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November 2011 Moms
Jenny952
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NBR: family wedding drama
Jenny952
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Ugh, I don't know why I'm even posting this but I'm frustrated and need to vent. My brother is getting married this fall to a really nice, sweet girl. She's been great and the whole family loves her, so I feel bad even being annoyed and it's stupid wedding drama.
They both have 4 siblings - 2 brothers and 2 sisters. My brother asked my other 2 bros to be his best men. She asked her sisters to be her maids of honor. Then they both asked friends and some cousins. The sticky part is that her 2 brothers are in, but neither me or my sister are. Now I really don't care... I'm in my mid-30s and have been in my fair share of weddings. DD, who will be almsot 2, is the flower girl, so I'll be busy enough. But I feel really badly for my sister, who is 20 and in college and probably really wanted to be in it. And I think her feelings are hurt. It's just kind of weird that her brothers made the cut but my sister didn't, especially when they have like 7 or 8 attendants. Like I said, it's stupid and petty. None of would ever say anything (though my mom wants so badly to scold my brother, lol). Why are family weddings so dramatic?
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Re: NBR: family wedding drama
LOL - I agree about family wedding drama! Been there!
Wait, her brothers are groomsmen to your brother or are in the wedding in another capacity? That would be a little weird if they were in the wedding party and not you and your sister (IMO). But maybe the bride doesn't feel close (or close enough) to you and your sister? Or felt that she would have to ask both of you and didn't want 2 more people on the brides side (or invite 2 more for the groom to even it?).
Who knows. Maybe you could hint at your brother that your sister could get assigned some other "meaningful" task or role in the wedding?
But it does seem like all the other siblings are included (even you if you count your "supporting" role for your DD) and not your sister. I can see why she'd be hurt.
Wtf. I so didn't care about being in wedding party. It's going to be so so crazy. There are two weddings hindu and cathloic and like 6 events total.
My son is the ring bearer, and now I am a bridesmaid. Ugh. 250 down the hole in a dress I will never ever wear again as I think it's ugly. Plus shoes, jewlery And all the other nonsense that goes with it.
Maybe something should be said to your brother. I know there's a lot of drama, but this is big. Your sister (and maybe even you) will still think about it for years to come. It should at the very least be addressed by the bride as to why she didn't ask you and your sister to be in it. She just might think that neither of you want to be in the wedding, so she never asked.
Good Luck, and I hope it's a happy wedding day (for everyone)!
Maybe she thought you and your sister wouldn't want the added bother and expense of being in the wedding party? It's funny how things like this are....Some people could not care less about being in a wedding party (would be okay either way), some would prefer to NOT be asked, and some would be genuinely hurt if left out.
My brothers were in our wedding party. But if either of my brothers got married right now, I would feel incredibly awkward being asked to be in the wedding party. (One of the GFs I've met once and honestly don't like that much and the other I haven't met.) So.....I guess even if all the other siblings were involved, I wouldn't feel left out, but that's just me - but I prefer to be more behind-the-scenes in general. (On the flip side, I do think it would be a nice gesture if either of the brides asked me to be in the wedding party as a nice show, but honestly, I'd prefer they didn't. Ah, so complicated!)