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i am scared!!!

bundleoluv11bundleoluv11 member
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As I count the days and read everyone's TTC updates I get scared I mean I been pregnant before so you would think that this shouldn't be an problem but it is. This is my second iui and the first eneded in a miscarriage in the first 10 weeks. So, I am afraid that it could happen again or I wont get pregnant for awhile. I am ready for this journey but, I am afraid of failure.
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Re: i am scared!!!

  • AmandaG47AmandaG47 member
    I'm very sorry about your loss and being scared. I feel similarly to you. We got pregnant on our very first try but miscarried at just under 10 weeks last month. We are already in the process of ttc again and although I'm excited, I'm very scared. I figure no one has first time luck twice in a row, and it's hard not knowing when we will be pregnant again. And of course, scared if it will make it when we do. Personally I find looking at the pregnant after a loss board helpful sometimes the TTC after loss just makes me more nervous!. Also, I try to think about when we finally DO get our take home baby, I'm sure I will think I couldn't imagine any other baby for our family. So this is all a part of the journey towards that tiny special person we will someday meet :
    My name is A, I am wife to J.  After 7 months of ttc and one MC, we are expecting two baby girls in 2014!


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  • bundleoluv11bundleoluv11 member
    Thank you so much for those words and I am sorry for your loss and I just want this be smooth as possible . But, I know on this journey it will have its ups
    Downs. So I'm staying busy and countdown the days until do my iui and
    Then the pressure will be on during my 2 weeks of not knowing. But, I have great support system and you all are my support system . So going to the gym and working will be my stress relieve. Lol who would of thought that work would be a stress relieve!!!
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  • firstcomeslove2013firstcomeslove2013 member
    TTC is such a scary time for so many. Remember we are here to help each other and support each other. We are here if you need support!

    Queer coupled and having a BABY with the love of my life! Love my life and wouldn't have it any other way!
    First IUI 1/22/2013 BFN: 2/7/2013, Second IUI 2/21/2013 BFN: 3/9/2013, Third IUI 4/23/2013 BFN: 5/8/2013, Fourth IUI 5/24/2013 BFN: 6/7/2013, Fifth IUI 6/24/2013 BFN: 7/8/2013

    C began IUI's
    7/23/2013 C's first IUI BFN, 8/21/2013 C's second IUI BFN , Took a break in September and October, 11/05/2013 C's 3rd IUI (TWW...we meet again...) BFN, Took off the month to switch to an RE. 01/01/2014 C's 4th IUI...BFP!!!!!!!! Beta #1- 17, Beta #2- 34, Beta #3-140....  6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014

    03/21/2014 IUI #10...BFP!!! Beta #1- 48, Beta #2- 416, Beta #3- 1018. GROW BABY GROW!!!

    1st Ultrasound 4/22/2014 Baby Squints is PERFECT! Measuring at 6w2d with a heartbeat of 129. EDD: 12/12/14.

    Ultrasound at 18 weeks on 7/14/2014. Baby is healthy and growing just as she should!

     

    Check out my blog at: http://journeytoparenthoodandmakingmilk.blogspot.com/

     

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  • mollykelleymollykelley member
    TTC can be scary and you are not alone. I'm hoping that my miscarriage was a one time thing and doc can't detect any threat for repeat miscarriages. It's easy to forget how truly common it is, and that knowledge doesn't make it any easier when it is happening to you. I'm about to do partner IVF with my wife and I'm scared out of my mind. I'm just taking the next step as it comes and remembering to always breathe!
    M&K met 8/2002 married 6/2012
    TTC with RE since March 2012
    3 missed O's, 6 IUIs = 1 BFP then 8 w M/C, 5 BFNs
    (2 unmedicated IUIs, 2 clomid IUI, 2 femara IUI)
    Shared maternity/partner IVF, transfer #1 BFP!
    EDD 11/28/13
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  • jenheartsmonstersjenheartsmonsters

    We're scared, too. My partner had a missed miscarriage this summer, and we are at almost 18 weeks now. We try to take it day by day. We make sure to talk about what makes us anxious, what we fear. Then we give each other reality checks.

    Miscarriage is not failure. There are things over which we don't have control.  

    I'm sorry for your loss, and I will be sending Lovingkindness your way.  <3

     

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  • bundleoluv11bundleoluv11 member
    Thank you so much for those kind and encouraging words!!! I love this group it makes feel like home. But, I will need
    Lots of support in this its been two years since the miscarriage so I am praying everything goes well.
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