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Compromises a MoM makes
So the infant car seat post below reminded me of all the goals I had before I had my twins. I was pretty ambitious:
BFing for 1 year (yes!)
Cloth diapers (quit after 3 weeks)
No TV before 2 years old (ha)
Make my own baby food (for the most part, yes)
Sign language (yes!)
I was surprised by the fact that most days, keeping my babies fed, rested and clean was an accomplishment in itself. I would be interested to hear what others planned to do and what they actually accomplished...
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Re: Compromises a MoM makes
That post had me thinking the same thing! Here were mine:
BF for 1 year - made it 14 months!
Make my own baby food - Hardly ever
Cloth diape - yes, starting at 4 months
No TV until 2 - My kids hand me the remote and chant "Meme" (Mickey Mouse)
SAHM Still going strong
Sign language - we know the basics
Overall I'm comfortable with the sacrifices I've had to make to deal with two. I'm proud of my boys and proud of myself.
I'm still early in this game, but I have a few so far:
EBF for 3 months - Nope. I pumped and they always got some formula from the start. I did make it 15 weeks though.
Make my own baby food - Ha. Nope. I make food for them, but no homemade purees.
Limited or no screen time - Yes, but I don't go out of my way to do this, it just happens. We don't have the TV on in the evenings when they are awake and although they show interested the iPad, I don't use it when I am around them. I have no delusions in thinking this will change as they get older.
I am in survival mode all over again right now. My H is gone each night until after their bedtime, so I am just getting through each night, one task at a time.
Boy/girl twins born at 37w1d and 37w2d
yep. a lot i had given up once i found out it was twins (hello babywearing, cosleeping, etc) but some we have kept
BFing (on demand) for 1 year (still going strong at 18 months
Cloth diapers (made it till they started solids at 6 months, then no way with the poop scraping)
No TV before 2 years old (yes, but only because DH feels strongly about this one, if it was just me I probably would have given in)
Sign language (they use 3 or 4 words which is great, not more)
No CIO (did it at 13 months and it was great. don't regret not doing it earlier though)
Going to mommy and me stuff all the time (ha!)
After having my first I had my goals for number 2. Well of course 2 became 2,3 &4 lol
BF for as long as wanted. I pumped for 2 months never got 2 to latch.
Bedshare still do sometime but not every night and only 1 at a time.
Cloth diaper from birth. Nope started at 3 months and have had to go back and forth.
Wear baby all the time. Nope I have and do when need but I do go with stroller most of the time.
Make own food. Nope did not have time or energy.
Love this post.
My goals:
BF to a year: nope. Made it 1.5 months. I work full-time and when I was only getting 4 ounces per pump, I chose sanity....
Make my own food: Nope. Didn't have the time/money/energy
No TV: Nope. Caved at about a year.
I did establish new goals.
Shower at least every other day: Most of the time!
Nap when they nap: Never.
Look Put together, ex washed hair, makeup, clean clothes: Um...most the time.
It's an adventure!!!
Olivia and Matilda, 09/10/201 - Graham, 10/01/2013
I think about this a lot. I'm so happy for my little guys, but I feel so bad they have to make sacrifices because there are two of them and one of me
. I'm only four months along, but here goes:
BF for a year: Still going-sort of. We had to supplement from day one due to SGA. We also had to use nipple shields due to poor latches and biting. They were horrible at transferring milk. All of that killed my supply. So, I nurse a couple of times/day (mostly for comfort) and pump to add to their formula. My supply is so miserable. THIS breaks my heart =(.
Make my own baby food: We will see...
No yoga/sweat pants/maternity clothes after six weeks: Hahahahahahah.
No TV during the day: Umm no. Mama needs her Today Show. I turn it off during playtime and naps, but they totally look at it while I'm warming bottles.
Lots of library story times, baby gym classes, etc./ Get out of the house several times per week: I haven't been out alone with them still.
Eat (warm) dinner with DH on most nights: Almost always.
Baby wear whenever I can: We did in the beginning, but they hate it now.
12dp5dt: 765; 15dp5dt: 1979; 17dp5dt: 3379...TWINS!!!!!
Our perfect baby boys were born at 36w1d!!
Vaginal delivery. Nope.
Ebf for 12 months. Four months and going strong!
Homemade baby food. Have some made but we're not doing solids yet.
Cribs by 2 months. Yes! They love their cribs!
Work out and lose the baby weight. Nope!
Return to work. Yes! After a 12 week maternity leave, and I love going to work!
I should mention my most important goal... Keeping babies fed, diapered and clothed every day... I have accomplished this so far! Haha.
Vaginal Delivery...yup but it ended with forceps...ouch!
EBF for a year...nope, made it 3 months with a combo of pumping, formula and BFing
Make all food- Yup for the most part
Read to them every day..yup my boys choose looking at books over toys!
No tv...didn't really think about this one but Baby Einstein is my best friend some days
Get out (specifically to mom groups) - I have no trouble taking the boys anywhere but I HATE messing with their routine, being out with 2 babies who should be home napping is no fun...so its sad but I miss out on a lot of mom groups just because my boys like their sleep so much (i know, i know poor me haha)
In Cribs at 3 months - yes, and haven't looked back!
I'm super new to the game, but have a few, esp. pregnancy/delivery-wise...
Med-free vaginal delivery: Needed a C/S
Make it to January: Was 5 days away!! At least we got the tax deduction lol
Not gain a "ton" of weight (not that I was restricting calories during pregnancy!): Gained 50 lbs, but almost all the weight is gone already so no biggie
Have everything ready by 30 weeks: DH may or may not have been installing carseat bases during the few hours between hearing the babies were coming that day and returning to the hospital for my C/S....whoops. Also the basics of the nursery are all there, but I still have a lot I want to do decorating-wise. Oh well....LOs don't care.
EBF: That goal was shot in the hospital as LOs were given Neosure from the start, and we're still supplementing. :-/ But they took to BFing no problem and now receive about 90% breastmilk so I mostly made that goal.
Send out birth announcements by the time they're one month old: Yup haven't done that yet....this weekend's goal!
Solo the night feedings so DH could sleep: ROFL
So true! It's about survival.
Med-free vaginal delivery: Did get an epi but delivered both vaginally.
Make it to full-term: thankfully yes; scheduled induction at 37w6d
Skin to skin right away with each baby as soon as they were born: Yes
BFing for 6 months (My goal was 6 months; my MS specialist's recommendation was 1 month. I made it 1 month then had to go back on my MS drug.)
Cloth diapers (didn't work because of our well/septic system)
No TV before 2 years old (ha)
Make my own baby food (nope)
Sign language (a little but they didn't really catch on and once they did start talking at 15m, their vocabularies grew rapidly so I didn't bother with sign)