Need some thoughts from you if you don't mind. Most of my husband's family lives out of state. I'm having a baby shower in March and while I'd of course love for them to come I don't expect them to drive 12 hours for a shower.
So my question is, should I send them an invite? It seems like the obvious answer is yes but I don't want to make them feel obligated to attend or like I am expecting a gift even though I know they can't make it.
Thoughts?
Re: Invites for out of town guests
Yeah, that is what I'm wondering, too. I think I'm overthinking it. I just didn't want anyone to feel left out but maybe no one cares, haha.
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I mean, maybe I'm just a judgmental person (totally a possibilty there), but yeah, when it's obvious I wouldn't be able to go, unless it's for a big thing like a wedding, I often wonder, "why send an invite?"
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Thanks. This is a pretty small event and all 4 of my friends (kidding... kind of) are local. Only DH's family is out of state so I didn't want to be a jerkface.
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Yeah, exactly. Thanks! My sister is hosting this and she was asking about the invites... and I had no idea what to tell her.
Ha, thanks!
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Thanks! The great thing about my ILs is that they are very direct and don't tend to get their feelings hurt but it's always the one thing you don't expect...
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That makes sense. I forget to send any kind of anything (I did manage wedding invitations, wonder of wonders) but an announcement when LO gets here is a good idea anyway. That's a little weird that your cousin sent you the invite... for her birthday... at 40... which she is throwing herself.
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Yeah, I like letting the ILs give their input on these things, just makes it easier on me. I will say that if my hostesses wanted to keep the party small I would only feel obligated to invite MIL. So that's another possibility as well!
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My MIL and SIL live just down the road from each other. My other SIL lives near me so then it would be everyone but the one SIL. I'm going to talk to my MIL to make sure everyone is copasetic but I think just sending it to my MIL is okay if she wants to come.
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It's really just his sister and mom - the rest of his family is so far away that I would feel rude sending them an invite bc I know full-well they can't make it. Thanks for the thoughts! I'll check with my MIL. I might just save a couple of invites if they want one for any reason and give it to them when they are visiting next.
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We decided locals only with a few exceptions. I have several friends who I think might want to make the 2-3 hour drive (Philadelphia to DC) or who we have a complicated relationship with and it would strain it to not invite them. We also have one friend in New York who we knew would not be able to come, but felt like it would not be right to not invite her for various reasons. As far as my dad's family in New York and my husband's extended family in Philadelphia, we decided we were not going to invite them and then they would be invited to come down for the bris after the baby is born.
So I think you're okay to not invite people because of the distance but you should be aware of the relationships in making those determinations. If it is a very good friend, sister, etc, who would be hurt if left out, send the invitation. If it is the one cousin who is not local and all the others are getting one, send it. Otherwise, you're fine not to.
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I agree. Moms, MILs, sisters/SIL of you or DH should get invites no matter their location as they will be immediate family of the baby. Otherwise, ask MIL if someone like her sister, etc. would be offended.
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