NTTGPR: What do you call SO's parents?

*Mrs*Rohrbaugh* · February 2013

What do you call your SO's parents? Do you call them by their name? Call them mom or dad?

I call the ILs by their first name. I feel like saying mom or dad would be weird for me.

Mochadoodle · February 2013

I call them by their first names.

bornmommy · February 2013

First names. I use Grandma and Grandpa now, too.

lmills730 · February 2013

I use their first names, although I do call DH's grandma "gram" because that's what everyone calls her.

ColinTheRobot · February 2013

First names. My parents never called their ILs mom & dad, so it seemed weird to me that I would.

But then my Mom got married the second time (just 5 or 6 years ago) and couldn't ever remember which nickname her MIL liked & didn't like - so now she calls her Mom. I still can't get used to it.

Akiesha · February 2013

I call them by their first names.

alishab81 · February 2013

First names.

pantherRN · February 2013

First names, but I do call H's grandparents Grandma and Grandpa.

KLN1179 · February 2013

I call them crazy idiots...oh you mean what name! I call them by their first names. There is no way on God's green Earth I could ever call them mom or dad.

RustyGirl3 · February 2013

I call them Mom and Dad.

It was weird at first, but I have known them since I was17 years old (34 now) I absolutely cannot call them by their first names...that would be even more weird for me.

swirl25 · February 2013

I call them by their first names. My FIL actually prefers it that way (he was the type of dad that wanted DH's friends to call him by his first name growing up). I'm in the camp of "I already have a mom and dad, so it would be weird to call my ILs that". I definitely don't feel close enough to my MIL to call her "Mom", anyway, so there's that. We get along fine, but let's just say she's good at testing the nerves of most people around her!

pohare33 · February 2013

first names. my own mom told me she was the only mother i'd ever have and i better not be calling anyone else "mom." ookaay...

LadyXaverian · February 2013

Before I ever had my first chance to call them anything, my now MIL let me know that I was to call them by their first names. She said she that knew before she ever had children she knew she wanted her children-in-law to call her by her name because her own ILs would not allow her to call them by their first names. She had to call her FIL Mr. Lastname and her MIL by a common nickname for grandmothers. Tongue Tied

(She refused to call her MIL by that nickname, so she just never called her anything.)

Tamma254 · February 2013

I call my MIL by her first name, to me, it's weird to call her anything else. DH and I disagree on it, though. He thinks I should call her mom. She's his mom, not mine. Mine passed away almost four years ago, it feels like I would be disrespectful to my own mom to call anyone else mom.

I call his grandfather pop, just because I've never heard him called anything different.

victoria+james · February 2013

First names. DH is closer to my family than we are to his and he calls my parents by their first names as well.

lorirachel · February 2013

I usually dont even call them anything, but if I had to it would be their names.

my mom always called my grandparents mom and dad, but I think it's more old fashioned

FSUNole31 · February 2013

First names, but now I call them gram and "coach" the name FIL insists his grand kids call him....

HeyBrittany04 · February 2013

Mom and Dad.

I'm pretty close to DHs mom, so it's not too weird. But I don't have a dad long story ugh and DHs dad has pretty much taken that spot so it seems natural. And the fact that it would be SUPER weird to call him by his first name. DH and his father have the same name. So the first few times I referred to DHs dad by first name, it was super awkward cause I was thinking of DH. Lol

kamirault7 · February 2013

anamouse:
I call them by their first names.

Same.

Crammerama · February 2013

Mostly I call them by their first names but occasionally I do say ma or pa, depending on the situation.
I have a hard time calling my MIL by her nickname...even though everyone else uses it.

modernfairytale8709 · February 2013

I call them by their first names, but they address themselves to me as Mom and Dad.

rockopera · February 2013

First names only. Although, MIL signs things "Luv, Mom" - even when they are only to me (emails, texts). It irritates me.

Cindal · February 2013

I don't really feel comfortable addressing them at all which I know is super weird after all this time, so I usually just wait til there's a pause in the conversation to get any one's attention. When I'm talking to other people I usually reference them with their first names or by saying DH's mom and dad.

I've always had this problem I don't think in all my years ever growing up did I address any of my friends parents at all other than "um hey, or umm excuse me, or the extremely rare Mrs/Mr last name)

ChristyML · February 2013

I also call them by their first names. It would be weird for me to call his dad "Dad" since mine passed away almost 8 years ago.

As a side note though, I call all of his grandparents "Grandma" or "Grandpa" as I feel it is more respectful.

FurrSure · February 2013

I call MIL by her first name and FIL "Pops" because that's what everyone in our family calls him. MH isn't close with his mother, so there's no reason for me to call her mom.

GermanGirl2007 · February 2013

I called my MIL by her first name. I totally think it is weird to call SO's parents "mom" or "dad." It makes me feel like calling IL's mom and dad is equating DH to being my brother. Eeew.

aliwisewoman · February 2013

I alternate too. MIL has 2 sons and my SIL despises my MIL, so I get to be "the daughter she never had". LOL. She calls herself mama....I don't take it that far. LOL If I want to be a little extra sentimental I will say mom. Or call her Nonna (like grandma). In most social situations, I call them by their names.

mamabird8 · February 2013

I call them by their names or Grandpa and Mimi

doodiebug18 · February 2013

I call them by their first names also

twohunts · February 2013

First names. But my MIL and my FIL's wife aka: DH's step mom both have the same first name. MIL's last name is hyphenated with her old last name so it's easy to accidentally text one when I mean to text the other. Wouldn't be such a big deal, but I have totally different relationships with each of them.

nstark2908 · February 2013

I call them by their first names, but DH calls my parents mom and dad.

MrsM507 · February 2013

First names... but I'm rarely in a situation where I need to call them by name. It's usually more "your mom/dad" in conversations with dh.

amberpro · February 2013

First names. I call FIL by his first name to his face, and that assho!e all other times I need to refer to him.

nyg2042 · February 2013

I was just talking about this with my mom the other day. My ILs sent me flowers and signed the card "mom and dad." I normally refer to them as mr. and mrs. "Last name" because I've known them since I was 18. However, I don't really call them by name in conversation.

herecomesthesun · February 2013

I call them mom and dad. My parents and his parents do the same with their respective in-laws so it just what our families do. I will admit, it was hard for me at first, not because we're not close but just because it was a change.

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