Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Babies' weights
DD1 was 6lbs 11 oz, DD2 was 6lbs even.
I've heard from a lot of moms that their first was their smallest and each one got bigger, but I'm proof it's not always true
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
DD1 was 8lbs 6ozs at 41w1d
DD2 was 8lbs 10ozs at 40w1d
my read shelf:
Hmm, hope this isn't me when May rolls around! DS was 9 even.
#1 - 6lb 14oz (8 days overdue)
#2 - 9lb 1oz (5 days overdue)
I hope that trend doesn't continue at the same rate for #3!
DD1 7lbs 7oz (39w3d)
DD2 7lbs 14oz (39w4d)
I've also heard boys weigh more than girls usually but that might not be accurate.
Wasn't true for me.
#1-10lbs
#2- 7 1/2lbs
both born at 39 weeks, 5 days
My grandmother had 6 children--her largest was her 4th. Her second and third were smaller than her first.
DS: 8 lbs 8 oz (38w 6d)
DD: 8 lbs 13 oz (40w 4d)
DD1 was 8 lbs. 0 oz.
DD2 was 7 lbs. 6 oz.
Oldest - 6 lbs 10 oz (40 weeks 5 days)
Youngest - 6 lbs 12 oz (40 weeks 1 day)
My mom had 4 kids. Her boys (#2 & 4) were heavier then the girls, and I was the lighest at #3.
Daughter #1 - February 12, 2010
natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
DS 8lbs 8oz - 40 weeks exactly. I gained 50lbs over the pregnancy, and returned to 10lbs over pre-pregnancy weight (130lbs) in 4 months.
DD 5lbs 12 oz - 37w 5d. From the 130lb start, I gained just 12lbs this time. I?m told there is no corralation, but it sure is odd.
DS1 was 9lb 12oz - 5 days late - is still a big kid at 3 1/2
DS2 was 7lb 4oz - 39w5d - is still a small 2 1/2
DS3 was 8lb 4oz - 39w3d - is just now in 6-12mth clothes at almost 8mth old
DD2: 8 lb 9 oz (1 wk late, no issues)
DD2 7lb 14 oz 38 weeks
Eleanor 9.30.13
DS1 was 6 lbs 4 oz @ 36w4d
DS2 was 8 lbs 3 oz @ 39w1d
DD was 7 lb 2 oz at 37w
DS was 8 lb 12 oz at 40w2d
Logan - 11/09, Lander 08/11, Baby #3 ~It's a girl!!~ EDD: 04/10/14
DS 7lbs8oz at 38w5d
DD 5lbs6oz at 36w
DD1 - 7lbs 13oz at 39w5d
DD2 - 8lbs 5oz at 38w1d