Frustrated with my "weight watchers"

kbeamer25 · February 2013

Well I am nearing the end of my pregnancy with only 8 weeks to go and I couldn't be more pleased with how this experience has transpired! In the beginning of my pregnancy, I wasn't meeting my weight- I was doing everytyhing my doctor told me to do- taking my prenatals everyday, never skipping meals, but baby was just taking a lot of my consumption. I've always had high matabolism and I've always been very thin. Anyway, after 3 months I finally met my target weight and since then, my doctor says my weight is perfect every visit! Here is my issue: When I had my DD she was 5 days early and was 5lbs. 14 oz. I haven't had any health or weight issues with her throughout her childhood (knock on wood) aside from the occasional cold and ear infections and she is now 8 years old. I carried and gained relatively the same way with her as I currently am with baby. What's frustrating me is my fiance's parents and relatives are constantly making comments about their concerns with me delivering a small baby since my doctor predicts she probably will be around or a little over 6lbs because I'm so petite. My doctor isn't worried though, he says my weight is perfect and he's just going to keep monitoring baby but I'm doing everything I'm suppose to be doing. I understand their concern and I appreciate it, however, I can't help but feel like the repetitiveness of their comments are getting a bit condenscending now. I just try to change the subject because I don't want to be rude and if my doctor is giving me the OK then I think I'm fine. Has anyone gone through the same situation with having a smaller baby due to your size? Any advice?

MarSamWhitney · February 2013

I had a five pound two oz baby and she is just fine. Possibly you could tell your inlaws or anyone who asks, that your doctor is not worried, so they shouldnt be. Its not like you are sitting there chugging vodka and smoking like a fiend. Tell them to mind their own business.

Littlejen22 · February 2013

If you have point blank told them your doctor is happy with your weight gain and said the baby looks great then I would tell them this discussion is off limits. And tell your DH you need him to tell them to back the F off if it happens again because you do not need this ridiculous.

And no critism I promise but curious, how much have you gained?

hopanka · February 2013

If you are petite, your kids may be petite.....hello, genetics! Not sure what your inlaws dont understand. Congrats btw!

danac2010 · February 2013

I'm a bigger girl that had complications during my pregnancy. Early in my pregnancy I was told to except a big baby, 8.5-10 lbs. I delivered a healthy 6.8 lbs baby girl and she lost a lot of weight before we left the hospital. She was down to 5.6. She is still a little petite at a year. She gained exactly 12 lbs from birth to her first birthday.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with delivering a smaller baby. If your doctor isn't concerned I would tell you H to please ask his family to stop with the comments or you will no longer be going around them until after the baby is born. My dad was 3 months early and weighed just over 2 lbs, and this was 60 years ago and he turned out to be fine. I would just ignore their comments and like I said, have your H tell them to stop and if they don't just stop speaking with them until after the baby is born.

FutureMrsWittig · February 2013

Your H needs to talk to his family. He needs to tell them that conversations about your weight are not allowed, that he will let them know if the doctor expresses concern. You don't need this. Feel free to tell them that if they bring it up again. "Thank you for loving me, but I don't need to stress about my weight right now."

kbeamer25 · February 2013

Littlejen22:
If you have point blank told them your doctor is happy with your weight gain and said the baby looks great then I would tell them this discussion is off limits. And tell your DH you need him to tell them to back the F off if it happens again because you do not need this ridiculous. And no critism I promise but curious, how much have you gained?

Thank you!!! That's exactly what I was thinking. No criticism taken- I weighed 110 when I was 6 weeks pregnant, at my last doctor's appt on Wednesday I weighed in at 137. My doctor said the same thing you did, it's genetics!

kbeamer25 · February 2013

Thank you for your response ladies! I appreciate it and I am relieved to hear there are others who have been in the same boat with delivering smaller little ones who are still healthy. My H doesn chime in and take my back when comments are made, however, I think I will take your advice and still ask him to talk with them so this becomes a mute subject.

We only have 2 more months to go and I refuse to spend them defending myself!

happywife2b · February 2013

What do they think? That you are sucking down cigarettes and cocaine?? Goodness! Being petite often means having a size-proportionate baby. Since your doctor isn't worried , and they are annoying, consider not even entertaining the subject when brought up.

karatechrissy · February 2013

Both of mine were just over 6 lbs. No one was ever concerned for them. Ever. Not their pedi, not my dr. no one. IDK why your family seems to think this isn't normal? Plenty of people have babies in the 5-6 lb range and they are fine. I would ignore the family, change the subject if you can, or just leave the conversation if they won't leave it alone. That is rude and it just sounds like they are trying to scare you for some reason.

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