, which is super awesome. One other college friend has IVF twins, but I think that is all of the people I know for sure. I have others that I suspect, but I don't want to ask.
Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!!
Ditto this!
So far (based on the one day) she seems like she will be a good fit.
I guess I am in the minority of seeming to know a TON of people who have experienced IF.
I have two brothers. Neither have children due to some form of IF. One, his wife had high FSH (she was also late 30's/early 40's when they were TTC) and then ultimately she had to have a hysterectomy...and they can't afford to adopt. So they will never have children. The other brother's wife has had two surgeries for fibroids. They are TTC right now and seeing an RE. They have tried Clomid without success so my guess is that the next step is either IUI or IVF. I am sure the fact that she is 38 and he is 44 also contributes to their problems.
I also have a cousin who didn't have a problem getting pregnant, but had a late miscarriage. Then her brother and his wife are having to adopt because she has Premature Ovarian Failure (at 29!).
One of my college roommates has been going through ART for a year - done about 6 to 8 unsuccessful IUI's in the last year- and they are doing their first round of IVF right now.
One of my other good friends had PCOS and had to take metformin. WHile she was able to get pregnant relatively easily from that, her baby had a chromosomal abnormality & has had major health issues.
One of my other good friends also had PCOS. Went through multiple rounds of clomid, clomid IUI, etc. Eventually went to injectable IUI's. Got pregnant with triplets which she miscarried. Then she got pregnant again through injectable IUI's with triplets, miscarried one and finally had twins.
Another friend had PCOS and was never able to conceive and ended up adopting.
Another good friend went through 7 years of IF, multiple surgeris (for endo) and multiple rounds of IUI and IVF before finally having her daughter.
My DH's best friend had low sperm count. They did IVF with no success and ended up adopting.
And my paralegal (she tells me her problem was "crappy eggs" but I suspect she had DOR) tried on her own for several years with charting, then did like a years worth of IUI's and then several IVF cycles before finally having her daughter. Her story is probably even more remarkable because out of several IVF cycles, they only made it to transfer ONE TIME with ONE EGG and that one egg is now her daughter.
...and there are probably more I can't think of. Whew. That is alot of IF!!! Maybe there is something in the water down here in Texas!!!!!!!!
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
I'm glad you are happy with her so far. I'm sure there is a reason you two have been brought together.
I know at least 5 of the girls in my sorority pledge class have struggled with IF and have had children through fert frugs+TI, IUI, IVF, or adoption. And those are just the ones I have opened up to. There are few others who are still child free and I'm not entirely sure if that is by choice or not.
Plus, my first cousin is struggling with 2IF.
The more open I am about my own struggles, the more people share theirs with me.