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tryston123tryston123 member
in May 2012 Moms
So I had a chem. pregnancy about two months ago, and now that we are no longer breast feeding my heart aches more and more to be pregnant again... I have beautiful dreams of feeling the baby move for the first time and labor lol stuff like that... But I am also conflicted my DD can be quite the handful but she can also be really easy and that is my problem. I know I want another baby but then again am I just missing that sweet innocent dependency from her when she was so helpless and small... Urg I need some advice or support idk my DH gets upset because I can't make up my mind honestly he dose not mind either way so he is just like waiting on me I guess... Will this pass? Or will I feel like I have a huge hole in my heart untill I have another?
   EDD for #2 is December 8th, 2013, so excited for our 2nd team green baby! 
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  • selockarselockar member

    I really love the newborn stage. With DS1 I started wanting another around this time. For health reasons, money, and sanity I knew that was a bad idea. I knew I would have more kids the timing was just bad. The feeling passed, until he was 2 and then we started trying again. It was the right time for us. I wasn't ready to do 2u2. I have the bug again now. Again it's not the right time. We are moving next year and we don't know what kind of job offer he will get. I'm sure the feeling will pass the further I get from the newborn stage. I do plan on having more. I just want to timing to be better. Hope that helps a little.

     

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  • bellelambbellelamb member
    2u2 is REALLY HARD!! Being pregnant with a toddler is really hard, having all day sickness and not being able to sit still and having to get up and fed, play with, fight with and carry around a toddler is really hard. Being 8 or 9 months pregnant and having to carry around a toddler deal with tantrums and the like is really hard ! Going on three straight years of being pregnant or bfing is REALLY hard my emotions have been ruled by hormones for so long I don't remember what being me feels like. Having an infant who is up all night and a toddler who is up all day means no naps when baby naps is hard! Not to mention my toddler had to grow up faster and my lo is growing up faster than if I had time to baby them.

    I'm not saying some people don't love 2u2 but these are some things to think about. Not to mention two rear facing carseats, a double stroller, no room for groceries in a shopping cart, two sets of diapers, and so little free time!

    My boys are 18 months apart, I love them both so much but I feel like I'm not a great mom to either of them because I'm constantly being pulled in two directions.
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  • NatPhoto09NatPhoto09 member
    I could not imagine being pregnant or thinking of another baby when ds1 was less than 1.5 years. For us a 3 year gap has been awesome. Ds1 is more independent and not as needy as a toddler. And I'm really enjoying Lucas as a baby.

    I'm sorry that you are feeling so conflicted. Enjoy your little one now because they will be all grown before you know it. Hopefully your 2nd will come at the perfect time.
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  • tryston123tryston123 member
    Thank you all so much that dose help thinking of tantrums lol and I do want to baby her for as long as possible... I can wait I know it is obviously not meant to be right now....
       EDD for #2 is December 8th, 2013, so excited for our 2nd team green baby! 
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  • hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member

    I am so sorry for your loss, first of all.

    Secondly, one thing I think about, is won't some people (especially those who love babies) ALWAYS have the hankering for another?  Then, at some point, you just have to draw the line where it makes sense emotionally, physically, financially, etc?

    For me, for example, I get the hankering to have a second, but DH and I are so thrilled with DD, we are comfortable now financially, and we feel we are giving all of the love we have at the moment.  I don't know if we will ever have enough resources (emotionally and financially) to have two.  

    Then, if we had 2, would I get the hankering for a little, helpless nugget in footie pajamas when the 2nd got older?  Will that hole always be there and at some point one just has to be logical?

     

     

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